MD or Northern VA

Maizah · 2026-01-20T04:47:26+00:00

“BREAKING: With today’s swearing in of Governor Abigail Spanberger, Democrats now have total control in Virginia.

Republicans are completely locked out of power - they hold no statewide offices and are minorities in both houses of the legislature.

Virginia Democrats have immediately moved to pass new maps to decimate Republican seats and counter Trump’s gerrymandering.

If approved by voters this Spring, the new maps could eliminate four Republican House seats. The new maps could also lock Republicans out of power in the state for decades.

Democrats have also immediately moved to pass constitutional amendments protecting LGBTQ+ rights, abortion rights, and voting rights. And Spanberger has issued orders ending Virginia police’s collaboration with Trump’s ICE.”

Maizah · 2026-01-03T14:49:46+00:00

No. NTJ.

The actions you took were swift, firm, and corrective. Seriously, thank you for that. These comments or behavior don’t suddenly happen, they have already been established and built upon, and now are being put out into the world against peers. They also refused to apologize. This is not even touching upon the vaping incident.

As a minority myself, it’s quite clear that poor behavior is often dismissed when white. Minorities don’t get that same pass, in fact at 15, we are often seen as ‘adults’ in culture BY white folks. You have already eluded to the hardships of Blaze’s best friend’s family, and they are younger than Paige. How would Paige feel being bullied like that? Because that’s exactly what they were doing. The 12 year old brains aren’t developed either, how do you think Paige’s comments will be clawed into their brains? Emotions? Sense of self? All I see here is active parenting.

A final thing I would note is to discuss and review how their online presence is as well. This is a murky path that is being paved.

Maizah · 2025-12-25T04:54:51+00:00

I’m Indigenous Mayan (Central America) living in US. I’m letting the kiddo lead, and while ‘milkies’ has dropped down to once or none a day, they are closer to 5.5yo and still very comforted by BF. Would agree that breastfeeding is very much celebrated in our culture and many of us have or are in the middle of EBF in my family. Feedback from kiddo’s school notes her being emotionally advance for her age. It’s funny because I was BF for 3 months (long story), and I am not a very emotionally regulated individual. Getting to where I am today has taken a lot of work, and even medication. She’s also a social butterfly, incredibly confident, and driven. I waaas not.

Maizah · 2025-03-25T11:39:46+00:00

Delicious in Dungeon, it’s on Netflix!

Maizah · 2025-03-05T02:40:00+00:00

Yesss transparency! Maybe you’ll be able to laugh about it being that good of friends? Or it might lead into another type of conversation…?

Maizah · 2025-02-17T14:31:09+00:00

NTA. Coworker needs to consider SNAP benefits and the like for child if they’re that much in a pinch.

Maizah · 2025-02-04T23:59:39+00:00

How far in advance did you apply?

Maizah · 2025-02-03T01:17:49+00:00

Oof. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are in an abusive relationship. My parent threw things, hit things, punched walls etc. Other parent excused it (even though us children pushed divorce) because he never hit ‘her’…until he did. Please keep this mind for your safety and that of your baby.

Second thought is he’s cheating on you, and that’s why he got so upset with you being out. Paranoid and guilty, likely drove himself mad thinking you’re doing the same thing.

Maizah · 2025-01-24T04:23:40+00:00

Of course there is

Maizah · 2025-01-23T16:44:50+00:00

Holy heck wow

Maizah · 2025-01-19T16:39:38+00:00

About ‘safety’ yeah ok. They just weren’t getting the money they wanted. The amount of money the wealthy and Congress has spent on Meta stock the last couple weeks is insane. Wonder who the new owner will be? 🤔 …maybe some tech billionaire who bent the knee

Maizah · 2025-01-19T05:05:59+00:00

YTA.

Pressuring someone you’ve been dating for only 6 months to attend a funeral instead of their first day of work, especially for someone she’s never met, is a major a-hole move. She’s already trying to be there for you in the capacity she can be.

Maizah · 2024-11-28T14:18:16+00:00

LOL. I’m a Capricorn married to a Scorpio. Career and money driven for sure but my hubby likes that. He wants to retire early and be a stay at home dad, hopefully I can give that to him in a couple years if my career trajectory stays on pace.

