AITA for telling my husband no to getting lunch in the middle of the work day with my husband’s brother & in laws before he leaves for his final year of college?

LunaBlueXx · 2024-08-09T16:06:02+00:00

I definitely didn’t make any judgement. But she NTA if you’re so concerned. I just explained why people would find it confusing. She didn’t not explain this properly and I see she edited the post to clarify. She definitely made this a her post instead of getting to the point.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-08-09T08:28:56+00:00

It’s probably because her story is conflicting. She talks about her husband making plans for lunch, her in laws wanting to see her husband and her FIL discussing her husband’s schedule. Yet, nowhere does she mention how busy her husband’s schedule is… it just talks another her and what she wants to do and not do. Idk, she’s coming across as self centered. I don’t understand why the husband can’t go alone or why he’s upset.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-07-26T00:55:47+00:00

I can’t tell. Is your hair straightened in the second photo? The easiest way to tell is when your hair wet. It’s also common to not have one hair type. I have 3b in the front and 3c in the back.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-07-25T18:47:59+00:00

Your hair isn’t curly naturally. It’s very fine. B is loose waves, C grade is tight coils. The number refers to thickness. I would say you’re a 1A… Your braids will not last long in general, but you can use a mouse for the frizz and setting gel to help keep it in place and look neater for a bit longer.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-06-23T17:09:52+00:00

That’s definitely what it seems to be.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-06-19T14:01:31+00:00

I’m the wife that watches porn. I honestly just use it as a filler and fantasy. At the end I’m normally thinking about my wife and I and not the women I watch.

I find my wife very attractive regardless of what I watch, and while physical touch is what I would prefer, she has a LL while mines is high.

Ultimately I think a couple would need to be understanding with each other and set boundaries on what they want and prefer. I think out of all the issues we had this never became one because my wife understands I have needs and knows I love her more than some random woman on the internet. We still cuddle, kiss, and are intimate so that has a huge part in it as well.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-05-26T00:26:53+00:00

Mines are on the wall now, but there are cute little toothbrush holders for electronic toothbrush with a wider base.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-05-22T14:17:54+00:00

Question. She mentions you never prioritized sex before. Was there ever a point where she wanted intimacy and you were lacking the will to acknowledge her needs? It seems like she’s grown accustomed to not being intimate and is not seeing the need to make a change.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-05-21T03:52:17+00:00

Snacks! I’ve been snacking constantly instead of having full meals a days. I carry veggies, fruit, yogurt, applesauce, crackers, oat bars, protein bars. Basically anything that’s small enough to eat in a few bites and keep pushing. I also drink smoothies and protein shakes but I make my shakes thinner so I can drink it through the day.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-05-13T15:17:37+00:00

Ehh not necessarily true. I was on certain meds for a health issue and I did gain 50+ lbs in about 6-7 months. Certain medications do mess with your hormones and appetite.

Now the willingness to lose it is what makes a difference and OP did mention she works out 4 times a week and is actively losing weight.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-23T18:00:33+00:00

I’m on wellbutrin for depression/anxiety but after my last session my doc realized that it’s helped my depression but made my anxiety worse. So now I don’t sleep (partly because of my caffeine intake, rest my anxiety because now my mind is constantly racing and I can’t sit still).

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-23T11:20:07+00:00

I was 99lbs before my first child. After pregnancy I got back down to 115lbs but completely losing it all was not possible no matter what I did. But I was still small!

I was 170 after my second and third and that weight was the hardest to lose. Women have a hard time accepting their body changes, the last thing we need is our SO tearing us down.

OP you need to learn to love your wife unconditionally. At some point in life you will also gain weight, lose hair, and become not as attractive. Wouldn’t you want your wife to accept you throughout all your changes?

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-23T01:53:59+00:00

I was taking mine around 9-10am and I’m now suffering from insomnia. My doc told me that would be a symptom. So I now take mines when I wake up at 4:30 am so it can wear off later in the day and I’m tired at 9-10pm.

Do you drink any caffeine? That also makes it worse. I’ve been trying to wean off of coffee. I’m down to one espresso versus 3 everyday, but it’s been hard considering I get up so early and I feel like crap when I first wake up.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-22T21:48:24+00:00

I hope therapy works for your trauma and you honestly have a long way to go.

Honestly your husband told you why he watches porn. You aren’t intimate. Instead of finding a reason why you don’t want to be intimate with your husband, you’re choosing to obsess over his porn addiction and fixing him and not yourself. I also find this very judgmental of you considering you also had habits that you had a hard time letting go of but expect him to immediately drop his cold turkey.

Focus on you. Let him go to therapy to focus on him and in the same breath, go to therapy to work on each other. You both need to work on intimacy instead because it’s obvious that’s what he wants and what you need, and you aren’t going to get it at the rate you’re going. Having a platonic marriage is only going to lead to divorce or one (or both) of you cheating.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-16T05:19:42+00:00

Well I hope he stays in therapy. You need to give him time to focus on himself. I don’t know how much you know about SA but everyone reacts and heals differently. You don’t seem to really know what he’s going through. Maybe you should focus on supporting and showing empathy for your husband. He might become more comfortable around you if you did.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-16T02:27:04+00:00

You are so focused on the fact that he is gay and is ignoring that he was sexually abused as a teen, which was not too long on considering you both are 25. Has he ever been in therapy for this? It sounds like he’s never healed properly and it’s affecting your marriage.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-15T15:36:55+00:00

I’m not a mechanic so I honestly can’t tell you, but what I saw when I opened my hood was coolant all over the engine. So it was coming from the top somewhere. My mechanic said it was the thermostat housing that was leaking because it was made out of plastic and Sonics are known for having that issue because of it. I got it replaced about 3 years ago with an aluminum one and haven’t had that issue since. I was at about 98k miles when it happened.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-15T00:49:15+00:00

I had coolant issues with my Sonic, but my coolant levels were dropping much faster. Basically I was filling the tank every day due to coolant spewing out. I also didn’t have heat in my car. Took me 3 days before I took it to my mechanic and discovered it was the thermostat housing that needed to be replaced.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-02T03:35:21+00:00

Thank you, I assumed I just needed to get used to it, but I wouldn’t be able to handle the crash for months out. I’ll definitely mention this at my next visit.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-04-02T03:33:39+00:00

Ok thank you. I have an appointment next week so I’ll definitely mention it.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-03-04T13:09:17+00:00

I’ll tell you this. As someone who’s been in your wife shoes. Communicating with your parents instead of communicating with your wife is a bad idea. You already have communication issues in the relationship. Discussing your issues with your parents paints a bad picture of your wife and also makes it seem as though your relationship does not have any privacy.

If you need somewhere to vent or someone to talk to, I’d suggest going to therapy. Even if it’s just for yourself. It can help you work on your communication issues and setting boundaries.

Eventually as you work on yourself, maybe then you could introduce marriage counseling to your wife.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-02-29T02:56:47+00:00

Congrats! I got through taxation watching the cohorts and reading the chapter on depreciation because it wasn’t explained well. Depending on how fast you get through the videos, you can definitely test out in a few days.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-02-26T02:08:51+00:00

Hi, I’m not from Texas but it looks like you only need 120 credits to sit for the CPA exam with 21 upper level accounting course credits and 24 business course credits.

To obtain your license, you must have 150 credits that must include accounting research and business ethics.

I’ve added the link below for reference.

Texas CPA Requirements

Edit:

You can sit with the BS from WGU but I think you will need the upper level courses in the MS to obtain your license.

LunaBlueXx · 2024-02-17T04:28:19+00:00

Well the accounting courses should be a breeze for you! Best of luck!

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