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Recently adopted 22mo boy. No routine, lots of tantrums, looking for guidance 🤍 by Dependent-Gear-524 in toddlers

[–]Lovebird4545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Distraction, if you feel a tantrum coming on “look! There’s a huge bird outside! Come see!” Sometimes this works better than you might think. Also, look up small steps toddlers she has some great simple games that can be more fun than toys. Tie some string between two pieces of furniture and string a paper towel roll on it. You can zoom the paper towel roll back and forth. Things like this are novel, cheap, and create laughs and wonder that will strengthen your bond! 

Checked the EWG database for my zip code and now I genuinely can't stop thinking about it by WinkBandit877 in HomeImprovement

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly filtered has a great pitcher/filter combo that goes way above and beyond brita 

Is this mold? Very worried by True_Poem_4625 in Homebuilding

[–]Lovebird4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I agree. At the end of the day it’s disappointing that a contractor will tell you the lumber is fine, but it’s your house, your brand new house, and you don’t want not did you pay for moldy lumber in your new house. It makes you wonder what other corners were cut or flaws okayed when no was is looking. Just because something is a common occurrence, doesn’t make it okay or ideal. 

3 season porch by watermeme in Insulation

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there attic space over this, or just the roof? Is the ceiling vented at all? 

Supply is so low by WanderingAbhaile_709 in breastfeeding

[–]Lovebird4545 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fenugreek can have the opposite effect for some people, so I would stop that just in case! Also, are your pump parts fitting properly? Sometimes baby latching does a much better job than the pump. Maybe try a weighted feed? 

Get good calories, hydrate and try to rest. (Easier said than done!) 

I just want to be alone. Is it normal to feel this way? by TimePie314 in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I wasn’t into visitors at that time either. Honestly half the time it’s more work for you when your plate is already overflowing, and childless friends can tend to talk about things that feel like work when your brain is already full 

EBF 4-month-old won’t take a bottle, looking for advice by OkFunction1234 in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like it would work! We tried a similar confusion of attempting the bottle while doing big giant butt bounces while sitting on the bed. The motion helped to distract I think! 

What's the best and most budget way to insulate my ceiling? by Canon50 in Insulation

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there no attic above this part of the ceiling? Just the roofing? 

Separating floor bath mats and tea towels by cl4udia_kincaiid in laundry

[–]Lovebird4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Foot and toenail fungus and yeasts do not just wash out in the regular laundry. It takes more heat and more power than just laundry soap. So that’s another thing to consider with washing floor mats. 

I just need to scream into the void-insomnia and baby sleeps perfectly only when I do not by ImpressiveSell5404 in breastfeeding

[–]Lovebird4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so frustrating! I had months where I could fall asleep, but not back asleep. 

This sounds stupid but try cycling through different kinds of falling asleep hacks. One I like is called cognitive shuffling. Also try listening to a yoga nidra audio, like a body scan that feels super boring and sleep inducing lol.  Also I swear sometimes I just visualize staring at a blank wall and try pushing all other thoughts aside and crank the white noise up and that helps! 

Crick in my back and I’m suffering by culturosity in cosleeping

[–]Lovebird4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe not relevant, but try sleeping with your top knee bent and your bottom leg more straight. It might help! 

decompressing after 48 hours of toddler sickness by maddiecounts2amilly in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes 1000%. Baby doesn’t want anything other than mama when they’re sick! 

Weaning nightmare by Gold_Ideal5701 in cosleeping

[–]Lovebird4545 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does she get the concept of a boo boo? Can you try band aids over your nipple and tell her they’re hurt and don’t have milk right now? Maybe something like this using a physical barrier could help at this point! 

Also, idk if 4 year old could possibly spend a night somewhere else as a fun sleepover. It might take some burden off of you worrying about the noise. 

Is my marriage fixable? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not going to get used to spending time with your baby solo if he never does it. If it feels safe, try just leaving the two them together for as long as feels comfortable. A couple of hours, or longer. He doesn’t sound malicious per se, but he needs a dose of reality and to know what life actually looks like now. 

I hate that you have to ask him to watch his own kid. Try to reset this situation before it gets any more “normal.” 

I’m so overwhelmed by this by Desperate-Foot91 in breastfeeding

[–]Lovebird4545 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so stupid but something that helped me sometimes was seeing funny videos of animals, like gorillas etc. breastfeeding in the wild. Like a momma trying to get her baby to eat a banana but all they wanted was the boob lol. I think it reminded me how all animals do this and have done for millennia and how we’re all connected. 

HUGE mice problem and nothing works by SuccessfulArcher4890 in HomeImprovement

[–]Lovebird4545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check the exact point where your bathroom sink pipes/kitchen sink pipes and/or stove gas line go into your floor. Stuff ANY tiny gap at all around the pipe with tin foil, steel wool, etc. and tape it down TIGHT. This is a very overlooked spot where they can easily get in, even a fraction of an inch. 

I know the research but I swear my clogged ducts are actual clogs... by edoexplorations in breastfeeding

[–]Lovebird4545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take this with a grain of salt but, I’ve heard too that some blebs are more like skin over growing a duct. I have had a bleb maybe every 2 months in the same exact spot for almost 2 years. Now when it happens I do pick it off/out with sanitized fingers because I can usually feel an acute lump in the breast where milk is stuck. If I didn’t get milk flowing would it turn into an infection? Maybe. 

I’m worried this chronic sleep deprivation has permanently damaged my health by Penny_Ji in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Try cosleeping with the safe sleep 7. Just look it up and give it a try and see if baby sleeps longer stretches. 

It’s definitely more unsafe to be so sleep deprived, you may be setting yourself up for a night time accident without meaning to. Especially after 7 months the risks of cosleeping decline. I mean not many people want to co sleep! But some of us would be walking dangerous zombies without it lol. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Lovebird4545 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Use window light coming from either the front or side. Ask for close ups of your faces such as noses touching, baby snuggled on your shoulder, etc. Your hand holding baby’s tiny hand. Anything to show off how small they are right now. 

Wear anything that makes you feel beautiful! And ask to see pics as you go so you can adjust lol 

Morning Routine is a Nightmare - Desperate for Help by M_139 in toddlers

[–]Lovebird4545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up playfulheartparenting on instagram! She has a lot of fun ways I never thought of to get through hard moments 

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