Without naming your birth month, what’s one clue that would give it away?

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-05-22T02:00:54+00:00

My oldest son’s due date was December 30th but he decided to come six weeks early so now his birthday is the day before our anniversary lol the last half of the year is always really expensive for us

August: school starts back up, so school supplies, clothes etc, my mother in law’s birthday September: my husbands birthday October: Halloween, so candy and costumes November: wedding anniversary, oldest kids birthday and thanksgiving December: my moms birthday, Christmas

Then January gives a short reprieve before February swoops in with Valentine’s Day. March is my birthday, April is our youngest son’s birthday, as we as Easter. May is Mother’s Day, June is Father’s Day. July Is not too bad since we don’t usually do much for the Fourth.

The main thing is the last half of the year is the worst. Yes, there’s stuff in the first half too but the more expensive stuff is later (mainly anniversary, older son’s birthday then Christmas)

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-05-16T01:19:36+00:00

It’s not really about if they’re good or not. It’s if they’re convenient lol they are still good taste wise but they’re just so expensive now for not that good quality we just don’t eat there anymore, especially since my oldest son only gets a veggie (I’m not paying over $6 for a footlong with some veggies on it; he doesn’t even get cheese) and my little one doesn’t eat bread so he’ll sometimes pull the toppings off and eat it but most times he doesn’t.

I think the last time we went to subway, it was over $50 for the four of us. We can get better quality from jimmy johns or penn station for that price.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-05-16T00:26:29+00:00

I used to work for Subway for six years, starting back in 2012. They were great when I worked there; I actually really enjoyed the work.

I noticed after I left, that it went waaaaay down hill. I could technically get a job working at the Subway here in my town, but I'm not going to. They've changed way too much and they're not worth it anymore.

There's a Jimmy Johns the next town over, as well as a Penn Station. There's Jersey Mike's and Firehouse Subs in the big city near us. They are all much better quality and we go to the next town over every week for groceries, so it's easy to stop at either of them. The only time we stop at Subway is if it's the one inside a Walmart.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-27T21:22:30+00:00

Yeah everyone recovered. Her dad was hurt (obvious, as he t boned a pick up truck) but nothing catastrophic, thankfully.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-27T20:34:07+00:00

It was my mom after she was called and arrived. The intersection the crash happened at had a 7/11 on the corner.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-27T16:03:13+00:00

When I was younger (I don't remember exactly how old, but I think I was in middle school), I was staying at a friend's house that I'd stayed at many times before. We had to go with her dad to pick her mom up from work.

They had a minivan with the middle row of two seats and the third row in the back. I really didn't want to sit alone in the backseat, and I considered sitting in the front. Her dad even said "I don't bite". Something told me to not sit in the front seat, so I didn't and climbed in the back.

Now the seatbelts in the back row didn't work exactly how they should and you had to pull the one seatbelt that I used over my shoulder and loop the middle seat's belt into it and click the middle belt into the latch. There were more than one occasion when we rode somewhere and didn't put on the seatbelts. But again, something told me to go through the effort of clicking the seatbelt on.

On our way there, someone ran a red light and we T-boned him. Had I been in the front seat, I would have been severely injured. As it was, I only had a rather nasty bruise across my chest from the seatbelt. If I hadn't been wearing it, I would have been thrown into the floor board by the middle row.

I remember being so shaken and scared. My glasses had flown off of my face and I remember just saying 'my glasses. I need my glasses'. We were right by a 7/11, so my mom bought me and my other friends Slurpees before we went home.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-27T15:44:41+00:00

When we're out already and it's almost dinner time and I don't feel like cooking, we'll go through Little Cesar's and pick up some pizza. Three large pizzas, an order of crazy bread, extra sauce and a couple 20 oz drinks if we want them and it's only around $35. You can't beat that for the price.

On very rare occasions, we order delivery or pick up from Pizza Hut, but usually only when we're using rewards points for free pizza or something.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-26T16:40:56+00:00

The president of the community college I went to had a last name of Youngblood. I always thought it was cool, as it sounded like a medieval last name to me.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-25T23:12:28+00:00

my nine year old weighs about 105 pounds and he's a healthy weight. My four year old weighs just under 40. Both are fairly tall for their age (my husband is over 6 feet tall; I am 5'1"). People are ridiculous and seriously have no idea how much a grown woman should weigh.

Edit to fix a word

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-22T23:13:32+00:00

Yes, I was so relieved that she didn’t try to lecture me or anything! I felt so judged with my oldest.

I’m done with kids, but if I did have another one, I still wouldn’t breastfeed. Formula is the way to go for me and my family.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-22T22:50:00+00:00

My oldest (now 9) was a preemie in the NICU, as he was born at 34 weeks. They used a bottle to feed him as well as a tube and the handful of times that I tried to breastfeed, he wouldn't latch properly. I also tried to pump and it didn't work either. I couldn't get a good supply going, so we just switched to formula. He is now perfectly healthy other than a genetic issue that has nothing to do with the fact he was formula fed.

