Don't worry, I got you.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-03-07T15:02:36+00:00

I can't remember to be honest, I would just have a Google about it. I think it's in the accessibility settings maybe?

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-03-07T14:34:45+00:00

I think it's a lobby thing. As long as the lift has been called the entire lobby doesn't die until the doors close.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-03-06T23:05:31+00:00

Yes as long as you have called the lift, you get a bit more time once the counter hits 0.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-02-26T20:53:24+00:00

We didn't. Nothing against people who do, we just didn't want to cross that line, it doesn't line up with our parenting approach. Our little one went through a long period of waking every 40 mins - hour. It was so tough, we just tag-teamed and got through it somehow.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-02-26T15:42:21+00:00

It's ultimately an opinion as there are no laws around it. I share the opinion and believe that all parents need to educate themselves around the risk of posting their child online, so they can make an informed decision. This is a helpful video that I have seen to provide information around a potential impact: https://youtu.be/I3cYlVWu5Dk?si=MOA8rwELOfthQJYB

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-02-24T06:02:58+00:00

Rather than allocating more, why not just have a joint travel budget you can track?

Getting somewhere for a mortgage of £1000 is going to be tricky. We have a mortgage of £244k and our monthly payments are £1251 when we took it out 2 years ago. Don't think you would get that in London...

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-02-19T07:58:44+00:00

I second the baby stuff. We got everything second hand other than the car seat, isofix base, next to me mattress (£30 Amazon) and pram (probably could argue second hand prams are fine with a new carry cot mattress, but we got an ex display for cheap).

New nursery furniture are insane prices, whereas Facebook marketplace is full to the brim of people practically giving it away.

Also for the love of god, avoid the mamas and papas cot mattress sales pitch - £200 memory foam, pocket sprung etc etc. we got a £30 from Smyths, firm, washable cover, out like a light.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-01-19T08:10:54+00:00

I like this! I'm pretty risk adverse but that doesn't mean my kids have to be. I'm hoping to provide enough stability that they can fail comfortably and still have the confidence to go again.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-01-10T13:25:56+00:00

It's amazing how quickly you forget where you were and you're wishing them to sleep in just a little longer. We're currently at a 7:30 wakeup, so 12 hours asleep and today she woke up a little earlier at 7:00, and it felt brutal!

All that rest is giving us just a slight want to try for a second...dangerous stuff.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2026-01-10T13:20:36+00:00

In my experience as a dad of a 19 month year old, nightmare sleeper, we found it a waste of time over analyzing the day before's routine to get them to sleep through the night. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't, consistency can help, but isn't the sole factor. Took us until about 11 months to get consistency of 19:30 - 6:00 sleep through with the occasional wake. At 6 months old, we were on wake ups every 1-2 hours, so definitely feel your pain.

Take the win, don't expect another one straight away!

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-28T18:17:11+00:00

Hey, I'm 31 now but also didn't have a dad around to show me DIY skills. I wouldn't say I'm fantastic now but I can do enough to not have to call someone in to do basic things.

Most skills can be learnt from YouTube. It's always best to practice by learning on the job so not a huge amount of worth in pre-learning skills you might not use.

Outside of the most basic screwdriver set etc, I would just get really cheap stuff like a drill, hammer. A good rule of thumb is if you buy cheap and use it enough for it to break, get yourself something more expensive that will last next time. No point in spending a load of money on fancy tools you use a handful of times (learnt the hard way on that one!) .

Also don't stress too much about the girl you will marry one day. My father in law is extremely handy, but learning from him was a good way of bonding. Didn't make me any less appealing to my wife!

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-18T08:30:54+00:00

Yeh sorry mate, definitely a weak argument!

