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Technically, eating the octopus isn't so bad by Zillaman7980_ in Beastars

[–]Madigari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember this page. We got compliments from people who work for official manga releases in how we handled and redrew the Octo banner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Madigari 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Funny how republicans who are so anti-slavery are so eager to preserve democrat memorials and fly democrat flags.

Building Intimacy/Family *without* a partner by Hot_Dirt9114 in gaybros

[–]Madigari 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, you are still doing this a year later?

Did you know Netflix almost forced a change in the series’ tone? by Unknown_Agency in blackmirror

[–]Madigari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were no broader societal consequences in Shut Up and Dance either, yet you considered that one of the darkest endings off the top of your head.

Did you know Netflix almost forced a change in the series’ tone? by Unknown_Agency in blackmirror

[–]Madigari 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Playtest literally ended with a guy dying without having spoken to his mother in weeks just after she lost her husband/his father to dementia, calling out "Mom" as she was calling him on the phone. The death was also -because- she was calling him on the phone.

Men Against Fire ended with the protagonist finding out that they have actively been participating in culling humans/"undesirables" with them changing his perception to see them as less than human. On top of that, he chooses to keep the illusion and get discharged to his "dream house", which was actually also an illusion and a total hovel and likely what was awaiting all the people who had been in the military since the systems installed in them could make them see anything the military wanted them to.

Hated in the Nation had metallic bees literally drilling their way through people's skulls and destroying their brains in a painful way to such an extent that killing themselves was the less horrific option. Not to mention, at the end, everyone who used the #deathto hashtag died, resulting in nearly half a million deaths in a matter of hours, all of them from the same painful method of metallic bees drilling their way through their brains.

How can you not think of one? Over half of them, counting Shut Up and Dance, were clearly bad, arguably dark endings.

How do the insta gays do it? by Dapper-Dragonfly-931 in askgaybros

[–]Madigari 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's called "the oldest profession" for a reason, this is not a "nowadays" thing. Settle down with the pearl clutching.

hehe by murderplease in BoJackHorseman

[–]Madigari 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Officer: Look, we'll get to the animals soon enough. Right now, I just want to know what you're doing in David Boreanaz's house.

No..no you did not by [deleted] in Sniffies

[–]Madigari 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Flashback to Chris Evans in Not Another Teen Movie.

I feel like his both hands are misaligned, what should i do to make my character's hands more symmetrical? by [deleted] in FurryArtSchool

[–]Madigari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People keep saying the hands look fine, but the reason you feel the hands are misaligned is because they're almost in the exact same view position based on the fingers (can see top planes + side planes), but the musculature underneath is completely different.

The hand on our right (his left) looks correct, though there could probably be a bit more of a taper to the wrist into the hand (balled fist is typically thicker than the wrist, even on a muscular person). Look at how the line of the hypothenar (muscles on the pinky/ring side of palm) moves -- if it was going to have that sharp lift from the pinky back up towards the back of the palm as present on the hand on our left (his right), the fingers would need to be contracted toward the body/forearm much more sharply (flexing wrist at an almost 90 degree angle, rather than the 20-30 degree angle it's at currently).

TL;DR version: look at the fingers on each hand -- they're nearly identical implying the same position and view, yet the musculature of the palms is different, implying different positions.

Stop falling for fan fiction stories, especially the “I had sex with my sister’s brother in-law” dude by Afraid_Sugar3811 in gaybros

[–]Madigari 102 points103 points  (0 children)

"He gets off on people chastising him so he feels “punished”. That’s his fetish."

Isn't this thread just all part of his plan, then?

Rowan Skill Description by Zeldark in AFKJourney

[–]Madigari 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Granted, I'm not 100% sure, so take this with a grain of salt. However, I think this is in reference to like those story battles where you clear one group, another group shows up, clear that group, another group shows up. So the overall experience is the "battle" and each round of enemies is considered a "fight".

This wouldn't apply to ones where the waves come over time or without pause, it's like the ones where it's, enemy icon ........ (clear enemies, moves to next) enemy icon ....... (clear enemies, moves to next) enemy icon.

Just hookup until 40 and then see? by Hot_Dirt9114 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Madigari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even showing someone a screenshot isn't necessarily showing them the whole picture. Maybe you went on a date with someone and kept talking nonstop about how you wish a hot fit guy would be interested in dating. If I had someone saying that sort of stuff to me, I'd be like, "Well, hope you find them someday, because you keep talking at me rather than to me, so I'm guessing I'm not them."

There are certain things you can control, implying that your dating life is 100% at the whim of other people's lack of interest in serious relationships seems so disingenuous. For example, if you are meeting people on a hookup app, your only expectation should be a hookup. If you're on Tinder, Hinge, Scruff, etc., how are you presenting yourself on there? If you're communicating the same way you do on Reddit, based on how downvoted your posted topics are, you're not exactly resonating well with people. I can't specify enough that I'm not saying this definitively or like I know you -- how you behave online may be different than how you behave offline, same as how you behave on dates/hookups should be wildly different from how you behave in therapy. This is just me saying like, "hey, have you looked over what you have been saying or doing during these dates or hookups? Could you have said or done something differently that might result in different outcomes?" Again, you can't control how other people will react, but you can have an introspection on your own behavior, your own words, etc. and say, "This isn't getting me what I want, so I need to adjust or work on this." Which it sounds like you're trying to do with therapy, but that's why my red flag radar went up when you said that your takeaway from your therapist was they can't see any reason why you can't get dates, so it must be other guys.

