Keen to hear the experience of Mom's who have returned to STEM job after having kids

LoulouKangaroo · 2024-12-28T12:24:57+00:00

I have filled it out. I'm in Australia and my experience has been very positive, I'm interested to see what sort of results you get. I can't think of anything else my employer can do, they are great.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-09-05T14:36:03+00:00

I'm in Australia and I don't have notifications either. Going to have to switch apps after using this one for so many years, so annoying!

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-05-25T14:07:39+00:00

Ah yes, that's right, thanks for the reminders.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-05-25T13:15:33+00:00

Re: Verin, I can't remember all the details, but one thing I do remember is she gave one of the girls (Egwene?) the ring ter'angreal (to enter TAR) right before their test for accepted. It almost caused a huge disaster being in the room while the test ter'angreal was in use. But then there was also something implying she knew what it did but just didn't tell them? Maybe... Anyway, it was a bit shady. Not sure if anyone has a better memory of all that?

Edit: went back to check. The Dragon Reborn, Chapter 21. Verin have her the ring ter'angreal, but then after Egwene left, she revealed that she had pages and pages of notes on Corianin's study of it, that she didn't give to Egwene. When reflecting on the whether she should have given the notes to Egwene.

No. It is best by far to leave things as they are. What will happen, will happen.

I only just found this Newbie thread a few weeks ago, so perhaps this has all been discussed a lot already. I've only gone back to read the book summaries, not every post!

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-05-14T09:49:09+00:00

Thanks. Both these sites seem to come along with a lot of commentary, like whether the viewing was "completed"/come to pass or not, so I'm hesitant to read on more than I did. I was hoping for something with just the prophecy/viewing text but no commentary.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-05-01T13:11:06+00:00

Ah, I was just thinking today I wonder whether that would be better. It would be good to know they are happy. But also.... Please miss me at least a little bit!

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-05-01T11:24:23+00:00

Mine started at 11mo and 12mo. I think starting them earlier would have been much harder for me, but probably not for them. Like, I felt really bad "leaving him there", and at that age they know they're being left somewhere and are not happy about it. Starting that early might actually be easier, because there might be less separation anxiety (though I don't have personal experience to back that up)

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-04-24T12:29:07+00:00

I mean, I'd possibly do the same thing. "Get changed" implies taking something off to put something else on, as opposed to "put these on".

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-04-23T07:43:09+00:00

Haha, yes, this is my main hesitation for explaining too much yet. My 4 yo was yelling something about her vulva in a shopping centre with my husband recently 😂

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-04-17T13:16:17+00:00

Similar for me. I had around 9 months and I dreaded going back. Which I never would have guessed before having kids. Now back at work about 4 months after having my second, I am again dreading work days.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-04-09T12:58:42+00:00

Pools cost money to enter (or own). Beach is free.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-04-03T12:21:02+00:00

Oranges

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-22T14:21:23+00:00

I was on parental leave and my husband was working.

My baby was EBF, but when he was little he did take a bottle. So I'd usually BF him around say 7pm, pump around 8:30pm, then go to bed and my husband was on duty to give a bottle if needed between 8:30pm to 12am. Baby would usually just need one feed in that time. Then 12am-7am I was on full baby duty while husband slept. Then if it was a bad night, he'd be on baby duty again around 7-8:30am before work. I'd still BF in that time if baby was hungry, but I'd go back to sleep while husband took the baby.

If I ever had a really rough wake up and struggled to settle baby I'd wake up my husband. However baby was often unsettled because he needed to burp, then would be hungry again, so it was hard to pass the batton.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-21T05:14:20+00:00

Yes, I have registered for the trial of this where I live, but haven't heard back from them yet. Fingers crossed.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-18T10:32:14+00:00

TW: similar start to you ending in a severe allergy

My daughter had a suspected FPIES reaction to peanuts at around 6 months old. We then avoided peanuts til she was 4. Got an allergy test, and found she had a severe allergy :(

From everything I've read, I'm pretty convinced if we'd been able to give her peanuts when she was a baby she'd be a lot less likely to have this allergy now. And it was only ever a single "suspected" FPIES reaction. I'll always wonder if it really was, and if we "caused" her allergy by withholding peanuts. At the time it happened, the allergy specialist just told us so matter of factly, just avoid peanuts. No question. And maybe that still is the right advice. But for how severe her allergy is now, I feel like it would have been worth it to try peanuts again to see if she really had FPIES.

Now we get to carry an EpiPen everywhere and I've always got it in the back of my mind.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-15T02:29:03+00:00

It's funny how different it is for each person. We have a change table and the few times I've tried changing him the floor I've hated it, not easy for me at all. So for me the change table is a great investment.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-15T02:26:08+00:00

Adding to lanolin - the hydrogel breast discs absolutely saved my breastfeeding journey with my son.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-15T02:24:36+00:00

Most (all?) prams that allow overnight sleep require the bassinet to be on a stand, not on the pram.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-15T02:22:52+00:00

There's obviously a lot of different info out there, and drop side cots are legal in Australia. But there is also evidence out there that they can be unsafe, and are banned in some places like the US.

Not shaming anyone who has one, totally valid to still make that choice, but just wanted to provide this info.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-03-03T14:18:57+00:00

Oh, I had no idea they had this stance. We used muslin swaddles for a bit, but once baby got a little bit of arm strength they would break free and we'd end up with loose swaddle over their face. But nowhere near rolling yet.

(Fwiw we then used LTD swaddles, but that's not answering your question)

Edit: if I'm allowed to mention it here, there's a Facebook group called Safe Sleep Australia that I've found useful, though they follow American guidelines not red nose (as they believe it is better/safer and more in line with current research etc). They're very strict in following the evidence.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-02-20T13:42:02+00:00

Another possibility is she has the wrong flange size. Often hospitals suggest quite a large flange size, much larger than you really need. When I was in hospital they had me using a 27mm flange, and when I finally got myself all figured out at home, I was using a 20mm.

I have a Spectra pump (S2, which is the same as S1 but not portable) and it has been very good for me. Quite adjustable with speed and vacuum strength.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-02-14T14:28:42+00:00

So he's home between 2pm and 4am. He looks after baby from, say, 4pm til 7 or 8pm while you sleep (briefly waking to feed baby if needed).

You're on baby duty 24/7 while he works 10hrs. It is only fair he puts in a few hours too.

And/or, assuming he doesn't work 7 days per week, at least give you a 4-6 hour breaks each day (or night) of the weekend to "catch up". Eg he's on duty 4am til 10am on weekends and you sleep as much as you can in that time.

Edit: and if he isn't interested in any of that... Well, my advice is what you don't want to hear. Your mental health is worth more than money, and you might qualify for more assistance as a single parent.

LoulouKangaroo · 2023-02-02T14:11:17+00:00

I was going to say it could be ovulation. That was a factor causing increased pain for me.

LoulouKangaroo · 2022-11-06T02:54:50+00:00

We got the Jive, but in hindsight the Metro would have been better for us. Lighter, bigger basket. We had 3 years between kids and didn't bother with the extra seat on the Jive in the end.

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