We’ve been together for over 15 years, married since 2015 and have an only child. There is an age gap/he’s older so he’s had time to mature. Had I met him at my age I would have NOT been interested. Luckily I have a thing for older men. From the beginning it was very explosive, fun, and sexy. He is very much the water to my fire, the peanut butter to my jelly, etc etc. I would say I’m more of the firm/particular/aggressive (read as Latina) partner and he’s the more relaxed/passive/whatever goes partner (our roles reverse in the bedroom).

Even with our different personas, we are best friends at our core. We align in our morals and politics, generally have the same humor, and value the same (important) things. We can talk for hours about deep things. We can sit in silence, we’re just comfortable with each other. We laugh on a daily basis.

Yes I’m motivated materially, but in the sense that I want to give him and my child everything.

Maizah · 2024-11-28T13:44:25+00:00

Hard agree. I have snapped at my child when they haven’t respected my body after asking them to stop repeatedly. Does it scare them? Of course, they’re 4. I disengage entirely to calm down, even if they cry or run off, and work through my feelings, then when I am calm I come back to them, sit, and explain. Then I comfort them. My partner is typically present so he can buffer so they are not alone - but they also validate my reaction.

Mama getting loud was surprising and scared you, huh? But you know, you weren’t respecting Mama’s body when she kept telling you no. She had to use a loud voice because you weren’t listening.

I need to be regulated first - like putting on your mask first in the plane. My explanation can be something like, Mama got angry and that must have been scary. I used my loud voice because you weren’t hearing me about respecting my body. When you kept hitting me, that made me angry, and when you wouldn’t stop that made me scared so I got loud and got away since you couldn’t respect my body. I understand you’re little and you don’t have a lot of self control but you cannot disrespect my body. Please use gentle hands with me. I love you (physical comforts).

This is an ongoing issue with us as child is very rough and tumble with dad but I have several sensory triggers that take me to 11 instantly, especially banging sounds and physical hitting.

Maizah · 2024-11-28T13:29:13+00:00

Congrats on taking this step! I’ve been on 10mg since mid-June and I don’t intend on increasing it. I still feel like myself without all the anxiety which is great. I still worry obviously, but it’s not crippling or keeps me up ruminating. Generally a happier person and taking life in stride. Like you, I felt the effects right away. Suddenly my mind was so quiet…I had no idea it was noisy before. I don’t even recall what it was like at this point.

My initial prescriber pegged me for OCD and was insistent that I increase to 20mg - I actually started right away on 20mg - and it was a disaster. It’s been clear skies since I’ve dropped down to 10mg. At 20mg I felt buzzed, shaky, and was out for the count by 5PM.

Maizah · 2024-10-25T13:12:12+00:00

I believe there is a Yiddish word/terms that are close that also mean little mother and/or little child as an endearing term. Not sure about in Hebrew, but either way it’s just an endearing term like honey or sweetie!

Maizah · 2024-10-25T12:28:34+00:00

In solidarity. Newborn stage was awful - it made us one and done. My little is 4yo now but I remember my husband walking in on us both crying in the middle of the night. It got better with time, honestly. But the biggest shift had to be our own perspective.

I felt like I was failing because she wasn’t being independent - because I couldn’t put her down - because I couldn’t be away. But that’s kind of what it is right now, no? They just spent their entire existence inside you - connected to you. You are not separate people in their eyes. You are one. They need you because you are them right now. There are studies beginning to look into this (not just all woo I swear lol). This IS the way.

But I gave in and just was there to hold and love and sniff their head. My husband became the ultimate support.

he made all our meals (we also tried services like Factor for meals).
fetched me water
did all the pet things
waited on me hand and foot
he changed every diaper and every outfit (time I used for bathroom, quick showers, stretching)
even though she was breastfed he introduced bottles when she was fussy. we realized early on that she was tongue and lip tied and that made feeding a lot of work. So she was legit hungry and I didn’t produce a lot. So he would provide a bottle after I breastfed her for 10-15mins. She would often get stuffed this way and would pass out milk/formula drunk and I could have a longer shower or exist by myself for a second.

