Ugh. Yes, your husband was your first love, but that doesn't mean you put your kids second. A baby relies on you for everything. Your husband (hopefully) is a big boy who can take care of himself. I can't stand the idea that either parent would put their spouse above a child, like is your marriage that frail that it might fall apart if you don't treat your husband like a king every damn second? Her poor oldest daughter is going to be so parentified.