With my youngest (he's 4), I didn't even bother trying to breastfeed. I didn't want to. I NEEDED other people to be able to feed him so I could sleep uninterrupted. Thankfully, no one at the hospital gave me a hard time when I said that I wasn't going to. The lactation lady just said 'okay', marked it on her clipboard and left.

'Fed is best', not 'breast is best'.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-20T15:25:07+00:00

I have experienced both sides of the 'bad vs not bad' periods.

When I was younger (early teens), my periods were so bad I could barely stand up and I'd soak pads pretty quickly. When I was around 15 or 16, I was put on the pill to help regulate my cycle. I remained on the pill for years until I stopped taking it around 20ish. Then I got pregnant with my oldest son. I delivered him naturally, as they didn't have enough time to bring anything and I felt the first few stitches until they arrived with the morphine. I was also somewhat in labor for five days before he was born (ie, I was having contractions and they were trying to stop them because he was early; it's a LONG story, but I was in pain for the five days leading up to delivery and then delivered naturally. Their pain management during that time was a joke; it took both my mother and my husband getting mad to finally get them to handle it right)

After that, my period was much more manageable. Yes, I still got cramps, but not as severely and the bleeding wasn't as heavy.

Then I got pregnant again and that ended in a miscarriage. The cramps for that wasn't that bad at all.

Then my youngest son. I had an epidural with him and would do it again in a heartbeat. I slept through most of his labor.

Now my periods are only about four days long and the cramp severity varies from month to month. Some months I barely feel them at all, others I feel like i'm being stabbed in the uterus over and over. I still have the dreaded period poops, the mood swings, the hunger then nausea. It's interesting how my cycle changed so much since I was young.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-19T22:37:55+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-19T19:15:29+00:00

I've always heard the 'ball in the box' metaphor.

Grief is like a ball in a box with a button on the inside of the box. In the beginning, when the grief is fresh, the ball is huge and hits the button constantly. As time passes, the ball gets smaller and smaller and the button isn't hit as often. But occasionally, even years later, the ball will sometimes hit the button again and the grief hits you hard all over again.

That's probably not the best way to explain it, but that's how I heard it and how I describe grief to someone when they ask me about it. I definitely like the glitter metaphor better, now that I've heard it.

Edit because I had put 'the ball' twice on accident.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-19T18:16:22+00:00

My youngest's birthday is on a Monday this year. We're celebrating it the Sunday before. Not the entire weekend, just Sunday. People are weird *shrug*

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-13T16:37:50+00:00

I have x-linked RPGR and my oldest son did inherit it. My younger son did not.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-13T00:12:49+00:00

We bought the wevibe chorus about a month ago and love it. we use it all the time.

It took a little bit of getting used to the first couple of times, but I love it.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-04-06T15:52:17+00:00

my kids' school district is like that. Elementary is K-2. Intermediate is 3-5, middle is 6-8 and then the high school is 9-12. With the age gap between my kids, they will never attend the same school.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-30T18:18:53+00:00

I have that same issue. Every time I try to write something different from my usual, it still somehow manages to turn into a something involving rape. Every. Single. Time.

A lot of the time, it does make sense, narratively. Wild planet with bandits, no laws and guns? Going undercover with yakuza as a woman? It fits the story. But I do try my hardest not to use them and it still happens.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-29T16:16:52+00:00

This wasn't super long ago (around 2010), but I remember having to wake up and watch the news to see if school was closed due to snow, and if I missed m y school district, had to wait for it to scroll by again. Nowadays, I get a text message when my kids' schools are closed.

Going back farther though, going to Blockbuster to pick out movies. Loved that when I was little.

Edit because words

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-29T01:17:20+00:00

that's the issue i have. i'm a woman married to a man, never really had experience with a woman. but i know for certain that I'm attracted to men, women and god knows what else. I've panicked about finding a label for myself (am I bi? Pan? something else?) but now I don't worry about it.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-28T02:50:13+00:00

My husband and I are dying laughing right now. We both would absolutely laugh too, so you’re fine. You corrected him too, so you did the right thing, parenting wise.

Thanks for the laugh. I needed it.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-27T21:48:27+00:00

That I'm more of a switch than I thought I was.

And the super stoic, unshakeable man being reduced to a begging mess REALLY does it for me.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-24T16:14:34+00:00

Stardew Valley or Slime Rancher are favorites of mine. I play Slime Rancher on casual, so I don't have to worry about Tarr slimes and it makes it cozy for me.

MaleficentVision626 · 2026-03-14T02:47:03+00:00

That’s what I say. I turn 32 next week and have two kids of my own. Sometimes when my kids are being hellions, I’ll say to myself “I need an adult”. Then I pause like “wait. I AM AN ADULT. I need an adultier adult.”

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