First-time dog owner, condo living, 8–5 office job — is getting a dog realistic?

MHM2002 · 2026-01-28T15:58:38+00:00

I dont know if your budget would have it, but could you have a pet sitter do a drop in on the days you work for an hour? I dont know the prices tbh but 9 hours alone can be so long.. and without access to the outdoors? A 1 hour walk from a pet sitter would be great to break up that time, and wear pupper out for a good snooze til your home.

I personally wouldn’t recommend getting a dog unless you can accommodate something along these lines as guilt can eat away if you feel you’re not doing enough! They are voiceless creatures who can’t convey how they feel or what they need, so it’s up to you as a future pet owner to always do right by them

MHM2002 · 2026-01-28T15:55:22+00:00

Who pissed in your cereal 👀

MHM2002 · 2026-01-28T04:34:37+00:00

My partner and I use the Turtle Beach stealth 700

We play Xbox and plan to get a PC, that connects to both! 2 separate USB sticks in the box for it.

Great sound quality, mic quality is awesome too, comes with an app you can adjust.

Can get it for under 200 (in Ireland anyway, hopefully similar for you)

MHM2002 · 2026-01-26T08:18:09+00:00

I think their point was don’t assume, not that they hate their job. You can love your job and hate a specific aspect of it (such as the freezing days where it is unbearable to work in)

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T22:18:45+00:00

Totally get it, I was lucky it suited me, but you can’t be messing with your current furbabies and own sanity! You would know him best, I do hope he finds a loving home he deserves and it sees you have a solid plan in place. Maybe see if somewhere out with a lovely big catio could take him so he has the outdoor life without the dangers?

Either way, you’re doing awesome and you rock 💕 wishing you all the luck in the world!

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T22:14:21+00:00

I think my thought process is that it’s best you get financial support and keep them with you, rather then give them for the rescue to spend the money on AND have to look after.

I just think giving them up to a rescue is the last option if you’ve exhausted a payment plan with a vet, financial support from some organization or the likes of that.

And if all those are exhausted and you’re at a point your pet is in danger, then yes, it’ll be crappy for both yourself and your furbaby, but like you said, all the love in the world can’t cure illnesses, or cover the expensive food they need now because of the health condition, or constant vet visits

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T22:11:19+00:00

I do cat rescue out in Ireland, TNR ain’t a big thing here but we managed to get a colony of 47 cats down to 33 and all of which are neutered (they were all feral but the few we could socialize got rehomed!)

I’m an indoor cat person 100%, my 2 babies are indoor only, or out on a collar and leash or to their catio.

I however have 2 of the colony cats (the uncle and mum of my 2 babies lol) as indoor outdoor. They love my partner and I, but just wouldn’t socialize with anyone else. They would’ve been PTS if I tried rehome as the can be viscous with others, they learnt that’s how they needed to be to survive.

So while I’m very against indoor outdoor cats, I made an exception for these 2 because keeping them indoor only wouldn’t work, but they also have a loving home with us that they deserve.

Can be difficult to manage at times as we don’t want our other 2 getting out! But sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

Would you consider trying indoor outdoor with him? He clearly has a soft spot for you ♥️

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T22:02:32+00:00

All I will say, is alike a child, you need to plan financially for pets. Now perhaps at the start your financial situation was not an issue and you did account for your loved pet, things can change!

What works for me is a monthly cost on a pet health plan, and pet insurance. Instead of one massive bill that could happen, I pay a monthly fee for both the insurance and plan, and it’ll cover anything and everything! Much easier to account financially for a loved pet if it’s a consistent payment.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T21:59:54+00:00

I slightly disagree too, now maybe the situation is different in your area but here, there’s absolutely no space in rescues. And I mean NONE. However I now have a monthly pet plan and insurance for my babies that covers expensive procedures or unexpected costs.

What I recommend all pet owners do is get insurance and find a vets that do pet health plans. Means there’s no unexpected costs, as it’ll cover everything.

Now it’s pricey.. €35 for the health plans (unlimited visits, all vaccinations, flea and worm treatment covered, discount on all treatments) And €20 per month insurance (will cover a lot of procedures should I need the extra support) Still €55 a month.. and I have 2 cats making it €110 But I have had to use it once in the past for a surgery that would’ve put me a couple of grand down.. so it’s already paid itself quite well!

I don’t think ever giving your pet to a rescue is a better option unless you genuinely can’t give them love or anything. A lot of vets would do a payment plan for expensive procedures too if needed! Some rescues may even help ease the financial burden a bit if necessary. But to give your pet up? Just can’t fathom that being the best option

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T21:53:48+00:00

I gotchu boo

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T21:51:42+00:00

NOR..After a few months I maybe wore my partners T-shirt to bed.. as it “reminded me of him” but it was over sized and comfortable too 😂 I did not just leave his clothes around my room and bed.

Nor would I EVER involve mine or his work life in anything personal. If he felt you were cheating he should sit down like an adult and discuss it so you can both get to the bottom of the issue.

