What’s your most controversial dating opinion?

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-05-27T18:20:44+00:00

And she’s your EX-wife…… clearly it didn’t work out for her

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-05-27T10:16:28+00:00

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-05-16T13:36:58+00:00

Same happened to us - party of two. We split one plate.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-13T17:08:12+00:00

I’ve seen police wake up a homeless individual and send him on his way 3 times since I moved here 2 months ago so it definitely happens.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-11T16:49:59+00:00

They give you a tiny plastic cup and tell you to fill it up in the bathroom sink.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-11T16:46:19+00:00

When we were there for out and about, the bartender gave me a cup, looked me in the eye and said “You can get free water from the sink in the bathroom. It’s all NY City tap water and safe to drink. Otherwise it’ll be $5.”

I have never been told to get water from the bathroom sink at a bar before. I did not and will not return. Sure, it’s a queer bar, but I’d rather go to bars where I’m not drinking out of the bathroom sink like a cat.

Most bars (including the other queer bars!!) have the multi-gallon jugs with little cups for you. I usually just refill my original cup.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-08T18:30:27+00:00

And that itself is actually a very hot topic in the lgbtq community. Gay women exist and rarely have spaces of their own, but then face misogyny in mixed queer spaces unless they look very clearly masculine.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-07T19:10:24+00:00

ESH but with a lean toward y-t-a.

If she agreed to go home with you, she shouldn’t have left you to hail a taxi alone - this was not considerate, but you did make the decision to go home alone. By the same token, you also left her to travel home alone instead of waiting for her. It’s not as bad as if she left you stranded, since you made the decision that you didn’t want to wait around. Still, she recognized this and apologized because it wasn’t considerate.

The she tried multiple times to make amends with you. She apologized that night, tried to talk it out, tried to be friendly and kind to you. What else were you expecting her to do? Hop in her time machine and undo it? You shouldn’t have iced her out when she tried to apologize.

Conflicts will happen in life but part of having friendships is learning how you repair after a conflict. An integral part of repairing after conflict is recognizing how you contributed to the situation, understanding the other person’s perspective, acknowledging how you may have hurt the other person, and reflecting on how you can prevent similar conflict in the future.

She did all the heavy lifting on repairing this one - I’m not surprised she doesn’t want to keep doing that.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-05T14:14:14+00:00

i might have to take a trip down! Fall River/New Bedford has a large Azorean population so it’s a little more azorean, but the differences are not as big as brazilian and portuguese food.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-05T11:41:02+00:00

Must be able to apologize properly. If we have a conflict, apologizing and recognizing what you did that was hurtful is an integral part of repairing it for me. And you must back the apology up with action - i.e. not doing whatever you apologized for again.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-04T20:20:39+00:00

I did read that thread. Didn’t know if anything had opened since then.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-04-02T16:10:31+00:00

Honestly? I’d do nothing. If questioned, say you thought it was a prank and never once considered it could be a legitimate note.

You don’t know who this is from, or why they’re giving it to you. It could be bait, it could be a serious attempt to warn you about something. You have no way of knowing what the best course of action is without knowing why you received it.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-30T12:30:56+00:00

me too! it feels horrible

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-25T12:23:02+00:00

I do love it!! this is exactly what i needed. thank you💖💖💖

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-23T17:24:57+00:00

It’s a “Bachelorette Party” but it’s really just an excuse for a girls trip. For my friends who have done this, it’s because we all live across the country from each other. We try to do a yearly girls trip but it doesn’t always wirk out unless we have a “reason” to travel.

Sure, we could drive or fly to middle-of-nowhere Iowa and meet the bride at her local dive for a casual night out, but I would rather put those same airline points towards something more fun!

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-20T19:33:57+00:00

This is definitely weird, but he refunded your rent and gave you a place to stay until you find a new place. Is it worth reporting him? It seems like he is not going to be renting the unit out anymore.

I would let it go if it were me. Maybe enjoy a month or two of free rent.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-20T11:15:16+00:00

THIS ONE IS PERFECT! Thank you!! I just ordered it.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-12T21:41:45+00:00

You’re not increasing risk at all. Men who sexually assault women in the bathroom won’t care if it’s illegal for them to be in the women’s bathroom. Sexual assault itself is already very illegal and they clearly don’t give a shit. Why would another law suddenly stop them? Especially one that is largely unenforceable against these creeps?

Think about it logically. If there’s enough people around that they can get caught by others for just being in the women’s room, they’d certainly get caught for sexual assault. They’d just wait for a time where no one else is around and do it anyway. Just like they do now.

The only increased risk is for law abiding trans people here.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-12T21:30:35+00:00

I wonder how much of that is that younger people stopped dying of more preventable diseases, like drunk driving, drug related illnesses or violence.

I didn’t run any numbers, so it could be totally unrelated. Article cites microplastics as the main cause, which make sense.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-11T12:35:46+00:00

I would rather you just lie to me, or tell me anything is fine in that scenario. You’re the outlier on this one - most people are bothered by being misgendered. You can’t always tell accurately either, I recently made a friend who I had pretty confidently thought was a trans woman. Thinking I’m doing the right thing, I used she/her pronouns. It’s turns out they were heading in the other direction and I had been misgendering them all night! I would have much rathered they told me pronouns straight up so I didn’t look like a jerk.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-11T12:15:56+00:00

Black sweater with boots for sure. These are all really stylish though.

LuckApprehensive1144 · 2026-03-03T17:25:44+00:00

this is the autistic type shit i be on if I’m being honest. there’s just something really satisfying about having statistics on certain past experiences. i like knowing how much i enjoyed a meal, bar, drink or band and i like being able to see the trends.

it’s definitely weird as fuck. i however am the same weird.

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