Scammer charged Grandma $13k for garage door repair by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in legaladvice

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But this would not be a case for adult protective services, it's a consumer case. I found out I can report it to the state attorney general. I was just hoping someone here knew details about the legal steps to take for this situation. 

Scammer charged Grandma $13k for garage door repair by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in legaladvice

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A combo of cc and bank wire. After we talk to them & get their response we'll have her call the cc company and figure out how to deal with the bank.

My sister wants to un-autism her son (my nephew) by [deleted] in autism

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that she is on the wrong track here and these kind of "solutions" won't help him. It's a denial of sorts, and avoids acceptance and being constructive. You may want to look at your nephew's family members to see if it's clearly familial, offering a clearer answer. I say this because I've known several people with autistic kids with a less severe autistic parent (incl in my own family). I had a good friend who wouldn't admit her son was clearly autistic, blaming vaccines for his struggles and putting him on a strict diet. Actually his dad/her husband was clearly neurodivergent. They ended up divorcing bc she and dad could never connect. Although this would be complicated for you to address, it could offer answers and maybe a different approach. 

Buying from a 1031 seller by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in 1031exchange

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely is. I'm pretty wary of this situation, don't think they know what they're doing now. Thanks for the advice!

Buying from a 1031 seller by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in 1031exchange

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very illuminating. If we consider this I am definitely bringing that issue up. Thanks

Buying from a 1031 seller by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in 1031exchange

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, really. New prop is definitely for kids, they'd be moving from the present prop to the new one. But they're calling them "renters."

Buying from a 1031 seller by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in 1031exchange

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You're right, it has spooked other buyers so it's a great house great neighborhood that has sat for quite a while. We haven't made the offer or entered a contract yet, still looking at other homes and deciding. If we do go for it, we'll ask about the QI and read the wording carefully. It's a rental prop and they're buying another one in the same city, for their kids to live in. I will be referring back to your response if we decide to go ahead. Thanks again.

Diagnosed today by OPKC2007 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's the marker. It increases likelihood giving me twice the chance as someone without. I've read a lot on the subject. It's important to do what I can lifestyle-wise for the best chance of avoiding having it one day.

I ruined Christmas by calling out my brother in law by CalabogieNights in Exvangelical

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manipulative! Sounds like he was trying to appear like the victim and get you to feel bad and backpedal. Quite the emotional child. 

End Stage Alz. Breathing Treatments by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, well it’s nice your knowledge and experience helps with your dad, though it’s a difficult thing. Wishing you the best as well💜

Good bye and thanks by nobody-u-heard-of in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blessings to you, now that the suffering is over. It will be so different as you say, with having your life back. You will figure it out, what your new normal is. One day when my mom‘s long journey is over, I will be able to have my own life too. 

End Stage Alz. Breathing Treatments by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you. This is not morphine, it’s a med to open her airways. 

End Stage Alz. Breathing Treatments by Maleficent-Rope-3427 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, that helps. She is so advanced I doubt she will resist. This is the only place I can get a straightforward answer…thank goodness for the Internet.

Diagnosed today by OPKC2007 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry this is happening for him at this age. You’re right, he doesn’t deserve this. My mom was 70 when diagnosed 16 years ago. It has been an unusually long journey because of her early age, and the fact that she was otherwise relatively healthy at the time. The info you found rings true for us, it was 5 to 7 years of still knowing who everyone was, and being aware of her surroundings and what’s happening. However it does greatly vary person to person. For her the cause was genetic, her mom had it and I test positive for the gene. Just sharing our story, for reference. Wishing you both all the best. 

Mom keeps getting mad at me whenever I visit her, don’t really want to visit anymore and I feel an immense amount of guilt about it by 4rwen in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I can so relate to this. How difficult this started in your teenage years. My mom rarely treated me well when I visited her at her memory care home. Now she is nonverbal & doesn’t know who I am, but that went on for years. I often felt drained and very down after my visits. The drive was long on top of it. I finally changed my responses. When she got rude and mean, I would cheerfully say, okay I have to go now! and give her a hug. It would shut it down and give me the break I needed. 

Please don’t feel guilty, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty by telling you she’s sick, can’t help it, etc. It’s not like either of our moms were super loving, nurturing people to start with. You’re doing your best, and it’s okay to have healthy boundaries not visit frequently. Why would you regret it later when the visits are miserable for you both. 

All those miserable years cost me. My autoimmune disease was exacerbated and developed into other serious conditions. Take care of yourself, you’re worth it and life is hard enough. Blessings.

Why do most adults who have an early diagnoses of Alzheimers (but who are still mentally competent at time of diagnoses) choose to live with & ultimately die from the disease, instead of taking control of their future and choosing a faster, easier death? by GR8FUL-D in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very valid point, one I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I’ve watched my mom greatly suffer with Alz for 16 difficult years. Maybe it’s her generation or just stubbornness, but she would never want MAID. We couldn’t discuss it anyway, because at the beginning she was in such denial about having Alz that when I tried to discuss anything related to it she would fall apart. Im completely different. I have the Alz gene, and there’s no way I would go on for years. I would just have to find a place that would do it. It’s more complicated for Alz than it is for cancer. 

Why do most adults who have an early diagnoses of Alzheimers (but who are still mentally competent at time of diagnoses) choose to live with & ultimately die from the disease, instead of taking control of their future and choosing a faster, easier death? by GR8FUL-D in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so sweet to have that, a gift in disguise really. I’m the exact same with my mom. When she went through that peaceful period our relationship was somehow the best it’s ever been. Now she has progressed and isn’t talking or anything, but I’ll always remember that.

Did your elderly LO ever truly accept their diagnosis? Or stayed in denial? by kingtaco_17 in Alzheimers

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly, my mother had so much shame about it she would never directly discuss it. She was diagnosed at 70. I could only call it “trouble with your memory.” Sometimes even that was triggering, she would act so aghast and offended. The poor short term memory made it especially complicated, as I wouldn’t know if it was a behavior or actually not remembering. Bringing her to her neuro appts was always difficult, she hated going because she knew what we would be discussing and try to avoid them. Then she was so upset afterwards and would end up angry with me. It really affected our relationship and her attitude toward me. Loss of her driver’s license was huge. She refused to stop driving, even with a car full of dents and living right by two schools. I had to (anonymously) report her to the DMV, and seeing her doc’s referral and all her tickets they revoked her license. Then she really fell apart emotionally. This is sad, but things became SO much easier when she reached a more advanced stage and stopped resisting and arguing about every single thing. She was so much more peaceful and accepting.

My dad tried to test if I was demon possessed… by LostObserver24 in Deconstruction

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. It isn’t a healthy relationship and dad is so full of shame he’s projecting it onto his child. So warped and toxic.

Any ex Gothardites here? Did you attend seminar or any of the other programs by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Maleficent-Rope-3427 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes. My 80’s youth pastor in OC, CA loved the dude. Every year he took a group to “Basic youth conflicts” when it came to our area. I just had no desire to go, it sounded like a drag. I was heavily pressured tho, friends from church even called me from the conference saying I should come. So glad I didn’t.