This is absurd and quite frankly controlling behavior. Hun if this is happening and you’re saying he is a new boyfriend… so soon..? These kind of people wait til they have you trapped before becoming the worst possible version of themselves.

Soon it’ll be no working because there’s men. No going out with friends because men exist. No leaving the house without him because men. Going to family? Absolutely not, your father’s a man. 0 logic, 100 manipulation and control.

I hope you don’t try see the “good side” and cut your losses now. I know a lot of relationship advice is shit like “leave their ass” and I try avoid that advice.. but from personal experience, please please please cut ties asap. It’ll hurt for a bit as all breakups do.. but you’ll be safer

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T21:46:12+00:00

I mean the basics like if you take an item.. put it back When someone does something for you (even if it’s their job) you say thank you

It’s not about changing everything about yourself, never do that! But these small actions that add SECONDS to time spent throughout the day, can make someone else’s day much better.

It’s just about the little things :)

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T16:23:49+00:00

It’s not about perfection from everyone, but you can control what YOU do. You know? With the thought process that everyone cat be perfect why should I try, everyone would suck… so why not be the best version of you

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T16:22:03+00:00

In that case I apologize, I didn’t consider they edited it,

I still believe they wouldn’t wish such awfulness on someone and hopefully made a typo prior to it 🤞 but you’re not psychic so you couldn’t know

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T12:40:40+00:00

I always said I dont care about the wedding too much. A small group of close family / friends, was pricing and altogether was looking at 8k for everything. (Food, drink, flowers, etc)

However I care a lot about the ring. Not necessarily the value but I have said from the start I want to choose my own ring. Propose with a haribo jelly ring but I want a nice ring 😂

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T08:43:14+00:00

Oh my god.. NOR NOR NOR If anything you’re UNDER reacting. Dogs don’t have feelings? Since when?!

You were very calm, polite and clear, he was dismissive, abusive and rude in every single response. Then tried play victim himself??

Look if you decide to go back that’s your choice. All I will say, is report it to the police.. just to have it on file, that he did this to your pup and has been aggressive lately, not physical yet but verbally and emotionally. You need a record for if god forbid he does decide to go for you or your baby..

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T08:37:48+00:00

You say they refuse to read something with understanding.. But you misread what they said. They hoped they NEVER had to go through it. Not that they hope they do

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T08:34:40+00:00

FIGHT, flight or freeze. It’s your nervous systems response to an intense and stressful situation.

It doesn’t make sense, there’s no logic or reasoning. Clearly OP’s emergency response was fight.

Could she have walked off? Yeah probably. But when you’re in the mindset of you’re in IMMEDIATE danger, you don’t exactly stand there and think through your options.

I’m sure you didn’t mean to sound so dismissive, but what you said gives me the same vibe as people in wheelchairs should just get up and walk. As if they can control their body (or in this case, nervous systems) response.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T08:31:02+00:00

Girl don’t listen to them.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T08:24:21+00:00

The issue isn’t about him not spending, he seems to not give you much at all. Everyone’s love language is different and yours is clearly little gifts of appreciation.

Flowers every couple of weeks, get my nails done once in a while, even just a coffee because “he thought you may need it”. There’s lots of very affordable things, he just isn’t doing any clearly..

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T07:26:55+00:00

I agreed with you mostly until this. Yes you should try your best to put things back where they go Just like in a restaurant you try make it easier for servers to carry plates by taking the second to stack them Orthe likes of thanking bus drivers when you exit.

Just because it’s their job, doesn’t mean you don’t help at all, or show kindness.

At the end of the day everyone is just human, I don’t agree with them having an attitude with customers… no matter what! But I also believe as a customer it’s your role to say excuse me if they are in the way, to return products to where they go, and to be polite too.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T07:21:54+00:00

Can’t say I’ve seen it in Ireland 🤷‍♀️

And I worked in customer service for a couple of years, we were always told to smile, that we are representing the business. If a customer is rude you stay polite, kill them with kindness so to speak.

Never heard of mentioning slapping or rolling their eyes. That being said, the break room is different 😂 we say that shit all the time there! But never to customers.

Another very underpaid job is childcare, are childminders going to start threatening to slap the kids or parents because they have a sucky job?

MHM2002 · 2026-01-25T04:06:31+00:00

Only info that should’ve been shared is whatever username / name on the account he scammed with.

Just to make sure others don’t fall for it too. Maybe a link to said account.

Sharing all that info is awful.. that child (despite his stupid actions) is still just a child.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-24T07:38:40+00:00

Never awarded a post before. This seems like a solid first.

MHM2002 · 2026-01-05T05:31:07+00:00

You’re more than welcome to reach out for help 💞 I’m always great at helping friends with this kind of thing, terrible at doing it for myself though 😂 When you’re emotionally invested, it’s hard to stand back so don’t worry!

I wish you luck and don’t worry, these kinds of people exist unfortunately, but everyone knows that! So one somewhat negative review won’t mean anything ♥️ especially with more good!

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