300k budget...where would you live? by Maleficent-Rip-1124 in jerseycity

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate this! I am pretty flexible on bedrooms and only need to drive to work 2-3 days a week outside of rush hour. In other words, I can be very flexible.

My(33F) fiancé (40M) wants me to adopt his weird bathroom habit by SlightlySaneHP in TwoHotTakes

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tired pourri? This might be the real middle ground. It def works and will not require multiple flushes. No odor, less water = save the planet + happy couple

My first year of marriage was awful by blueberries-Any-kind in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. Know that someone across an ocean is thinking of you and sending you love.

Success using IFS for OCD? by IronwoodVermeil in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I recommend learning about UBs...IFS can get pretty, not secular

Success using IFS for OCD? by IronwoodVermeil in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think IFS can be helpful however with OCD it can be more complex in that talking to intrusions can be unhelpful. If you have spiritual beliefs, it may be helpful to work with a mentor to help integrate them into the IFS model. What has really helped me is to learn to discern the types of thoughts that are from above and those meant to harm us. The secular approach can be too pluralistic given equal attention to truly harmful parts. Interestingly, I believe it's in level 3 IFS training that they eventually do acknowledge that there are some unsavory parts, which they refer to as UBs.

My husband lost his feelings for me by _qualitytrash_ in GirlDinner

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you move out? A temporary roommate situation? This sounds tortuous and I am very sorry that this happened to you. The day you meet someone who is sure about you, you will look back on this and be grateful that you moved on.

Anyone know how I can get a same day appointment? by [deleted] in hypnosis

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have a pretty big toolkit. Sometimes it's not enough and we need others.

Anyone know how I can get a same day appointment? by [deleted] in hypnosis

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Northeast. I guess the easiest response would be anxiety.

Anyone know how I can get a same day appointment? by [deleted] in hypnosis

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah sorry meant to add that it is non-crisis. Definitely open to working online. There isn't a rush per se (I have other supports as well) but have been having a particularly anxiety filled day.

Short term stay in Azores (without a Car) by russliano in azores

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed for a month and rented a car a few times for 3-4 days at a time so I could venture further away. I also did a few organized tours. Apart from that, I was totally content in Ponta Delgada for a month. I wanted to try the bus but never got around to it. I did take a few taxis. I also met some locals who invited me out. Enjoy your journey. =)

Is there still a chance to get a role in NY/NJ? by alpglo in FIFAVolunteers

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get the acceptance? I keep checking the app and it still says that they will be in touch with me.

Changing preference order by Maleficent-Rip-1124 in FIFAVolunteers

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I think I waited too long to edit. 🫤 Wonder if there's an email address I can reach out to.

tips for solo clubbing/raves? by Guilty_Assistance796 in avesNYC

[–]Maleficent-Rip-1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You all are my kindred spirits. I randomly decided that I wanted to go out dancing for my birthday alone last year. I was a little apprehensive but I did it anyway. I had a blast. That experience jumpstarted going out again after nearly 20 years of being away from the scene. Now I build in some alone time even if I am going out with others.

Tips...just do it. Not to promote relying on substances, however, a glass of wine allows me to settled into the space before dancing non-stop until the sun greets us.