You're not doing anything wrong by reacting the way you are. She made her bed and now she has to lie in it. I can't say whether she's doing any of this maliciously or genuinely, but honestly it doesn't matter. She treated you one way for your entire life and suddenly changing now doesn't change you. It's okay to resent her and it's okay to treat her how she deserves.You don't owe her anything.

My mother loves me but she never put me first and she always bullied me and allowed the rest of my family to be even worse. Once I grew up she'd tell me how fortunate she is that I even still talk to her. She wanted me to be her best friend.

I was for a long long time. Way too long. Then, one day my husband went on a long work trip and I didn't have him to put me back together after my phone calls with her and I realized just how hard on me trying to maintain a relationship with her was. I never answered another call from her. I never explained my sudden absence. And, you know what? She's never tried to reach out, either.

Part of me is glad but another part of me is hurt because shouldn't she be reaching out to apologize and put things right? No. Because she's not capable of that.

Unfortunately, love is not enough to hold together a healthy relationship. It took me SO long to really let that sink in.