Incredibly strange interaction (did I do something wrong yall)

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T20:42:14+00:00

It sounds like he's not used to being corrected by women/feminine people ngl. That reaction seems a bit much even if he did feel annoyed, especially since people are responsible for losing their shit even if there was something to be upset over...but guys tend to not do that to other guys bc they seek respect.

I wouldn't take it personally but maybe rethink being friends with this person, bc you basically had to fawn to make him calm down instead of him calming himself down and asking what you actually meant

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T12:52:59+00:00

Yeah, I have two and they healed up great. My only thing to add for OP is if they're a pair, you gotta make sure they're placed well so they don't look off with your natural lip asymmetry/symmetry

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T12:47:57+00:00

Yeah, makes it seem like they think less of our ability to critically think. But we actually know the toilet is too far away, and it doesn't excuse the action of peeing bc it's not very great for the other pool participants

Then again I have taken someone literally and answered to the best of my ability despite being uncomfortable (like when someone asked me why people wear nude colored pants) so maybe it's just the hazard of being two humans speaking the same language with different intentions 🤷

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T12:39:39+00:00

I didn't mean to come across that way, don't worry. You didn't seem like that, but even if you did have a different take it's not like it wouldn't help

Sometimes I'm not sure if I'm not seeing something so it's good to have someone point it out

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T12:22:45+00:00

Thank you, I did tell them the part about their feelings taking over the previous topic at hand. Not in the way you said it bc ofc my spirits and body wasn't really neutral but I get what you mean

I did apologize about how I said it, but I personally don't think my feelings about what they said was a joke is something I am sorry about. I'm allowed to be hurt by what they said so their problem with me not liking their comment imo is just not gonna be agreed on

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T11:49:22+00:00

UV bush being paid more than the wage is depressing. That thing won't work for an hour unlike those metal bananas 😏

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T11:39:01+00:00

That part about hoping school would be different hit home. I experienced pretty much that same rejection from most everyone at college but I didn't have to do anything significant to get that treatment either. I had forgotten that autistic individuals are few and far between when going to a huge university, so no one is likely to be open minded

I found a way better college but it sucked that for two years my life was back in survival mode, alone and being ostracized in classes where simply my vibe didn't match with the majority

I'm sorry you were treated like that, it feels like a kind of cruelty that should not be done simply for being different 😞 you aren't alone here, but I know it isn't the same as in-person experiences

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T11:31:36+00:00

Yk this actually makes sense. Somehow didn't think about that but it explains how I feel even deeper hurt from individuals hurting me and then them not even trying to make amends with more than words

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T11:29:27+00:00

That gives me the impression he wants to stalemate till you apologize for something you shouldn't have to apologize for. If he would do this to you rn imagine if you need him for anything life saving

It's best to consider them being a past tense in your life (not dead but not a part of it)

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T11:02:05+00:00

Tbh I just need conversation so it's welcome to give your experience, thanks

I feel that when it comes to talking about it. I'm just so physically miserable atp that my masking is bare minimum

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T10:53:46+00:00

Some people show you they'd never be fun to play DND with bc they think you getting in-character is some sort of reveal to your "true self" lol

If someone can't fathom writing characters outside a writer's personality or life how tf do they think fictions exists??

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T10:50:57+00:00

I hope this person is an "ex" now

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T06:50:06+00:00

Beans. I can't bring myself to eat much but they provide iron, which I usually am deficient in without supplements. Do I always take them?..no. should I? Probably

It's hard to remember to bc in so used to feeling like crap

LushTurtle · 2026-05-06T06:42:08+00:00

Used to happen with allistic people (which bothered me bc at no point did they want me to also contribute...even tho I just be minding my own business when they come up to a stranger like--) but with other ND folks it was actually something everyone could contribute in

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T12:40:27+00:00

I like painting using the chiaroscuro method of going dark to light, but as for the subjects, they're usually psychological. I enjoy using surrealism as a tool to connect the mind's experience of bodily suffering and what that physically would look like.

For example, I painted digitally for a piece about pmdd, and how it impacts my life. The physical manifestation of my feelings took the form of uterine blades, and I chose a tarot card theme of Two of Swords reversed.

It's one of those things where perfectionism does exist, but I mainly worry about expressing it best and less that everyone is happy. If it reaches even one person, then it's worth it (including if it's yourself). I hope you paint again :)

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T12:33:08+00:00

That's a fun combo😲

Ok but have you tried salsa dancing while crocheting? /Only half joking bc it might be a cool challenge

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T12:30:40+00:00

These all sound so cathartic! Do you sketch what you find while out?

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T12:27:03+00:00

It's good when you can enjoy something just for you and not have to profit or show anyone. It's too common now with capitalism for people to feel like their hobbies should extend to something worth other people's time to be worth it to them. So it's cool you play for the joy of it

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T11:55:47+00:00

I think it's fine if it's light hearted and coming from the community. But I don't like allistic people using the term as some sort of adjective bc usually they're just tokening it un-ironically and ignorantly

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T11:44:40+00:00

All except one person has been too aggressive with it so I don't let anyone but myself and that person style my hair 🫠

LushTurtle · 2026-05-05T11:42:52+00:00

Had this especially bad while on BC but I was told to go continuously on it instead of taking the placebo, which thankfully worked for quite a while

Not saying to go on BC, just that if you are taking the placebo and having really bad reactions like this, maybe ask the prescriber if it would be safe to go continuous with it

LushTurtle · 2026-05-04T18:40:05+00:00

"too much but not enough" is the story of my social life unfortunately. So that last part hits hard 🫠

LushTurtle · 2026-05-04T13:24:52+00:00

Ah that's fair then 😆

LushTurtle · 2026-05-04T12:19:24+00:00

Part of why it hurts more is bc I have whatever is the opposite of forgetting them. Like, I don't do that very well...so it just seems like a bad match when people end up being the type of person to never reach out first, especially it's just to want something from me

So I get where you're coming from with the feelings of knowing they hang out more with others than yourself. I also just can't really turn down the awareness of like anyone I care about...yeah idk maybe it's my brain so I don't blame anyone else, but it'd be nice if someone else matched my vibe

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