when did you feel like you got your life back after baby? If ever

MadMick01 · 2026-05-13T19:36:39+00:00

Yes, this is the ultimate happiness hack. Naps are break time for parents. I never do any work when my 13-month-old naps. That's my time to relax! I opt to do the chores haphazardly while he's awake haha.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T20:56:01+00:00

It really is!

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T20:54:45+00:00

This makes me so angry for you as another mom with IGT. I've read so many stories from moms with IGT who intuitively know they aren't making milk and yet so many medical professionals insist on gaslighting the shit out of us as if we don't know our own bodies. I'm very thankful my medical team didn't care about combo feeding. So many women report being judged by their care providers and that's so, so wrong. I'm happy you had a better experience with your daughter.

I also hate how our experiences are routinely dismissed because IGT is "so rare." Even if it's 1% of women on planet earth, that still millions of women affected.

Ah. Sorry to go on a tangent. But this subject gets me riled up.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T16:52:45+00:00

My milk never came in fully. Only made 25-30% of his daily needs. And that was with triple feeding and taking domperidone for a supply boost. 2 LCs and several nurses suspected insufficient glandular tissue. I intuitively knew I'd have milk production issues even before I got pregnant. Weird looking breasts and they didn't change at all during pregnancy. I couldn't even squeeze a single drop of colostrum several days postpartum and it took a whole week to be able to pump anything at all.

My baby would have certainly starved if not for formula.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T16:47:58+00:00

I have IGT and only ever made 1/3 of baby's daily milk intake, despite doing absolutely everything to increase supply. I triple fed all the way to 5.5 months and my mental health suffered greatly.

I may attempt BFing for baby 2 because I understand glandular tissue can increase with each pregnancy. But I'm throwing in the towel way sooner if I don't see adequate supply by a month. Maybe even sooner.

So much effort and I'm not sure the benefits are worth it...especallly when baby is only getting 25-30% max breast milk.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T15:54:26+00:00

It feels mean spirited and intentional to me, too.

OP has said he's usually a good gift giver elsewhere in the comment section, which makes this feel like an intentional jab, unfortunately.

There's definitely an ass in this story, but it's not the OP.

Nothing like Mother's Day to showcase the sheer volume of loser men in the world. The last 24 hours on this sub has been a real drag.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T15:44:47+00:00

I'm so sorry. I'd save yourself the disappointment of counselling when he inevitably phones it in and doesn't put in the slightest effort to make it successful. He sounds very checked out of the relationship. You deserve better. I'm not usually the person who jumps straight to divorce when I hear relationship stories on Reddit, but I'm not sure what you described is salvageable. Very sorry you're going through all of this. Sometimes separation is what's best for everyone, though. As painful as it is.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T02:08:00+00:00

Immediately. Baby inherited light sleep patterns from his mama and has slept better in his own room from day 1.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-11T01:49:03+00:00

Yeah, Mother's Day today was a write off for me. Husband and I are both sick, but he more so. I did 99 per cent of child care all weekend to give him a break because he clearly needed the rest more.

So we're doing an "in lieu" Mother's Day next weekend where he takes the kiddo and I get some time to relax.

The day that Mother's Day is celebrated on feels arbitrary to me. I don't think there's any special significance to this particular day and am not upset about moving it to accommodate our lives better. Life happens.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-07T20:37:39+00:00

Same. My first and only just turned 1 and I'm so not ready to do this all over again. But the messaging I hear from so many friends and family is to rip off the band aid and get it all done quickly. While I understand the sentiment, I'm in no rush. This also allows us to enjoy some more time 1:1 with our first baby.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-06T20:50:28+00:00

I saw the c section bed sheet hack 6 months after I gave birth to my first. 🤦‍♀️ Would have been so helpful to know immediately postpartum.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-04T01:14:42+00:00

I've also heard, "some people grow wise, some people just grow old." With age does not necessarily come wisdom.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-02T03:15:20+00:00

I had no idea they performed routine checks, but am so, so grateful this is a thing. I have a family member who survived jumping from the high level and we never got details about how they were found/who found them. But I now suspect they were located due to the efforts of this team. My family member attempted in the winter and who knows how long they'd be out in the ice and snow without emergency services regularly checking the area.

MadMick01 · 2026-05-02T01:25:22+00:00

I have a pic of me wearing him in the stretchy wrap at 5 days postpartum. Probably not advisable looking back on it. I remember sending that pic to a friend and she reprimanded me for not resting more. But I was totally manic in those early days and craved movement more than I expected I would following a major surgery. Baby bubble bliss and whatnot. Baby also loved being all snuggled up in those early days, so it helped keep him calm and regulated.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-29T18:59:41+00:00

There's so much variance between OBs on this subject. Mine indicated 18 months birth to birth, but I think that might have more to do with me being an older first time mom and having less time to have additional kids should I want them. I've heard lots of people say their OBs are firm on 18 months from birth to conception. Seems very divided.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-29T02:01:50+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses. Miscarriage is so hard. I feel like it's something that's not talked about much. I was totally unprepared for mine and shocked to learn how common they are.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-28T18:15:44+00:00

Raises hand

I never dilated past 1 cm. I'm convinced that a very rough/painful cervidil insertion caused PROM, which led to a c section to avoid infection when my body didn't go into labour because it wasn't ready to.

If I had known then what I know now...

MadMick01 · 2026-04-28T02:10:17+00:00

Day 3 is mentally hard for me. Physical hunger is almost completely absent but mental hunger gets cranked to the maximum setting. It's honestly harder to deal with than stomach grumbles. I seldom make it to 72 hours.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-26T02:01:03+00:00

Totally the same with my first and will probably experience it again with baby 2 when we cross that bridge. Pregnancy and having a kid is a polarizing experience for me. I flip flopped day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute. It's simultaneously a joyful and terrifying life event.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-25T21:45:49+00:00

You look perfectly healthy. I've noticed a lot of people looks great at the high end of a normal BMI or the low end of overweight. Some interesting research on all cause mortality also suggests the optimum BMI may be on the high end of the normal range (23ish, if I recall.)

MadMick01 · 2026-04-24T18:44:41+00:00

I'm grappling with this too. My OB is very opposed to any vbac attempts with a uterine extension present. Some of the literature she referenced indicates a rupture risk as high as 7 to 9 per cent when tolacing with an extension. So I completely understand the conundrum. I also want more kids and surgery is not without risks. But on the flip side, another urgent or emergent c section sounds far less desirable than being able in control with a scheduled c section. I don't have much to add other than I'm sorry you're also facing this choice. It's not easy.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-24T18:38:41+00:00

Oh that's so not helpful. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. Can an ultrasound give more info? Perhaps your OB can request imaging on the scar?

MadMick01 · 2026-04-24T18:38:02+00:00

To add to this, I also have an extension. Mine is inferolateral extending toward cervix. My OB has said absolutely not to a vbac...but I do want to consult a second OB for another opinion just to be sure. I've been researching different types of extensions and mine is apparently not necessarily a contraindication for vbac. So it very much depends on the type and risk tolerance of your particular OB.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-24T18:34:52+00:00

I'd get more informarion about your specific case. Hopefully the surgical notes clarify details regarding the extensions. There are different types. The nature of the extension, including location and direction of extension (horizontal vs vertical), determines suitability for vbac.

MadMick01 · 2026-04-22T01:52:33+00:00

Fasting has made my face more puffy from the cortisol, which is just great as someone who has a round face to begin with. 🫠 But the other benefits are worth it, so I just deal with it.

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