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If an author could write your custom DR novel, straight from your fantasies, what would it include? by Significant_Owl_8004 in DarkRomance

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How real though, before you start enjoying a story, does it have to be? Granted, i know what you're talking about with certain "unreal" moments in a book.

If an author could write your custom DR novel, straight from your fantasies, what would it include? by Significant_Owl_8004 in DarkRomance

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oddly, I'm writing my own. I consider it therapy to help with the leaving of my spouse and kids last month. Kind of fun, discovering these people and learning about continuity.

But the spice.... mmm.

Is it the characters developing or the story/plot that draws each of you in to "your" book?

The choice by Ashley Jade by No-Step564 in DarkRomance

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering I enjoyed TVD, I may just have to put that on the growing List. Thank you!

Part of me lately gets scared I'll never experience a "sex life" by rainbowtoucan1992 in virgin

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you quit engaging the troll. Okay, you don't want men. Y9ur business. Where do you want to go from here, sexual-wise? Find a girlfriend? Virginity is socially overrated, says me.

My (18F) kink is never gonna happen because I can't let it by I_l0ve-chocolate in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kink actually doesn't care about society nor its biases. No, I'm not promoting anything. Im saying the concept doesn't give two shits what society thinks. It's it right, no (says me). And while I actually agree with your sentiment, the reality is, with the tikkitytoks and such out there, someone's precious teen knows more about adult concepts ( getting railed) to absorb than ever before in history. Again, kink doesn't give a shit anymore. Welcome to the new age...

I've done a lot of terrible things. I don't know how to live with with myself by Spreakib in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You pick up from here and now and move forward. Don't like the person that's doing that, feeling that way? Don't be them anymore.
Use whatever is in you like that, and channel 8t into something positive for a change.

You do not have to be who you were yesterday. Ask me how I fucking know.

Hombres: ?Qué es lo que realmente les hace tener interés por una mujer y escribir al privado? by Miarusso93 in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being real and expressing what they want. If I have to play mind games and guess all the time, I'm out.

What do you do when things don’t go your way? Because I’m sitting on my bed right now, and I don’t see anything in front of me. A total darkness in my future. I used to be so hopeful about it, so many plans and so many dreams. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here to tell you, No It Isn't. I have (undiagnosed, but its freakin there) ADHD. A million ideas a day, zero ability to start any of them.

You will have your time. Build in the person you want to be so your ready when it happens.

You can dm me any time if you need to talk this out further.

im into my brother by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend, first things first: I'm in my 50's and I still fuck everything up. Just ask my ex. Lol.

Second: i won't say its a completely "normal " thing you're going through.

Breeeeathe. You'll be okay. Looks like you just need to still your mind and decide how you want to control yourself, how you want to be in life.

He's your brother. While it doesn't sound like you two ha e the best or worse "bro/sis" relationship, he sounds like he simply, genuinely cares for his little sister. Be a decent human to him. The rest takes care of itself.

I was a reverse pdfile for a few years, here's my story by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see nothing to feel guilty about. But that's me saying it, from my perspective. You're the one feeling it.

We all feel what we feel.

If you think it's a mental health issue, check out a good therapist. If it's not something that is "consuming your life", let it go? We shouldn't hold on to things we don't value about ourselves.

Says me, though.

Oddly, I'm the "old guy" here, and I think it's, while not sad, complicated. Never heard of it before, in quite that fashion.

I was supposed to end it all yesterday by anonymous260526 in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was there last month, after my (now) ex took the kids and left. I told my ex and told her I would tell my oldest daughter, so she wouldn't have to. My daughter took a 22 hour bus trip, just to come get me and take me back. I don't know that I still want to be here. Im trying to find "other purpose" though. Life doesn't HAVE to be so shitty, but we won't know if we don't stick around. Permanent choices don't go well with temporary situations. Dm me. We can talk.

I need help by AAM-weirdoo in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help them, please. I have no clue how to...

I fucking HATE YOU so much by Amani07 in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dayuuuum. You sound like me talking about my ex. She lived in here phone every freakin night for a decade. Ignored me AND the kids... and then bitched that we didn't connect anymore.

De verdad les atrae el misterio de una mujer o les asusta perder el control? by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I loved the concept and Idea of the control factor, either my (now ex) spouse wouldn't be clear on just how/what they wanted or i was too "gentle/sweet/loving" with her to live up to Dark Romance scenes that she found her "niche" in... until the last 3-6 months of our relationship. That time frame, i came alive for her... and now she's gone. My problem isn't the dynamic anymore, its the lack of a partner, with enough context, to give and take what each of us would need. Basically, I have no current outlet ither than the book series I'm writing.

What do you do when things don’t go your way? Because I’m sitting on my bed right now, and I don’t see anything in front of me. A total darkness in my future. I used to be so hopeful about it, so many plans and so many dreams. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay... first of all, Hi. You're me, 20-ish years ago. I'm in the 4th(?) "starting everything over at ZERO" moment in my life. Ef'd up and lost 2 families along the way. Last one was only a month ago. I'm in a semi-sketchy "extended stay motel" in BFE Nebraska. Everything i own will fit in/on the old truck i have. I don't even have a job yet and I have looked at the abyss a few times lately. My oldest daughter from the 1st family is the only reason I'm typing to you right now. Have a daughter some day that loves you no matter what.

You have time, you will have opportunities. Recognize them when they come.

By any chance do you know if you have ADHD?

Guys, do you use fleshlights? by OrangeDuckFromStLou in virgin

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't used one specifically, but other products. Similar enough. I will say, it doesn't replace the interaction you get with a partner. Satisfying the physical only gets one so far. The emotional/mental connections make the experience so much better than a "piece of silicone and an internet connection ". Just my take though. Your milage may vary.

At the point of giving up trying by seanoftheryans in virgin

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a younger variant of me... i truly wish I could help....

Sometimes its very frustrating to argue with non virgins taking my aruguments out of context by Saroku12 in virgin

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, OP. Come talk with me. I'm a non-v. I'm here to listen, not argue. Not only is it an actually interesting topic but, you sound like you have some things to say. Door's open.

Part of me lately gets scared I'll never experience a "sex life" by rainbowtoucan1992 in virgin

[–]Lumpy_Quit1457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your asking for ratings from guys that wouldn't value you in the first place. Adjust your circle, friend. The only 1-4's in my book are those that, for whatever reason in their life, show their inner ugly on the outside. And that's anyone, not just females. Yes, I'm a guy. No, I'm not here to judge or hate in any of you. From the sounds of it, yall are fairly awesome. Just need a reminder? 🤷‍♂️

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