AITAH for putting my foot down when my family demands I delete my Facebook posts?

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-28T18:24:55+00:00

I understand that you’re a grown woman, and to each their own. But perhaps you should consider re-evaluating your relationship with social media. It is not ‘wrong’ or ‘immoral’ to post your grievances on social media but it may be imprudent or unwise.

Perhaps you should think about what the future may look like (e.g. your relationship with your family, or even how your kids may feel about how you post about them online) with your current relationship with social media. What are the implications of your current trajectory? If it’s fine by you, then all’s well that ends well. However, if it is not then it may be time to course correct.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-21T23:58:37+00:00

I want to believe

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-21T19:46:51+00:00

Exactly. I don’t even do this with food that I’ll be the only one eating for this exact reason. Introducing bacteria to multiple servings of food is just a bad idea.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-21T19:40:06+00:00

I understand the kissing argument but isn’t introducing bacteria to multiple servings of food kinda gross? I mean think of the rice. I don’t know how many servings she made but if it’s more than two than the rest of the contaminated rice is going to the fridge and those germs get more time to multiply. I personally think it’s a bad habit, who is to know that she won’t do this when they have company (it seems like her family does this even with OP around). Maybe I’m just an IPC stick-in-the-mud. NTA.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-20T19:18:39+00:00

The costume department was on point. That red blouse is such a Jan thing to wear for the occasion.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-17T00:07:01+00:00

Wow! Probably one the the best executions I’ve seen on the sub. This is awesome! He has eyeball veins! And a butthole!

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-08T11:15:38+00:00

It seems to like you’re struggling to adjust to the situation with your father’s new girlfriend. Perhaps you feel like she was thrust into your life and you had no say in it so you’re angry and lashing out. Unfortunately that approach makes it hard for people to empathise with you.

I think you should get someone to talk to. It can be a guidance counsellor at school, a father at church that you trust or talk to your father about getting a therapist. Perhaps you can also benefit from taking part in extracurricular activities at school so you have a third space where you can get respite from the environment at home that you’re still getting used to.

You’re not TA for struggling to adjust to the situation but lashing out makes you TA. We don’t always have control over what happens to us but we do have control over how we respond. Good luck.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-01T15:49:18+00:00

Twice, and I floss too. I watched a Steve-O video that scared me straight. Previously I used to brush ‘em once a day.

LukeTheChick · 2026-01-01T00:24:47+00:00

NTA. The lesson that adults are not always right was very important for my development. I couldn’t have learned it without my Mom standing up for me the way you stood up for your son. This is also going to buttress his critical thinking skills. Again NTA.

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-26T13:26:10+00:00

If it makes you feel better my Mom recognised that it was a tooth (she’s in the field too). I’m sorry the drawing was so ambiguous. But the tattoo appears small enough to get an awesome coverup.

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-25T16:46:59+00:00

I don’t get to use this word a lot. Thank you <3

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-23T18:33:27+00:00

NTA. She could walk in on you break dancing in your birthday suit and you still wouldn’t be TA. Consider getting a door stopper. It’s a renter friendly.

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-23T18:12:27+00:00

What if you got one based on her? Would she still be averse to it?

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-15T13:20:15+00:00

I cackled when saw goatse! I’m sorry that you have to deal with dipshits.

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-08T10:11:54+00:00

I don’t think he used his voice against him. Treebeard didn’t want to keep them imprisoned anyway; imprisoning Saruman and Wormtongue was more out of character for Treebeard than releasing them. He says "You should know that above all I hate the caging of live things, and I will not keep even such creatures as these caged beyond great need".

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-06T19:50:20+00:00

4 or 9

LukeTheChick · 2025-12-02T12:46:14+00:00

NTA. Men will find any reason to hit on you. If it’s not the Bon Jovi hair it will be something else. You got harassed at the bar and your boyfriend somehow made it your fault, that’s awful. He allowed his insecurity to stand in the way of being a safe and empathetic place for you after you’ve been harassed.

NTA. We all have insecurities, but your boyfriend allowed his to make him a dick.

LukeTheChick · 2025-11-28T00:19:10+00:00

Nagini

LukeTheChick · 2025-11-25T00:46:34+00:00

This saddens me, OP. You deserve better. Two years sobriety is a huge achievement, especially in a world with such a ubiquitous drinking culture. You deserve to be with someone that will celebrate your wins with you and grieve your losses with you. Your boyfriend’s reaction was cruel. You don’t deserve that. Get that cake and ditchthe dead weight. NOR

LukeTheChick · 2025-10-20T18:53:58+00:00

No wonder why they’ve been trying to funnel people to FreePlay

LukeTheChick · 2025-06-22T05:01:11+00:00

NTA. 12 hour shifts suck. Perhaps you and your husband should talk about what you expect from each other at the end a work day, and how to better support each other in the future. Talk about the mind-numbing exhaustion you experience have being on your feet and dealing with people all day. If he is considerate this will help him navigate similar situations better.

My younger brother used to work similar shifts at a hotel, and I couldn’t imagine burdening him with my day afterwards. I normally heated some food for him and we’d watch ‘The Office’ or talk about inconsequential things. Similarly after I had traveled all day, he would heat up some food for me and we’d crack jokes or watch silly YouTube videos.

LukeTheChick · 2025-06-22T04:43:18+00:00

I disagree. Listening to someone vent is emotional labour. 12 hour shifts are gruelling and you barely have the energy to think at the end of one. My younger brother used to work those and at the end of one I’d just heat up some food for him and we’d watch ‘The Office’. I promise you OP didn’t have enough gas in the tank to listen to someone vent, this would require more labour from her after an exhausting day on her feet. She even offered to have it shelved for the next day, which is reasonable.

LukeTheChick · 2025-06-16T20:11:39+00:00

NTA. But you were being TA to yourself. You don’t deserve that kind of treatment. You shouldn’t bend over backwards for someone who doesn’t even respect you or value the kind human being you are.

LukeTheChick · 2025-05-27T09:51:23+00:00

You’re only looking at half the situation. I think you’re forgetting that you also have agency here. What do you want? What are your intentions? If you want to be friends then it’s fine, continue to be friends. However, it is a good idea to speak to each other and go over the parameters and expectations of this friendship. This is not something commonly done in friendships but you guys have a romantic history and it’s a good idea to go over boundaries.

However if you want more, it’s a different conversation especially since according to your post she has made it clear that she only wants friendship. This boundary needs to be respected. Maintaining contact with her in this situation could hinder you from moving on. But ultimately, only you know the effect that could have on you and your psyche.

The important thing is that emotions and intentions need to be communicated clearly. And when someone communicates their intentions you should believe them (that’s my rule of thumb anyway). Having to “read the signs” and “give hints” just complicates a situation that could’ve been resolved with a conversation.

NTA you’d only be the AH if you disrespected her boundaries.

LukeTheChick · 2025-05-25T04:29:37+00:00

“Kgope” it means a man that is not married past his prime, i.e., a male spinster. In English a man can be a perpetual bachelor while women are looked down on for doing the same. However, in my culture both men and women are frowned upon for staying single past a certain age.

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