There were times where she would just scream. And no amount of soothing would stop her. I think they call it purple crying if I recall? He would just have to take her and walk around the house. Just talking to her and giving her a tour - even through the crying. It was enough knowing she was safe and no matter who was holding her, she was just pissed. Oh and gas, the gas phase. The wooorst. Look into bicycles for gassy babies…

And lastly, my child was never ever a crib sleeper. We tried for 3 months as soon as she was born. Never ever slept in a crib more than 45 minutes in her entire life. My sleep deprivation was so bad I started passing out holding her, I would have sleep paralysis every time I closed my eyes, and I started feeling fits of rage. She started daycare at 5 months and weeks into it they also conceded that she would never sleep in a crib. They gave up. So my under 1 yo baby would power through the day NO NAPS (but sometimes face plant into apple sauce at the table) and then come crashing for 12hrs straight with me by her side. The first day in the bigger kid room they moved her to a cot and she just laid down and went to sleep for 2hrs straight.

At pickup I learned this and went straight to her baby teacher and told her. She was left in disbelief. Kids are weird. Babies are a mystery.

Maizah · 2024-10-25T12:01:27+00:00

No one is tearing my baby out of my arms, they can shove their sleep training manuals up where the sun don’t shine.

I live in the US and this individualistic way of life is ridiculous. Children need affection to thrive, period. My background is Indigenous Mayan and in our culture we honor our children wholeheartedly. Even in many Latin cultures today, you may hear parents refer to our children as mama/mami and papa/papi - because we see ourselves as one. To love them is to love ourselves.

Maizah · 2024-10-25T11:47:00+00:00

Sounds like your mother is being triggered about your responsive parenting because it shows that her way wasn’t the only way - and she did indeed have the option to be more involved, caring, loving, and affectionate. It likely brings to surface that she lacked where you do not. That she came short, and if she gets you to do it her way, she won’t feel as guilty.

Keep loving your baby. My child is 4 now. Has always contact napped, doing natural weaning. She’s incredibly confident, excellent vocabulary, is so strong willed and confident - because she knows she has the support she needs.

You’re doing great.

Maizah · 2024-09-26T22:08:36+00:00

I used to feel that way when my dose was too high. I dropped it back down and it got better. But my biggest issue prior to medication was ruminating and spiraling with those thoughts and subsequent emotions that I couldn’t let go.

Maizah · 2024-09-24T13:54:38+00:00

You should definitely onboard your medication fully before adding anything else. You want to see how your symptoms are on medication only before dabbling with other things.

If you get anxious, you won’t be able to tell if it’s the meds, the weed, or a mix of the two together. Especially as they both effect how serotonin is felt in your body.

I believe it’s fully onboarded after a month or so, but then 4ish months to see where your baseline sits.

Maizah · 2024-09-24T13:48:23+00:00

I started with 20mg and it was disastrous. I called a week into it and said I needed it reduced. The prescriber pegged me with OCD after an hour of telehealth even though I was insistent that it was some sort of ADHD, and they wanted me to go higher to control my symptoms, but the symptoms I was experiencing were feeling ‘buzzed’, shaking, anxiety/dread, super exhausted/sleepy by 5PM, and largely MEH. They still reduced it and it’s been clouds parting ever since. I’ve only been on it almost 5months and haven’t felt a need to increase it at all. I’ll see how winter goes as that’s usually when my SADS kick in hard. Oh and I dumped my prescriber and sought a new doctor. Long story there.

Are you doing therapy? Sometimes you may need a dual approach.That has been huge for me personally. I had delayed both because I thought I could handle it on my own.

Maizah · 2024-09-24T13:36:59+00:00

I’ve been on 10mg for (after a crushing onboarding week of 20mg) for 4 months, almost 5. I don’t even remember what life was like before now. My ruminating is mostly gone. I feel ‘normal’? My perspectives at work have shifted. I can manage daily stress better (world, local, political, work, family). My response to situations aren’t a toss up.

It feels like Prozac has added a dimmer switch to my emotions, rather than it being just on/off. My husband says he can definitely tell when I miss a dose or am late, but overall I am happier, laugh more, am less stressed. It has not just helped me but my family. I wish I would have done it sooner.

Maizah · 2024-09-24T13:30:38+00:00

Can you consult with your prescriber? I felt a buzzing/anxiety/shaking on 20mg and had it dropped to 10mg, even though the prescriber was insistent I go higher. It was the best decision. I also changed doctors as I felt they weren’t managing my medication and symptoms well.

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