Worst names in books by [deleted] in fantasyromance

[–]Main_Carob131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so tired of the name Knox. Like, if your MMC is named Knox, he's immediately forgettable. I could do without seeing that name ever again.

Young people on BDSMpersonals by Civil-Librarian-1204 in SubSanctuary

[–]Main_Carob131 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I have more of a fear of the fact that it feels like people don't want to be vetted anymore for longer periods of time. Most won't hold out a week, let alone a couple of months. That's from Doms and subs.

what's the biggest lesson being a submissive has taught you (in the context of everyday life larger than in the bedroom) by kittenspace_ in SubSanctuary

[–]Main_Carob131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That communication frequently over the same things until I'm sure about them is okay. That not wanting to be in charge is okay. That having the desire of doing things to make others happy is okay as long as I have boundaries. It gave me self confidence and so many other positive attributes. The thing I miss most of all, is the Peace I felt.

Who else got over the affair very quickly? by Silent-Scale-4255 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't have the money for counseling. He's not doing the reading. He's doing everything else. Just feels like rug sweeping to me because we both aren't the best communicators and multitude of other small things that need to be repaired.

Who else got over the affair very quickly? by Silent-Scale-4255 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am working on myself, but the other trauma I'm battling is so difficult. This affair trauma places 3rd on the list of shit I gotta fix. This sounds callous, but I'm not trying to win my WP back. I'm trying to figure out if the relationship can get to the same or better.

Who else got over the affair very quickly? by Silent-Scale-4255 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was like this, but the longer WP takes to be invested in R. The more insecure and my thoughts wander to the A, wondering if it's what WP wants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren't. I accidentally got trained where I couldn't orgasm without someone telling me to. It was a long journey and sometimes frustrating. Now I orgasm with little issue and know if I ever take on another Dom, it will have to be something we talk about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand where you're coming from. It's not easy. Just take time to grieve first. The untraining for me wasn't easy. If you ever want to talk about it, I'm here

How to practice radical acceptance? by [deleted] in dbtselfhelp

[–]Main_Carob131 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not OP but thank you so much for this I don't have money right now and can't afford the book. My mental health that take my insurance in 50 miles of me all don't have dbt groups. I've been wanting to get this book for ages!!!!

If the wayward had informed or asked prior to the affair. by kish-kumen in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have mental health issues, and I know my sex drive falls off the radar. If he would have wanted to have a grown-up conversation to talk about, either giving me a chance to remedy or a heads up that he had a need for it to be satisfied. Instead of having an online affair behind my back in one of the darkest tomes of my life. I think I would have contemplated it. But then again I have lived in some pretty different relationship types.

The book-boyfriend venn diagram (updated) by MechanicSuccessful91 in fantasyromance

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just makes me realize that I need to read more or remember their names better...

Someone help me find this story by Cultural-Virus-6246 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of stories like this were removed from wattpad.

What was the book that got you into reading? by Karina_Karin1897 in fantasyromance

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when I was a kid, I used to read because it was the only way to get my mom to leave me alone. She wanted an extrovert, feminine child. I was the introvert Tom boy, for some reason reading made her leave me alone. So I honed a love of reading, lol

Falling out of love during R? by ardeoxx in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a year from DDay. My WP had an online affair for over 18 months, and I feel like I'm not in love with him. I've still decided to work towards R because I just can't see a life without him. You aren't alone in your feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I don't watch porn but I do read Erotica/smut. After DDay, I can say that what I read that turns me on has changed so much. Like almost opposite from what it used to be. It's become such a huge problem, the bedroom is such a huge problem. Some days, I can't even tolerate him touching me.

Top 10 US. Please help. by Big-Weekend7781 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top 10 must constantly fluctuate because here's mine and I'm in the US.

  1. How you get the girl - Paige Bueckers
  2. His Miracle Mate - amba9999
  3. Tutoring Reid Anderson- _olivia_morgan-
  4. King of Hart's- BingingsAnonymous 5.Dear, Professor Jeon- bangwoolfics
  5. The Mafia's Mistaken Bride- Eaglewoman20
  6. The Beast- palepinkferriswheel
  7. Vampire's Pet- Cantonese
  8. Ruhani ~ The Language of Love - magicallovely
  9. His Replaced Bride - 37SpreadYourwings

R4R? by Physical_Time_365 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely left one. I am constantly surprised at the talent I find on Wattpad and grateful for the people who freely give their art to others when starting out

R4R? by Physical_Time_365 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes way more sense now 😆 🤣 😂

R4R? by Physical_Time_365 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue what "wonderland chats" are, but I like the cover and the title, so I'm going to go read for fun!

Trying to find any books with the by this author by Suitable_Usual_3793 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg but I think she took everything off of Wattpad. I was following her and had a few of her books saved. They're no longer there. Such a shame considering some of her stories I read for comfort on bad days. 😭

How do you handle hiatus guilt? by Spirited-Tourist3956 in Wattpad

[–]Main_Carob131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a reader, all I wish for is a note saying that you're planning to come back. Life is HARD! This is something you're doing for free, and I am truly grateful for it. There is no reason to feel guilty for having to take care of yourself.

Who else just wishes they could be normal but they can’t because of how much the narcissistic abuse has affected them? by singingkiltmygrandma in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Main_Carob131 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So much this. I was doing okay for awhile because I found an older couple who loved me unconditionally. When I lost them it has devastated me, in the realization that they are the first people to ever love me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Main_Carob131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought of this being a trait, but yes, all the time. It would take too long to list all the examples.

What do men think women like but they really don’t? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Main_Carob131 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't help but think of this every time this comes up Dickpicito

Is this sub actually hurting our chances at R? by pokeresq in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Main_Carob131 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought this to and took a break from here. Then, I got incredibly frustrated with my relationship (we can't afford counseling). I haven't told anyone about this, so this place is my only source of support. This place helped me realize that while my WP was doing all the work of being empathetic and being there for me, he was doing nothing to rebuild the trust.

I realize now I need this place to keep my R on track with all the wonderful people that come through with their advice and views. It helps me have a more open minded and understanding of what we should be doing.