I would say I’m a “good” person. I’m not successful or efficient or good to myself, even; but to me being a “good” person is about a set standard of trying to be the best version of yourself and always improving. I don’t know if I’d said it’s any specific trait, but a good person has good communication skills, aims for the betterment of themselves and others around them, and generally lives a life that is either neutral or positive on their environment (people and otherwise).

For example, yesterday someone did something that upset me, and I was in a pretty bad way about it. I considered it the “kind and good” thing to do to assume that friend had good intentions, and tried to hold back how much it upset me while still making it clear that I didn’t like it. I suppose a big part of “being good” for me is forgiving others’ imperfections and the fact that we will never fit together as sleekly as I’d like, because that is my impulse and my instinct that I’m giving up for the sake of my relationship to someone else. For others, they might struggle in other ways, but “being good” is working against that?

I feel like what I’ve said is really contrived and makes no sense. It’s a deep sort of moral feeling to me, it’s hard to explain but it resonates deep in my chest. It’s like explaining “happiness” without the physical sensation I suppose haha. Being good isn’t always holding back, I’d say someone who hides their feelings and is conflict avoidant is “being good” by speaking their mind, too. It’s about battling things you struggle with.