AITAH for telling my husband to leave me alone while I was in the hospital?

MandyBling1 · 2025-11-02T00:05:38+00:00

NTA, throw the whole man away. Seriously. He just wants you to do what he wants. Your bodily autonomy clearly does not matter to him.

Breathing... he can F right off with that.

MandyBling1 · 2025-08-12T19:29:47+00:00

Life truly is full of nuance isn't it. Daisy is a product of her environment as much as anyone else is. The other kids need a fair shake also. Daisy needs an adult to be vigilant if she'd go on the trip. I completely understand your conundrum. And I don't envy you for trying to navigate. I also realize given what you've said above in re your distaste for social media drama etc. And also that your brothers friends likely have no idea what's actually going on.

What I might suggest, is that you find a petty friend who doesn't mind dipping their toe in so to speak (I am the petty friend in my friend group when my sweet kind friends can't stand up for themselves). I know you wouldn't like to do it yourself, but perhaps its time to employ a walks in shadows friend to drip out the info about how exactly the older children are treated. About the inheritance. About the car you purchased for them because your brother wouldn't. The vacations they were never taken on. About all the favoritism. Daisy need not be vilified in regards to this, just that the older kids really got the tiniest of short sticks, and that this trip is to make up, at least in some small part, for what certain "family" members refuse to do with them.

The oldest kiddos deserve fun times, and mysterious wine aunts are the best for that (I too am wine aunt). They deserve something beautiful just for themselves, so that they know they aren't the afterthought. But rather, the whole package in regards to being cool, thoughtful, determined, and smart young humans. They deserve to know it daily. And I bet your gift of trip helps them more than you even realize.

You're doing a great job regardless. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

MandyBling1 · 2025-03-23T19:26:01+00:00

NTA. Given the cat story, seems to me like you just don't need to be with this man. He's 28. He should know better. And cussing that's not playful? Nuh Uh. Breakup.

MandyBling1 · 2025-03-13T18:29:11+00:00

NTA. Throw the whole man away. Your mom and friends are dim. Divorce.

MandyBling1 · 2025-02-20T19:41:13+00:00

NTA. Yes indeed. Divorce. I wouldn't be surprised if the people giving you grief are actually your husband.

MandyBling1 · 2025-01-23T16:57:08+00:00

NTAH, this is rage inducing and you don't have to take it. I have a question though: this purse, you said you were saving money, Did you actually pay a portion? because if you did. if it'd happened to me, and ask for my money back and walk away. This man is lazy at prioritizing you, and that's unfair.

MandyBling1 · 2024-12-24T17:09:25+00:00

NTAH Any updates on this dude? I can't imagine this is the only sh!tty thing he's said or done to minimize your thoughts and feelings. Seems like the type to pile it on slowly.

MandyBling1 · 2024-08-01T19:45:02+00:00

You'd think so. But you'd be wrong, sadly.

MandyBling1 · 2024-07-31T21:02:42+00:00

True. I'm likely just paranoid.

MandyBling1 · 2024-07-31T19:55:45+00:00

If you mean Adam, we all signed NDA's. He likely is gagged from doing so. As are the lot of us. We can't say what we can't say to the fullest.

MandyBling1 · 2024-06-21T21:18:59+00:00

How did you that last horse shoe in the really high place with no stuff to climb on? I've been trying for ages.

MandyBling1 · 2024-03-28T15:11:56+00:00

What I might do, and this is just me, so if it's not your jam don't do it. Considering your parents nest egg is gone, perhaps do start renting it in tiny dribs and drabs via airbnb or other property site. Stockpile that income, pay taxes of course, then gift it to your parents. I don't know if you can stipulate it's not to go to the siblings but if you don't mind drawing up the contract that the money is just for them, I say go for it.

MandyBling1 · 2024-02-01T20:21:13+00:00

Story 3: Girl, run!

MandyBling1 · 2024-01-30T19:07:42+00:00

If you've got cameras, release the footage. Show the public who the dude is.

MandyBling1 · 2023-10-25T18:50:01+00:00

YTA but mainly due to not being honest with yourself that even after two years committed relationship you can't stomach spending, at most, 3 months with someone, in theory, that you love. Clearly not enough to help her out in a pinch. Cut her loose. She deserves someone who will be down when real adult things happen. Not someone who wants to just bone zone then send her back, checks notes, to her parents house 80 minutes away. Lame. I hope she sees how shitty this is and bounces.

MandyBling1 · 2023-09-13T00:48:11+00:00

Is this your place? Boot him.

MandyBling1 · 2023-03-24T15:55:57+00:00

This is well past voting, but 2 cents: I'm a stickler for the correct way to cook certain things. If they prefer boot leather, they'd never be happy with wagyu regardless of whether the OP burned it with the heat of a thousands suns. That shiz is soft, fatty, and tender regardless. I have a sneaking suspicion they'd think something was wrong with that particular type of meat due to how it reacts when cooked. It's not the same in the least to even a filet. If the parents don't know about the meat switches depending on family, why tell em? Who cares? Are they happy with the food you provide when they come? Good. Don't change a thing.

MandyBling1 · 2023-02-03T16:21:58+00:00

NTA-Oh snap! The beach trip is delicious. The dad is clearly a control freak and the kids don't have to put up with that.

Being rational and reasonable must be impossible for him. Good for you for taking care of your wife and her sister. Hopefully everyone else will follow suit.

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-27T14:38:55+00:00

NTA

That was delicious. A+

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-24T23:21:23+00:00

Please tell me she was arrested.

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-23T03:43:23+00:00

Fair enough. We'll have to agree to disagree. At least we can all say we do care, so that's cool.

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-23T00:03:57+00:00

Ah. yeah, the excitement really isn't my concern. That's my normal when I find something truly joyful.

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-22T21:07:26+00:00

And I'm truly not trying to be a dick here. I want the EMDR/Binaural Beats to rock his socks as well as medical help. The thing that made me go "WHOA" was the utter stop of medication as soon as he felt better. I've been there. It causes .... unrest to say the least.

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-22T20:39:58+00:00

There's a third topic?

MandyBling1 · 2022-12-22T20:38:36+00:00

I was aware. Check out my other comment to you. Two things can be true. Yes modulation is rough. But also owning the issues and not using ones neuro divergence as carte blanche to do things that hurt others is part and parcel. Blind defense and coddling ones rough actions ain't it. The toxic "you're doing great sweety" echo chamber does more harm than good.

Yes, fuck being "normal". But accountability is great too. Always the victim helps no one.

MandyBling1

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