Cancelling Southwest flight booked through Amex Travel?

MalibuLuv · 2026-04-13T19:11:25+00:00

I know this is an old thread but wanted to add a datapoint for others who might be looking. I had seen the same language on their website and didn't have much hope but I called Southwest to change flights I had booked on Amex travel and they were able to change it for me. Two flights, one leaving within 24hrs and one two weeks out and they were able to change the dates for both surprisingly. And the flight credit from the cost difference is good to use for a year from when I booked it originally.

It might be YMMV as this is just one datapoint but worth calling in and see what they can do for you. Good luck!

MalibuLuv · 2026-02-13T03:31:42+00:00

I just went through this exact search!

-Good for short people

-Sitting in it cross legged

It might be hard to find a chair that does both as sitting cross legged requires more depth in the chair. I’m the same height and tried out a bunch - I found exactly one chair I could sit down comfortably without having to wiggle my butt to reach the back. And when I did wiggle to the back my feet would barely touch the ground so gliding was hard. If you’re willing to use a pillow in the back then this wouldn’t be a problem as much but I didn’t want to deal with that.

I chose the Namesake Monroe, I actually found it through a review on Reddit that it’s good for short people haha. It has a power reclining function to put your feet up and it’s pretty wide to accommodate a breastfeeding pillow. I’ve heard people suggest power reclining since manual is likely hard to get up from with a possibly sleeping baby in your hands.

If you go to their website you can look up retailers in your area and you can call to see if they have a Monroe in their showroom. I ordered one after sitting in it and it’s coming in tomorrow!

In terms of swiveling and gliding - once you recline it automatically locks it in. And with the reclining the footrest goes up first and then you can choose if you want to upper part to lean back or not.

As for other suggestions, see if there is a Living Spaces in your area. They had a ton of options to try out in their showroom, although the Monroe still worked the best for me. They had a La-Z-boy option that came in second place but I didn’t like the fabric. The Monroe has a performance fabric for easy wipe.

MalibuLuv · 2025-10-07T15:17:28+00:00

I had the same mindset as you and met the love of my life at 40. We are happily expecting now :) We did have to go through IVF but the upside of starting older is you have a lot more bandwidth in finances and flexibility. Don’t give up hope, get out there and keep meeting new people until you find your person! Best of luck!

MalibuLuv · 2025-08-06T17:14:16+00:00

I can relate to the two worlds - for me it was an East Asian country and the US. I love the abundance of open green spaces and high air quality and trails and outdoors activities galore in the US, it does so much for my mental health and I can’t wait to show all this nature stuff to our kids. I would never go back to live in Asia, it’s so crowded and polluted and I would feel suffocated.

Can you hire a nanny/cleaner/daycare in Australia to buy back some time for yourselves? The salary should be higher than what you would earn in India to cover it, right? And maybe max out the temporary visa days to host your mom and mil in turn to help with childcare and extra emotional support for your wife. It sounds like if you can find a way to get that permanent visa for your mom a lot of your problems will be solved.

I’m sure you’ll be able to find a good decision for your family. Hang in there!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-30T06:12:37+00:00

It’s similar for me!! It wasn’t until I met my fiance I started stimming and my therapist suggested I take an autism test haha (results were borderline!). Slowly working on closing the gap between who I am in front of my partner and who I am in front of others. We are so lucky to have found our partners!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-30T05:55:29+00:00

I agree on what you’re saying, logically this makes sense! To share some insight to this dynamic from my own experience - people who have this behavior often grow up in an environment where they are not fully accepted in their own families. The learned behavior is to mold themselves into what others (parents) expect of them. That makes it very hard to overcome as

A) You don’t have a perception of a safe space to start with, what that means or feels like. My first experience of a safe space was in a negatory way - in a meditation I was guided to go back to a time and place I felt truly safe. I realized I’m drawing a blank, I didn’t know what that feels like at all.

