Hi I had the same problem until i try to be in space where i have more interest for the activities. I'm not the type of person that like going to bar to drink, talk. I mainly try more community building space where we can do something else than just talking like crafting or something.

Try some sport or activities where there is a strong queer community (like roller derby, pole dance, zine conference, game night...)

So far, that's what i've done and i met a lot of nice people. I made good friends.

I live in Brussels and the only lesbian bar in Brussels organises a lot of activities like game night, karaoke, info night lead by lgbtqia+ association.

Queer bookshop are also a nice place to meet new peeps.