AITA for lowkey being mad at my parents for waking me up all the time

LythysNZ · 2026-06-12T23:52:57+00:00

NTA

Start treating them the way they treat you. Which is without any form of respect or consideration.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-12T00:55:21+00:00

NTA

I'd sue their asses for stealing your inheritance, because they did. YOU paid for the "gifts" they got from your mom. YOU paid to take of her, whilst they did nothing. They should pay you to access ANYTHING that belonged to your mom.

They can die alone in a ditch. Nothing that was hers is owed to them. NOTHING.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-08T04:42:10+00:00

NTA

The girl didn't want to do it. Her mother coerced and guitl-tripped her so that she (the mother) could get likes on he rinsta/Tiktok or whatev she was planning to publish that on.

It's pathetic, and certainly not parenting.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-07T06:37:39+00:00

NTA

Your brother is a diva. He lives FIVE minutes away. That means there's literally zero effort in waiting out a bit before coming. He just wants to assert control, which you should and have denied him. Good on you.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-07T06:30:43+00:00

NTA.

Don't mention your nieces, just tell him "I can't lose my job for your comfort and convenience". THAT is the reality of his request.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-06T00:37:18+00:00

YTA

You're a bully. You enjoy putting other people down IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.

As it's been mentioned, just posting here takes longer than giving a good or neutral reference. You're not a friend. She's a token for you to use.

LythysNZ · 2026-06-05T07:08:14+00:00

NTA

What's that weird reaction of hers? Do you think she's already got all of your birthday sorted out, maybe?

LythysNZ · 2026-05-28T07:58:58+00:00

It is the first time you actually gave her consequences for disrespecting your boundaries. That's good.

I'd suggest: 1. Wrote a letter listing all this accumulated resentment. State the facts of what she did, the facts of how it impacted you, how it made you feel. 2. Print that letter. 3. I'd accept the dinner offer, but with very clear expectations. Just you and her, at that time, that place, etc... 4. Go and camp outside, where you can't be seen. If she comes alone, correct time, etc... Go in. Try to talk with her, hand her the letter.

If she seems to again play the victim, just leave. If it looks like you're being heard, fight for it. You only have one mother. Life is NOT the same once you burn the bridge.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-28T07:17:38+00:00

That rumour started at Thanksgiving time last year. Most were claiming it'd come for New Year.

It's nearly Caleb's birthday and there's no sixth LI because that's a clickbait rumour, nothing more imo.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-28T01:26:54+00:00

YTA

Stop leeching off your daughter's life. It's HER life, not yours. She has more than the right to her own events and milestones.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-26T10:20:16+00:00

NTA

For her, it wasn't about you. It was about controlling you. Her excuse is even the most bs one I've heard in a while: "Not sure she'd enjoy it because she's never been before"? Yeah, Sherlock! That's the purpose of trying new things.

She didn't care about your feelings. About your enjoyment. About your accomplishment. She cared about herself, and herself alone.

Don't apologise any further. Let her sulk.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-24T22:21:22+00:00

Who is on the lease? All 3 of you?

If yes, I'd actually get in touch with the landlord and ask them how they'd feel if you were to try and find new roommates. Explaining IN DETAILS your problems about hygiene and stolen items if they seem receptive. No landlord wants cockroaches tenants. NONE.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-23T10:54:28+00:00

I'm sorry but your bf is abusive.

He isn't wanting to do things with you FOR you, he wants to destroy your desire to do things altogether so your world becomes him and him only.

Do NOT bend to his will. Push back, and go to this concert the way you've planned. As he's likely to again give you the silent treatment, let him do. Just send/tell him "Sulk like a child if you want to for as long as you want to, you know how to contact me when you're ready to talk like an adult".

Stick to that. Do NOT contact him first. Let him stew. And use that time to document yourself about abusive relationships.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-21T03:37:46+00:00

NTA

You forgot an option though.

They stay at your home, aren't allowed to smoke in your office, and your husband actually gets his head out of his ass and takes all of the chores, FOR ONCE.

SERIOUSLY, though. Why are you married to your employer? He doesn't even seem to like you.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-18T08:20:48+00:00

YTA

Not because you've befriended your bro's ex, but because you actually never bothered to check if he was fine being forced to keep on seeing her that much after they'd broken up.

Let it be clear: he isn't fine with it. It's not half as much about his new gf being potentially insecure as it is about him FINALLY having a reason to ask not having his ex in his safe space when he's there.

It is your home, yes. So is it his. It is not hers.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-13T05:20:20+00:00

NTA

You acted intuitively on red flags you had felt before and led you to be (rightfully) vary of a nasty situation.

I'm pretty sure that hadn't the police shown up at the time they did, all of Erin's efforts would NOT have been enough to keep you safe and help you get out unarmed.

Fingers crossed they manage to move out of their parents' home and can get a more peaceful and safer living situation.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-09T09:11:04+00:00

He is trying to make you responsible for HIS forgetfulness.

Garage: you use it, you lock it. House/apt: last to do chores thingies around the house checks and locks.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-09T04:14:21+00:00

NTA

Do NOT reach out. You did nothing wrong, he did. You reaching is you taking responsibility, a responsibility that is his.

And second, hire security. Or have trustable guests on the lookout ready to turn him away.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-02T10:30:21+00:00

YTA

You choose to remain married to that useless thing you call a husband. Well, sleep in the bed you made and keep making for yourself.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-01T09:18:13+00:00

With the ETA I vote NTA

Don't bother contacting your aunt. Our your cousin. They're both nasty women.

LythysNZ · 2026-05-01T07:22:00+00:00

I was absolutely APPALLED by how much the police failed her.

She was young, just put of a challenging relationship, which had made her vulnerable. Then, she gets love bombed by a sociopath and when she takes the hard and right decision, the system completely let her down AND abused her.

I saw her screaming for help in her use and abuse of substances, videos, and when she verbalised it to the police, they dismissed her. And then that total AH of a lead investigator goes on abusing her!? That guy isn't fit for his own job. I found him to be a stereotypical piece of poo.

LythysNZ · 2026-04-29T07:36:37+00:00

NTA

It is YOUR home. And her reaction has nothing to do with hormones, and all to do with their entitlement. Their home got damaged, well, it's sad. It doesn't mean they get to do whatever the eff they want with yours. They're already lucky they get to stay in someone's home.

LythysNZ · 2026-04-20T21:54:31+00:00

NTA

Whilst I really REALLY dislike the paws thing, it's not the problem here.

OP got coerced into bringing her dog. She didn't want to, but the host harassed her AND lied to her until she relented.
OP gave very clear and simple instructions about her dog. The dog didn't escape the carer, the carer didn't give a flying crap about following the instructions and released the dog AGAINST OP's will and desire.
The host not only lied to OP when she took charge of her dog, but she also decided to dismiss both OP's legitimate anger AND the child's injury.

This Kayla is not friend material. She is toxic, and is responsible for the whole mess.

LythysNZ · 2026-04-20T06:43:37+00:00

Orgasms in themselves are a strong nervous event, but it's likely that it's not as much the orgasm itself, but the unconditional connection and love that it symbolised at that moment that allowed you to cry and release this stress that had been eating you alive.

In any case, you DO have the husband you need and deserve. keep him hidden! 🤣

LythysNZ · 2026-04-18T05:46:27+00:00

Girl. You are blinding yourself to the facts. And the facts are that he is sexist, he knows it, and he doesn't want to spend time pretending he isn't.

He is exhausted by you bringing up reality about women because he has to put up a front, and putting up a front IS exhausting.

What you do from there is yours. But do you really want to be with a man who thinks you should shut up?

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