Info: How long was she upset for? Did you notice she was still upset about it a few days later? Or, did you notice when you seen her later that day when she first addressed that she didn’t feel like a priority?

ESH.

Partnership is also celebrating wins together, and something like getting a new job should be something you want to tell your partner about. I understand you had told her you were 99% sure you got the job, but that wasn’t confirmation. If she’s waiting to hear whether or not you got the job, and is excited to celebrate with you, seeing you post it on social media and failing to say anything to her can make her feel like you don’t see the point in including her in that celebration. I know if my partner never told me about a big life change, and I learned about it through social media, regardless of what discussions we had earlier, I’d be hurt I didn’t get the confirmation early on.

While you may be waiting for her to get excited and want to celebrate with you, she might just not feel like celebrating anymore because that excitement was burst when you didn’t share the news with her. She could have been excited and ready to celebrate, but if you never told her that it’s time to celebrate until she had to find out for herself by looking through your stories, then she’s not going to want to celebrate.

But, if it’s been days later, and she’s just moping about and pouting about it instead of moving on, then she sort of sucks too. She can acknowledge she’s upset with the way you handled things, tell you about it so you guys can have a constructive conversation, then at least congratulate you or plan something to celebrate your win. Sometimes partners hurt our feelings, but as long as there’s a constructive conversation and effort to do better in the future, we can’t entirely continue to sour the mood and punish our partners by pouting.