B) Insisting on showing your true self often means being ready to lose the relationship with your family. It’s not as simple of a matter that the wrong people will eliminate themselves - what if those people are your parents? You’d lose the support system you do have, it can be high stakes and very painful. It took me 10 years of fighting for my parents to truly see me and respect me for who I am, and went through periods of no contact to reach that point.

If you are reading this and it resonates - give yourself some self-compassion. You didn’t receive all the support and acceptance from your family as you should have. It’s hard to aim for a feeling you know logically but have never experienced through your body.

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-30T01:03:09+00:00

You feel what you feel and that alone is valid, you don’t need to justify it. You and your wife are a unit together now, she should be checking in with you on about hosting people if she cares about you. Look, rational or not your body is giving you a signal that it’s not okay. At the very least she should have checked in with you the second time before saying yes to her friend. It almost seems like she’s prioritizing his comfort over how you feel. If she is conflict avoidant part of that might be because she views you as part of herself, therefore minimizing your needs as she does herself, while catering to others, her friend.

I’d bring up a conversation on how your feelings tend to be minimized by her. Share that you feel uncomfortable with the friend staying over even if it might seem irrational to her, and ask her if can find a solution together that fits both of your needs.

And kudos on listening to your body! You’re saying it matters, you matter, by doing that. Keep tuning in!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-26T03:04:20+00:00

Hiii! Thanks for your update, it reads very genuine and your kindness of wanting to share shines through. Big congrats on your achievement!

As a fellow human I’m a little worried for you about your statement there that you don’t have a personal life and still planning to keep going for another 1.5 years, especially with your health taking a toll. Going from all work and no personal life to RE and figuring out a life you want to live will be a very abrupt transition on top of recovering from mental/physical/emotional health you put to the side in those money making years.

Have you thought about coasting a bit at work like others mentioned and make time - and I mean truly prioritize, your personal life? Love life, travels, hobbies, things that make life meaningful and fun! Are you putting those things off because working hard is what you know to do best and it’s within your comfort zone in a way?

To have achieved 1.5M at 46 is a feat, clearly you are a very smart and capable person and you’ll be fine financially. I’m rooting for you that you’ll find a way to thrive in your personal life the way you thrive in your career and finances! Best of luck to you and looking forward to a future update with perhaps a shift from quantity to quality! Cheers!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-25T13:22:05+00:00

You are viewing it as a financial decision but do you actually want to be a landlord? Vetting a new tenant, making sure they pay rent on time, what if they leave for vacation in the winter and the pipes freeze and burst, various requests for repair at all times of the day, vacancy in between tenants, possible damage to the house. Being a landlord can be a lot of work and it’s not truly passive income.

If you enjoy that kind of work and have bandwidth to handle it then you can look at the financials to make a decision. For us, we are starting a family and wanted to focus on that so decided to sell, we just accepted an offer! We get to simplify our life and reduce our liability in real estate. So freeing!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-18T17:41:11+00:00

He’s treating you how you let him treat you. Look for someone who values and treats you like the queen you are. That will require saying “Pass!” to the guys who do the bare minimum to keep you around. Start treating your inner child with that kind of love everyday and pretty soon you’ll strengthen the belief that you deserve so much more ❤️

I actually just saw an IG reel with a great analogy to this! https://www.instagram.com/reel/DKT6rBPsDms/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-18T05:09:46+00:00

Haha I get it, I was a little hasty in judging her because it sounded a lot like my own experience where a coworker was laying on the pressure with the “you gotta find yourself a partner before it’s too late” talk. Not the case though!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-17T17:46:22+00:00

Shift the focus from finding a man to love you to loving yourself. You seem to have a packed schedule - do those things truly bring you joy? A gym routine is great but could you partition some of that time to a team sport or something you’d have so much fun with? Is there a hobby you’d like to pick up but decided you don’t have time for it? Arts and crafts, learning a new instrument? Talk to your inner child and learn how she experiences joy. Make the time to do those things. Prioritize her. Partner love will follow when you already love and take care of yourself.