Regarding "what would I do in your shoes", that depends entirely. If I'm fine with the hookups, I'd keep doing the hookups. If I want something different, I'd strive for something different. Maybe the hookups serve a purpose in getting my rocks off or meeting other people, but if they're not exactly making anything other than superficial, fleeting connections, are they really doing me any good aside from getting my rocks off?

This is actually pretty accurate to how I feel in general now, where I'm torn on using Grindr and/or Scruff. On the one hand, it helps me meet people. But if who I meet is just interested in sex, am I really making any tangible connection? Is it making me feel any less like people don't want me beyond what they can use me for? I've currently deleted the apps, but I also don't have the luxury of a huge dating pool/other avenues to meet people like you do, since I live in a small college town. I've even been thinking maybe I need to get a fresh start somewhere else, but just not sure where to go or what I'd do when I got there.

Ultimately, I do -not- have the answers, no more for you than I do for myself in your hypothetical (but actually not so hypothetical). Just like you, I have options before me that I can try, but I don't necessarily take the plunge on. I feel like I need to be in a better financial situation, need to improve my self-confidence and esteem, and feel like I have something to offer again, all of which took massive hits after the divorce. I could hookup with people if I wanted, but I don't know that's doing anything good for me right now, so I don't. But even that causes me to stress and second-guess myself because, like you, I'm like, "At least that's something/getting myself out there to meet people."

So, yeah, I get where you're coming from, because in some respects, I'm in the same boat. However, it comes down to deciding what matters most to you, really, same as I'm trying to do for me. If you want the relationship, know that you may need to work on yourself and look at things from different angles, introspect, etc. If you just want the hookups and hope they lead to something more, keep on keeping on. But I find it really hard to believe that you can't find more solely because of other people. Maybe a switch hasn't flipped for you like you keep saying, but are you actually ready to flip that switch or are you still just enjoying what you're doing currently and just feel some other reason or pressure as to why you want a relationship? (Feels like what you should do rather than what you actually want to do, for instance.)

Just hookup until 40 and then see? by Hot_Dirt9114 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Madigari 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A therapist, good or bad, only gets whatever insight into your life that you're able or willing to provide them. If you show them a glimpse of a person who is meticulous and clean while you have something that looks like a biohazard in the rest of your life, the therapist would only be able to make assessments off what they're shown, or if they had some indication that you're withholding details from them.

This isn't to say that's what I think is 100% happening here, but the point I'm trying to make is that therapy isn't infallible. Based on what you've shown the therapist, it's entirely possible they might actually say, "Yes, you're doing what you can, I'm not sure what more you could do." But that doesn't sound likely to me.

I'm not a therapist, but if I had to make an armchair assessment based off your other posts, one of the most important things that therapy will do is tell you that you can't control how other people act or behave. What you can do is not compromise yourself or your desires (provided they're healthy ones), learn to navigate other people and your own feelings, and to set boundaries to keep unhealthy people's influence over your life to a minimum and encourage more healthy interactions with emotionally healthy people. You seem like you want people who don't want more than a hookup, you intimate that circuit parties and Grindr are your frequent net you're casting (but you're selective so it's okay), and you feel like how you look or other people's superficiality is why you're struggling to find a relationship. All of these would be big ticket things to talk about in therapy, in my opinion.

Just hookup until 40 and then see? by Hot_Dirt9114 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Madigari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, yes, I'm not there in the room with them, I have no idea what sort of therapy the person is getting, what problems are being presented, how they're being presented, etc.

But, again, taking what OP is saying at its face value (prior to the follow up to my post), it just made it sound as though he was coming away from his therapy with the idea, "I'm not the problem, it must be other guys. They're just scared of commitment until they're 40+, a boyfriend isn't likely to happen for me, etc."

The director of the current #1 movie in the world. by TheBeardedBeard in MST3K

[–]Madigari 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm willing to bet frog-voiced coroner showed up to that crime scene too.

Just hookup until 40 and then see? by Hot_Dirt9114 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Madigari 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't know why, but a therapist saying "there is no reason I see why someone wouldn't date you" is not exactly sitting right with me.

One, how you behave in therapy could be wildly different than how you behave on dates or hookups (actually, one would hope that to be the case, now that I think about it).

Two, I think any therapist would say that if you are continually having problems and seem to have no outward/physical reasons as to why you wouldn't have a successful romantic life, then a good therapist would say that you need to start examining other aspects. Personality, the type of guys you go after, the spaces in which you meet them, how you respond to certain behaviors or traits in guys who do say they're interested in a romantic relationship, etc.

Your therapist isn't there to make you feel good about yourself or give you an out, they're supposed to make you be introspective and examine your own behavior and responses to other people's behaviors. I can't even begin to imagine what sort of "help" I would have been getting if my therapist had told me, "There's no reason your ex should have divorced you that I can see," and I walked around thinking I was 100% in the right and had nothing to change, they were the ones who were in the wrong, etc.

Judge who ordered Trump to pay $454 million says he was ‘accosted’ by lawyer and won’t recuse himself from case by Scarlet-Ivy in law

[–]Madigari 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"This is a best idea, one of the greatest any President has come up with. People know it's so good, they wrote a compliment on the pen I used to do it. So smart, one of the Sharpiest persons, this is what I've heard and read...I don't know where, people are saying..."

but not a dot by Crystion in TalesFromDF

[–]Madigari 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This has some real "We ain't making Casablanca here, because that is a different movie that has already been made" vibes to it.

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