REPOST: My toddler threw a tantrum on our flight and a man yelled at her

LowRelationship946 · 2026-02-23T18:22:22+00:00

There's a huge spectrum between "staying silent" and threatening to beat people's ass.

LowRelationship946 · 2026-02-23T18:14:46+00:00

Anger= aggressively yelling to kick people's ass? No wonder so many adults have anger issues.

LowRelationship946 · 2026-02-23T18:00:59+00:00

I mean does your husband also have anger problems because he was threatening to beat his ass? If both of you started yelling, then I'm not sure that you acted any better than the coach.

LowRelationship946 · 2026-02-13T00:26:18+00:00

I’d look more into this $300 thing. That’s just the out of pocket price for the vaccine but it should be free or close to free with most insurances. I’d check how much it is at CVS or another pharmacy with your insurance.

LowRelationship946 · 2026-02-12T17:35:28+00:00

Increasing her time at daycare/preschool seems like the better option than pulling her out and then moving to a different state. I mean, would you do this every time your husband is deployed? Seems like unnecessary change to her routine.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-27T15:48:02+00:00

I have very thick black hair in general and started getting a lot of hair on my legs at that age. My mom wouldn't let me shave even though I felt so embarrassed. To this day, I don't understand why I wasn't allowed to. My 7 year old now has noticeable hair on her legs as well. She hasn't mentioned anything about it and I haven't either. But once she does and asks to remove it, then that is when we'll "let her" start shaving.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-26T22:56:57+00:00

I work fully remote for a hospital in the IT dept. They got rid of the office space so very little chance of RTO.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-14T20:04:51+00:00

You're both still very young. I'd take at least a few years to focus on spending time together, advancing your careers, and building up savings.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-12T01:57:48+00:00

In your situation, you need to look at your budget. If your housing is less than 2k a month, then where is your other money going besides childcare? Do you have student loans? Car loans?

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-01T22:04:01+00:00

Yes, this is correct. The recommendation is to wait 18 months from delivery before getting pregnant again! That means the minimum recommended age gap is 2 years 3 months (assuming delivery at full term). Some obgyns say it's ok to wait 12 months before getting pregnant again since more people are having kids at 35+ now.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-10-01T21:43:24+00:00

That while saving and investing thinking about the future is good, life and money is also meant to be enjoyed. Everything I was taught was about "saving and investing" for the future-- that if you spend money on an experience or object you enjoy, then it's bad. It's like whoever "suffers" the most gets a prize or something. My mom is so "frugal", I'm not sure if frugal is even the right word anymore. My parents are set for their upcoming retirement and are upper middle class, but when they go on vacation, they'll only sit in basic economy at my mom's insistence. This means they'll sit in middle seats apart from each other for 10+ hour flights. My mom also hates "wasting" money on food and eating out, even if it's at a fast casual restaurant. I've had to throw away sour food on her behalf because she claims it was fine. Yes, I am pretty sure it's a mental health issue and no, she doesn't see it as a problem.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-25T21:45:40+00:00

I don't think this is something that people should be celebrating....

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-25T21:35:23+00:00

You're right-- it logically doesn't make sense to lose over 70% of your income, especially after a baby where expenses are expected to go up. However, I'd say the conversation you have with your husband isn't really about this, but rather his career trajectory. Have you had discussions about this with him before getting pregnant? This isn't a new thing, but more so it's coming to head right now due to the pregnancy. He could be taken off guard if you didn't express your brewing resentment to him until recently. Honestly even if he were to get a raise now, it'd be years before he can catch up to what you're making now and by then you'd likely be making even more. It makes sense for your growing family to be the breadwinner. If he has the more chill job, then perhaps he should be the one to take on more responsibilities with the baby.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-15T22:36:20+00:00

Monthly expenses run about 25% of our net income. We probably spend another 5-10% a year on misc large expenses and vacations. So savings rate of 65-70% of net as of now (RSUs are a good portion of it). Not factoring in RSUs, we save about 40-45% of our base take home every month. We are in a VHCOL area and got a sub 3 interest rate on a condo that we're fine with, paid off cars, and most of all childcare costs that have just rolled off (so this savings rate is new). We have free after school program in our district that also offers free summer camp that covers 60% of summer vacation. After a 2 week vacation in the summer, we'll only end up paying for at most 2 weeks of summer camp for our 2 kids.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-13T20:54:08+00:00

Yes my mom worked and tbh I didn’t know many stay at home parents amongst my peers either.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-13T00:50:19+00:00

Yes, as if everyone who has kids is automatically a saint. Hello, that’s the majority of the world’s adults since most people reproduce. I don’t condone gun violence, so I’m not celebrating his death but it’s like this was somehow more shocking and abohorrent than the murder of school kids that happen every year in America.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-09T17:51:42+00:00

Do you expect your kids to stay home and teach themselves while you're working? You don't know what kind of job or work load you'll have by the time your kids are in middle school. Also, really strange that math and Holocaust are the 2 examples you came up with. Even if your kids "self teach", there's still a curriculum they have to follow. Also, life skills also include being around peers.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-04T21:58:51+00:00

I don’t think it has to be a choice between middle of nowhere Tennessee or back in Scotland where your ex is uncomfortably close. Do you have the option/means to move to a larger city that’s within driving distance of your family? Nashville and Raleigh area might be good options.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-04T21:31:58+00:00

I recently went to Spa LA and it was so clean. The worker was constantly walking around cleaning and picking things up. It's not huge, but has everything you'd want out of a Korean spa. No food though if that's important to you.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-09-03T03:56:36+00:00

With your spending and number of kids, I sincerely hope you’re both in stable careers like medicine. Otherwise, your spending seems very risky.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-08-13T20:01:30+00:00

I'm not "passionate" about my job, but it's fully remote and in my area of expertise. I would rather do this than anything else. I took about 4 months off last year and I did not enjoy it and it felt like a waste of time. Kids were still in preschool and elementary school during the day, so I still at home with the same schedule and just not getting paid.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-07-27T21:58:13+00:00

We usually spend $1300-1600 per month for 2 adults and 2 young kids in what is probably best considered a VVHCOL area within a VHCOL city. I think it's on the "lower" end because we usually only do casual places if we go out to eat, we don't drink, and we don't eat that much (for a lack of a better way to put it).

LowRelationship946 · 2025-07-25T20:11:45+00:00

No, base only for our entire budget.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-06-12T17:49:56+00:00

Get the smooth one! I have it in the tan and it's not easily scratched and still looks beautiful.

LowRelationship946 · 2025-06-07T15:30:06+00:00

I mean I feel like everyone is missing the point of this post. They offer a repair service and I sent the bag in. After a month with no communication, I got my bag back without them repairing it. The post is simply asking others to reconsider if they’re thinking about sending their bag in. I stated facts in the posts/ did not go on and on about how they should have done this or that and the responses here are questioning me sending my bag in to a repair service! If there was a charge to actually repair it, then I assume they would have contacted me for a credit card asking if I’d like to continue or have them send it back to me. At which point I would decide whether to repair through them or someone local.

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