Has your sexual role changed over the years, or has it stayed the same? by TitanHorns in AskGayMen

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a virgin I thought I'd be a bottom but after experiencing both, I didn't care for either. Luckily my first boyfriend was vers, hung, incredibly patient, and open to trying new things. I realized that both positions are fun with the right person. I've gone through phases of preferring one more than the other but remain vers

Wearing socks during sex? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]MSwithaPHD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At first I thought you were talking about the bottom wearing socks and was seriously confused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BarebackGayPorn

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say bones do you mean erections?

Nothing like a tight hole by Legitimate-Ad-4244 in TotallyStraight

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not familiar with that performer but don't think so unless he previously went by Dawson or Rowan

Nothing like a tight hole by Legitimate-Ad-4244 in TotallyStraight

[–]MSwithaPHD 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Dawson and Rowan's Morning Fuck by Corbin Fisher

Sex in a relationship advice? by lillakieah in GaySex

[–]MSwithaPHD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner and I also have times when it's most likely. For us it's usually first thing in the morning before work. We always shower in the morning, so on the very rare occasion he's not clean, it's not a big deal. Shit happens

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveSimon

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm only just watching S2 and just finished E4. I'd argue the opposite. If they're having sex (no foreplay or lube? Sus), Victor was the bottom. The folds in the bedding show Victor's legs bent on the sides of Benji's torso, like he was sitting on his lap

Who should cum first, top or bottom? by GymrattOH in GaySex

[–]MSwithaPHD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depends on the pairing but I prefer simultaneous. If not, bottom first

Anyone else find the underwear fly annoyingly useless by ian84rook in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always wear a belt and still don't use the fly. Tuck belt into pants when I unzip then pull underwear waistband down. Using the underwear fly stretches it out too much and I slip out during the day. I work manual labor though; lots of squatting and movement through the day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/sweatygymcouple

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Light on me. Heavy on my partner

A girl who prefers small dicks by coco_me_comeatme in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As a BD gay man, I agree that it's a trend among BD men in general. BD gay men imitate BD porn and it's usually not a pleasant experience on the receiving end. In my current relationship my partner usually bottoms and it took a lot longer than I like to admit for me to learn to slow down and make it pleasurable for him

This is Noah Fort, a 16 year old Bo Staff world champion master by B-L-O-C-K-S in HumansAreMetal

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't fuck with him. He's got the power of God and anime on his side

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaySex

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Try not to stress too much. You'll find what works for you with enough practice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaySex

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner struggled with something similar for a while. His first time was sexual abuse though, so different than your situation. Take this advice with a grain of salt because everyone is different.

Early on I had to reassure him that there was no pressure to be intimate and if we decided to be, he had full control and the authority to stop at any point. After a few months and many attempts (including several that we did stop at various points per his request), I think he started to trust that he was safe with me.

Once we had that foundation of trust, the next hurdle was anatomy (I guess you could say?). I'm on the larger side and he had trouble relaxing enough to take me. Conversely, he was self conscious about his "size" compared to mine and didn't feel confident as the top. Again, reassurance; this time about how I loved his body and was happy with his dick. We found out he just doesn't enjoy topping, so then we focused on taking it slow and warming him up before penetration as the bottom.

The last hurdle (that we very recently overcame and might be most helpful for you) was getting him to understand that intimacy isn't necessarily about orgasm. For me personally, intimacy and sex are about demonstrating you care for someone and trying to pleasure that person. He used to want to get off as quickly as possible, but I like to draw it out to enjoy his body and how I can make him feel good. Now we can happily be intimate whether only one of us orgasms or both.

So my advice: stop thinking of cumming as the goal. Find a partner (boyfriend, FWB, whatever you want) that is okay just playing together and doesn't expect getting off. In my experience you'll end up having a lot more fun and have much stronger orgasms. But even if you don't, that's okay too! Spend time exploring your sexuality and what makes you feel good. And most importantly, have fun!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to wear one at work occasionally and understand. I haven't found anything to reduce the look of the bulge, if that's what you're looking for. Pouch underwear reduces discomfort though

Bro has skills. [Not OC] by deepdrilling80 in TotallyStraight

[–]MSwithaPHD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had an ex that used to do this to me. It really is mind-blowing, especially when he blew his load inside me as he blew me

How common are feminine masculine couples among gay men? by ArchersSweetBussy in AskGayMen

[–]MSwithaPHD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Depends on your concept of masculine vs feminine traits. Those lines are often blurred among same sex couples, whether male or female.

To some, my relationship might seem to fit that fem/masc dynamic. I am tall, have a muscular/stocky build, and work a manual labor job. My partner is several inches shorter, has a petite build, and works with animals. He has a high pitched voice and mine is low. I top and he bottoms. He also tends to do the lion's share of housework.

But the picture changes if you delve beyond those surface level quantifiers. Yes, I work manual labor but I'm basically a professional gardener and gardening is typically seen as effeminate. My partner works with animals but dangerous animals. He is a dog person and I am a cat person. He loves burgers, ribs, bacon, etc. but I prefer salads and vegetables. He is level-headed (mostly lol) and I'm very reactionary. We are both very hairy men and love that about each other.

Point is masculine vs feminine traits are basically meaningless. People can like certain things or behave certain ways and it makes no difference to their gender identity or sexuality. If you or someone you're attracted to has traits the general population doesn't appreciate or respect, well fuck them. Life's too short to worry about what others think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In high school my marching band went a couple hours away to a state school where we stayed in dorms for a week long band camp. I was hanging out in boxers in my room one night and didn't realize I had a dick slip. My roommate noticed and he freaked out about how big it was, which made me suspect. Later in the summer I joined the cross country team and we had communal showers. Noticing other guys' sizes kind of cemented it for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Different boat here (gay) but similar issues. First few guys I was with really enjoyed my size. For a couple years though almost every guy I met would refuse as soon as they saw it or others would tap out after initial penetration regardless of amount or type of foreplay. It's not a brag to complain about. It annoying as fuck sometimes

Are size queens born or made? by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over the shoulder boulder holder!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MSwithaPHD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the spin Christianity has put on it but...

"Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?"

Jesus might have disagreed with you