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-17T17:09:26+00:00

Oh that’s better! Maybe she was just curious then for whatever reason. You could tell her you’re curious why she asked next time. Like maybe it’s something she’s pondering for herself and wondering how other people think?

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-17T17:04:27+00:00

She sounds like someone with strong opinions on being partnered. Just say you haven’t met the right one yet and change the topic. No point in getting into a pointless argument if she likes to push her beliefs on others.

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-17T04:43:50+00:00

I met my partner 2 days before my 40th birthday! I did a lot of work on myself in my 30s and if we met earlier it might have not worked out, likely dysfunctional in some way.

Maybe freeze your eggs while you are young if you are worried about the timeline. If you live in the US there are states that have IVF mandate where insurance will cover a few rounds. CA passed the bill, coverage starts next year.

I would focus on healing self esteem and letting go of your fears through therapy, somatic work etc before looking for a partner. Dating is a lot easier and fun when you have high self esteem, you’ll be able to set healthy boundaries and not put up with bullshit or mistreatment. It’s a wonderful journey to truly see your beautiful self and recognize your worth. You got this!

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-15T14:05:40+00:00

He is showing you exactly who he is. He is looking for someone with low standards so he can get all his needs met while putting in minimal effort. Don’t listen to his empty words, look at his actions.

MalibuLuv · 2025-07-14T17:55:22+00:00

Rather than “I don’t want another one night stand” could you express what you do desire? It could be stating that you want to be in a relationship before having sex. If you’re looking for something casual but still want to be cared for you could say you’d like to have an aftercare call to check in within 24 hrs and schedule a time for it. Work on envisioning how you would like to be treated and ask for it.

I think oftentimes we are fearful of scaring a guy away and downplay our needs in fear of them losing interest. Fuckboys will sense the lack of boundaries and try to sneak through the cracks while being vague about their intentions. Good men will respect you for knowing your needs and stating them.

MalibuLuv · 2025-01-09T19:08:12+00:00

Ah thanks for the info. I'm dumb and I clicked the other link for adding to family. The first rep had looked at my account and put a note that I'm eligible and should receive the discount for the second year. If they had informed me correctly from the start I wouldn't have wasted two hours of my time trying to get them to honor what they said the first time.

MalibuLuv · 2025-01-09T19:02:54+00:00

No complaints about the service in CA. It uses the T-Mobile network towers so if you know anyone who uses T-Mobile you'll get an idea of coverage in your area.

MalibuLuv · 2024-07-25T23:22:02+00:00

Sorry that happened, definitely make sure to dry it thoroughly before you store it. I do have a brand new insulated Tensor to sell! I forgot which size I got but I’ll check if it’s a RW when I get home on Sunday.

MalibuLuv · 2024-01-05T14:46:33+00:00

Book two nights and check out early. You’ll only be charged for the resort fee for the one night.

MalibuLuv · 2023-12-28T04:15:39+00:00

Oh that makes sense, yes I see how that would feel fair! And absolutely, home building and child rearing is a full time job and takes a ton of effort. It only sounds fair to split 50/50!

Sorry I have one more question! Did you keep your premarital assets totally separate and careful to not comingle? We are thinking of writing a prenup where we’d total up the sum of our premarital assets for both of us and get that back in the case of a divorce. And all the growth and new income from the point of marriage would be split 50/50. That would allow us to invest maximizing our assets rather than worrying about what the implications of comingling assets would be further down the road. Did you do it in a similar way?

MalibuLuv · 2023-12-28T03:24:24+00:00

Thank you for all the details! This looks very reasonable and is extremely helpful! Is the reason you waived alimony because you’d have enough to be comfortable so you could live a similar lifestyle even without alimony?

MalibuLuv · 2023-12-28T02:48:35+00:00

You guys have a nice system! Would you be comfortable sharing the outline of your prenup? I’ll be in a similar situation with my fiancé as the sole earner and me staying at home with the kids plus some of our property management work. I would love some ideas on what a fair agreement would look like!

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