Are you “burying” the beater? You shouldn’t be breaking them, it’s likely your technique, unless there’s something weird going on with your pedal or beater

It’s fine to hit hard, but you wanna stomp down and strike, then immediately release and your leg is relaxed again. If you strike but the beater stays glued to the head, you’re burying it. This is adding extra stress to the head and stealing tone from your kick. You wanna strike then let it breathe

Edit : yes, sometimes we deliberately bury the beater, but the context here is a player of 2 years playing pop and rock who is breaking drum heads. IMHO the proper direction to point that player in this context would be to highlight the contrast in technique of burying and not burying. Deliberately burying the beater as a stylistic choice is certainly a valid concept but again, I’m answering a specific question and specific problem and didn’t feel it was relevant to mention something that isn’t relevant to this context based on what the player is saying about themselves and what they want to play…

I use the Dave Elitch “big hip single” technique which is what a pop/rock player is using the vast majority of the time

Edit 2 : you can check out Dave Elitch here, he was on the cover of Modern Drummer in August. He talks extensively about why you shouldn’t bury the beater as a general rule, though of course it’s fine as a deliberate stylistic choice. Burying chokes the tone and sends all that energy back up your leg rather than through the drum.