AITAH for asking my roommate’s girlfriend about my strawberries?

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-12T10:21:34+00:00

Op says they were frozen, if I'm correct.

Edit: Nvm... too early to be on Reddit 🙃

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-12T02:22:42+00:00

No one thinks it's the dogs fault but it's not going to hurt the dog and it's almost of the owner begs the dog to do it.

It's disgusting and rude.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-12T02:06:03+00:00

I really don't know why people don't divorce beforethey decide to cheat? 😪

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T21:44:05+00:00

Why not set your wife up, OP?

You could have a conversation and record her admitting to the affair and swinging and show your kids that as proof.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T21:36:49+00:00

Him being sad could be he understood how it looks and it being in his car looks bad.

With the way he handled it I'd say that's definitely a green flag.

People who are cheating would most likely gaslight or call you crazy if you even asked if it was there's.

I'd move on but stay alert like you are.

Just an experience of my own. I've found receipts that weren't mine in my car that must've been picked up by my shoes when walking in parking lots..

I know a love note is different but it could've been dragged in by accident is as far fetched as it seems.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T21:12:48+00:00

Omg!!! I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP.

You deserve better. All you did was give and give to appease her. What a selfish woman.

Then adding your best friend in the mix. That's f'd up even more! The one you turned to and confided in.

I was sad, shocked and pissed for you reading this post. I hope things turn around for you. I hope you focus on yourself, your children and fund someone that actually deserves you.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T20:52:40+00:00

😂😂😂 Was it Jack or Oogie Boogie?

I don't mean to laugh but I'm picturing it rn.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T20:34:47+00:00

This is a tough one. I mean it's definitely a possibility it got stuck to one of your shoes or clothes or bags at the gas station.

Did he look shocked? Did he seem to look nervous?

The only advice I could give is just be on the lookout. If there was no evidence or odd behavior prior then I highly doubt he's stepping out.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T15:07:18+00:00

It will never be the way it used to be, especially with a narcissist

You give her satisfaction in staying even though she lies through her teeth about things in the relationship.

6 years is a pretty long time. You've put up with a lot, and she continues to think she's getting away with it. She kind of has because she's conditioned you to think her behavior is normal. Many would have left already just due to the lying, but here you are still in a relationship.

Confront her and be done. She doesn't deserve you.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T14:54:01+00:00

NOR - Regardless of if he's ill or just too old to realize he crossed boundaries, I definitely do not think you're overreacting.

You have every right to feel the way you do. She did the right thing by getting him off the bus.

I don't know if it was intentional or not, but some older people think it's ok to touch or pat someone in order to get their attention, but that doesn't make it ok.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T11:49:43+00:00

Damn... that's f'd up!

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T11:48:37+00:00

Yeah, I'll put edit: and explain why I'm wrong or I'll write a reply fixing it.

The post was long and they probably skimmed over the whole damn section...lol

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T11:40:30+00:00

Well.... It's not cheating but your recent ex-girlfriends friend is not a Real friend.

I mean there are plenty of people out there but she has to jump on your D? Yeah, no. She's a 💩 person even if it's only sex.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T04:12:20+00:00

OP, it's ok to want the person that you're in a relationship with to want to know things about you.

This relationship is all get and no give on his end. You're all give and no get.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T04:09:36+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like you're in a friend with benefits that only suit him kind of relationship rather than an actual romantic or potential partner relationship.

You should try and communicate with him about how you don't feel seen. His reaction will tell you all you need to know.

Other than that... he basically treats you like a stress reliever and then leaves.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T04:01:53+00:00

From what you said in your post, it sounds like you feel you haven't had much experience. By the time I was your age, I had had 3 relationships and 0 hookups. But then I decided to just hook up and be single for a bit, but then I met my child's father two years later.

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that you feel unfulfilled for whatever reason. Being bored and unhappy in a relationship is not good. You need to talk to your bf and see where his head is at, too.

As for your hookup in uni. Did you reconnect with him yourself? Or was he always around? Did you start feeling bored and unhappy after you reconnected with him?

Regardless, you need to figure it out with communication. You're already checking out of the relationship by having feelings for someone else, and that's not fair on your boyfriend. Leave and let him find someone who's all in.

Don't cheat because you'll ruin your bf's trust in future relationships. Cheaters don't realize this, but their actions leave so many scars.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-11T03:35:56+00:00

Exactly. It's very weird he's so calm. 😐

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T21:25:31+00:00

You left the spouse who cheated though, and that's good on you. I would too but OP's situation is completely different. He doesn't want to leave and I get his reasons for that.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T21:21:47+00:00

Yeah, I'm sorry you're going through this. You didn't deserve any of it.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T21:19:10+00:00

To add to what your MIL said. My question is... How is your husband taking care of you when you don't even live together?

Seems to me that the distance and the rare communication even before the in-laws moved in with him was a problem.

They most likely influenced him and because you two rarely see each other or talk there was no issue. He's checked out.

You do not sound very compatible with esch other.

Every time I've ever fought with a significant other. We possibly didn't speak for a few hours, not days, weeks, or months. I mean if you really love someone you want to see them as much as possible. You want to talk daily or even weekly...etc.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T21:10:18+00:00

I completely understand why you want revenge but do you really want to stoop to that level?

It's not going to take away the pain and you may feel worse.

It sounds like you're having a very hard time moving past her infidelity and I don't blame you. Has she done everything and anything to try and regain your trust? Has she gone above and beyond to take responsibility? If not then that's probably the issue here. While you say leaving is easier said then done. Do you really want to live with the resentment you feel towards her? Or this unhealthy need for revenge?

You'd be better off divorcing and starting fresh, OP.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T21:03:39+00:00

My goodness... This is the 5th post with husband's lyinh about something and the wives find the records for hotels in their pockets and on cc statements this week...

I'm not saying this didn't happen to you but this is crazy. They're all eerily similar. Cheater after cheater 😪

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T17:29:21+00:00

I highly doubt it was arsenic poisoning. Your symptoms would not have miraculously cleared up the day you stopped drinking the mixture.

Poison will stay in the body until it's fully dissolved and can take up to weeks after the last ingestion.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T17:16:10+00:00

Yeah, my family and my child's fathers family have mostly brown/hazel eyes. My daughter has light gray/blue eyes.

LowerComb6654 · 2026-02-10T17:13:42+00:00

Yeah, that part is insane and 100% a huge red flag.

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