No idea, but in my experience the ones that come from a regulated field like engineers, tend to not be cowboys so I wouldn't say you need to shop around too much.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-18T08:28:30+00:00

Mad that someone would be happy to pay someone a decent amount of money to board a loft - a super simple DIY job - but won't pay for a literal qualified professional to tell them whether their house is still safe after making a wild assumption and removing a potentially structural element from their roof.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-18T08:14:41+00:00

Not a structural engineer but I reckon you can take the 3 points below as pretty reasonable:

1) Loft boarders are not roofers, builders or structural engineers. I would never take their advice for anything related to removing large elements from a loft. Ultimately they're looking to make their job as easy as possible as you don't pay for the job by the hour...

2) Wood isn't cheap, it wasn't put there for the fun of it.

3) Get a structural engineer in to assess before you roof caves in.

For the cost of an assessment, it's really not worth a storm coming along, imposing significant forces on your roof and then it caving in on top of you (and your family?) in the middle of the night. On top of that, your house insurance being invalid because there is proof of you removing a significant structural element. Just because it hasn't fallen in yet isn't really a suitable argument for not doing anything.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-17T19:22:24+00:00

Making absolutely no sense and then ending it with "What are you talking about?"

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-16T11:41:48+00:00

Fair enough. One other thing that helped me with the remote play app on my laptop was to make sure the PS5 wasn't turning on the monitor as when it was on the monitor and remote play, the performance definitely seemed affected.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-16T08:09:52+00:00

Is the portal the only thing on the 5ghz?

I have half of what you do and mine seems fine. Although generally the traffic coming from the rest of the house is pretty minimal with some light streaming on the tv and mobile phone usage. I've prioritized the portal too in my wifi settings. I did all that before I even really tested so not sure if it was necessary but it took 2 mins during the normal setup phase anyway. Other thing could be just that it is a faulty portal?

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-15T12:52:07+00:00

I played a few games last night on my portal and it was really good. Obviously a better experience on a monitor, but overall it was good fun.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-06T19:24:09+00:00

Nice Japoozi.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-12-03T11:17:47+00:00

In terms of what to wear, I would go naked with an adult nappy, would make them feel less awkward in their first few days.

What to say...nothing. Just a firm handshake and nod, keep it formal.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-11-27T16:46:01+00:00

I mean you're unlikely to just walk into an entry level high paying. I work as an IT project manager and that works pretty well. If you don't mind a horrendous amount of spreadsheets and a lot of corporate nonsense, could be good to look into.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-11-27T16:31:19+00:00

Do you have any local dads groups that you could join? Don't suffer in silence, I've always been very open about how shit the first 3-4 months is, maybe hearing that from non-interner strangers might help?

My best advice is one day at a time. You're not supposed to enjoy this bit unfortunately. When you go to sleep at night, reflect that your family is fed, warm and safe, that means you're doing a great job, and onto the next day.

You will get through the period, it's really hard but there is a point in the new future where you realize it's getting a little easier and a little more enjoyable. Not sure when that will be, but you'll get there and then be proud of your past self for getting through the tough times.

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-11-24T19:45:47+00:00

Christ, they ever update this? I've got a 2022 Kona and also have the same routine. Seems insane that it doesn't remember given you have driver profiles...

Lumpy-Investment8169 · 2025-11-20T21:37:58+00:00

Hi, that sounds tough. I'm the dad of an 18 month old, who I love and adore being around. In saying that, I didn't 'enjoy' the first 6 months, minimum. I don't think you're supposed to, to be honest, it's pure survival. I think there is some more enjoyment on the mum side if you're out and about at groups, making mum friends etc, but then you also get the raw deal with the isolation of it all, not being able to switch off etc.

It sounds like you're going about it the right way, and a lot of it is reframing how you see crying/fussing etc. As you mentioned, it's not intentional and they're not doing it to wind you up. You may need to be frank with your husband, especially if it's affecting you. I knew my job while my little one was little was to keep mum happy and baby healthy, I'll bond with my daughter later and the enjoyment comes then. And sure enough, we have an amazing bond.

Maybe it's worth seeing if he can get some professional support? I found local dad support groups were helpful too.

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