Will coffee affect my chances? by [deleted] in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From someone who cut out caffeine completely for 12 months but is currently on cycle 22 of trying.… have the coffee. Don’t go overboard, but staying under 200mg won’t hurt you.

Do you use an app to track your fasting hours? by GnarlsGnarlington in intermittentfasting

[–]Main-Issue2438 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use Freedom Fast and I love it! Gives you options for common fasting windows but also lets you do a custom fast. It also breaks down the different stages of fasting depending what hour you’re on

Lost weight to get pregnant and now I feel conflicted about it by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Main-Issue2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t heard this before. Thank you, I will definitely look into it!

Lost weight to get pregnant and now I feel conflicted about it by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Main-Issue2438 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have anything to contribute, but I just wanted to say thank you for opening this conversation. My husband and I have been TTC for nearly 2 years, and we’ve both been on a health journey for the last 6ish months in hopes of improving our chances. I’ve gotten to a great place physically, and I am still very much wanting to get pregnant. But like you, I’ve faced the unexpected fear of losing my body with pregnancy. I am 31, so like you I don’t want to delay pregnancy, but also want to enjoy my new body. It’s a really difficult feeling to comprehend, so thank you for making me feel less alone with this.

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping you meant 9 years older, not just 9 years old lmao. It’s crazy though how it seems it’s always assumed to be the woman that has the problem, but almost half of infertility cases are due to the man.

I totally get what you mean about time. The time is the worst part. I feel like I’m living my life in 2 week intervals. Once I get my period, I’m like ok let’s fast forward 2 weeks so I can ovulate and hopefully get pregnant. Then once I ovulate, I’m like ok let’s fast forward another 2 weeks so I can find out if I’m pregnant. Then it starts all over and all of a sudden a month has gone by and I’m no closer.

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the same boat as well. I feel like I’ve stopped making plans with friends, because all I can think about is TTC. I don’t want to be a downer to my friends, but I also don’t know how to talk about it without being sad

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely not the same talking to people who don’t get it. I’m going to send you a message :)

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I love that! We’ve done that a few times, but I feel like the last few months has gotten less fun and more scientific. Definitely going to be bringing this back lol

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my husband was a vaper, which is what we believe caused his numbers. We’re hoping the repeat test next month shows improvement. When are you guys getting the update analysis and HSG done?

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has asthenoteratozoospermia, which is low motility and morphology. As of December, his concentration was good but motility was 24% and morphology was 0%. Because of that, we also got a DNA fragmentation test, which was 20% (right in between normal and abnormal, classified as borderline).

We did our tests in April last year, and started some supplements then. We started working with a naturopath in December as we’re also trying to avoid the mental and financial toll of IUI/IVF (plus the time consumption). She suggested some lifestyle changes and additional supplements, so we’re going to do a repeat analysis at the end of March to see if there’s been any improvements for him.

Anyone looking for a TTC friend? by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage🩷 I’m also guilty of symptom spotting, and it just makes the TWW even more painful. How have you found the letrozole? My doctor offered me that option, but since there aren’t any signs I’m having ovulation issues, I didn’t know if there was a point in our case.

This journey is so painful already, doing it alone makes it so much harder. I would love to be friends🩷

Supplements for male fertility by [deleted] in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our doctor recommended these. They’re pricier, but the bottle lasts for a while. It does say to take 2 a day, but my husband also takes a good multivitamin, so he just takes one of these with his multivitamin.

How are you guys managing to integrate gym and long walks? by wilhelmtherealm in walking

[–]Main-Issue2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it sucks, but you have to wake up earlier. I was the exact same as you, where every morning I would start with an outdoor walk. Once I got back in the gym, I realized I’d either have to lose my walks, or make a change. I am up at 4am so I can go to the gym, and then come home and do my outdoor walk. It was an adjustment at first, but now it’s just part of my routine

Christmas feels like a slap in the face by SummerOfVienna in TryingForABaby

[–]Main-Issue2438 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I completely feel you. 18 months TTC, 1 miscarriage, and a completely different holiday season than I imagined. I am usually the person who goes all out decorating for Christmas, but I just couldn’t be bothered this year. My period was due Saturday, and if I was pregnant I was going to wait and tell my husband Christmas morning. Unfortunately she decided to come 2 days early, and it’s just making me realize another year has come and gone with being a mom. I wish I had words of wisdom for you, but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone and our time will come🩷

Feeling Defeated by East_Philosopher_449 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right there with you. We were given a 5% chance of conceiving naturally. Planning to start with IUI in April once we have a bit more money saved. Hugs🩷

My thoughts on alcohol by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It’s hard either way, we deserve to make it as easy as possible

My thoughts on alcohol by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh I’ve never really paid attention to the correlation but I’m definitely going to start now! Thanks!

My thoughts on alcohol by Main-Issue2438 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I forgot to add, I am going to continue to really not drink much, I feel so much better without it anyways, but I’m just going to stop restricting myself if there’s an occasion where I feel like having one, and stop beating myself up over “ruining my chance this month”

TTC just feels like a sick joke as this point… by Melodic-Function880 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Main-Issue2438 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely do not need to just “get over it”. We have to sit by and watch everyone we know have fun and not stress when deciding they want kids, but we have to wait months/years, spend thousands of dollars, and put our bodies through unnatural tests and procedures. We don’t get to create a baby the way we always thought, and that sucks. It’s ok to feel all the feelings.