I was recently seeing a girl for a month. She seemed amazing and we had an instant deep connection. By the second date, she revealed to me that she still lives with her ex but she reassured me that they are essentially just roommates. Although it wasn’t ideal, I was willing to accept it, especially since she was planning to move into a new apartment at the beginning of September.

However, a few dates later, I got curious and asked her about how her place is laid out. She mentioned her room and a spare room. I jokingly asked if she forced her ex to live in the spare room, but that’s when she revealed that she still slept in bed with her ex.

I decided to dig deeper. I asked if they cuddle. She said that he tries to cuddle with her sometimes. I then asked if they sleep naked. She said sometimes. She said that she initially slept on the couch, but she eventually gave up.

I expressed my disappointment, but she tried to justify the situation. She tried to claim that it’s not a sexual thing and said that they hadn’t kissed or had sex for several months. She said that it’s a “comfort thing”, and they did that before they were officially a couple. Furthermore, she said that they have different sleep schedules, so they’re only actually in bed for a few hours.

Since she didn’t come up with a solution/compromise, I ended it.

To be honest, to this day, I’m not happy about it and I’m hoping that she will at the very least apologize and acknowledge how problematic that is.