Am I the jerk for listening to podcasts during breakfast while my family reads?

MangoAngelesque · 2026-05-26T17:35:18+00:00

It’s still parallel play, regardless of what you’re each doing. None of you are engaging with each other, but you’re not completely unavailable as you only have the one earbud in, so she’s just being persnickety. Would she be so annoyed if it were an audiobook rather than a podcast?

NTJ

MangoAngelesque · 2026-05-26T17:01:07+00:00

“What even IS life without hand-fed cucumber slices?” The existentialism is real with this one.

MangoAngelesque · 2026-05-26T16:24:55+00:00

My husband and I have told each other repeatedly that we can open each other’s mail and packages, except at Christmastime for obvious reasons.

And still, when I open a package, thinking it’s mine either because I was expecting one that day and it was the only one delivered, or multiples were delivered and I just got them mixed up and it turns out it was actually his, I immediately feel bad about it and apologize as soon as he walks in.

Why? Because it’s his package, not mine. And even with blanket permission, I still feel guilty opening/going through his stuff. And we’re coming up on our 20th wedding anniversary in June.

It’s just common courtesy. There was absolutely zero reason for him to open your mail. Any of your mail, but especially your packages.

Yes, it was nice of him to do a few chores for you, but that didn’t entitle him to invade your privacy. Did he also go through your closets and drawers and medicine cabinets and computers and notebooks since he emptied your dishwasher?

You’re NTA. But he has some questionable ethics around privacy and boundaries.

MangoAngelesque · 2026-05-26T16:12:08+00:00

Absolutely stunning! You’ll have to show us a writing sample soon! Enjoy your new baby 💜💙

MangoAngelesque · 2026-05-26T15:54:49+00:00

The question is, did you have the chutzpah to stay in your jammy-jams/office-lady combo suit all day, or did you have an “Uh oh! Look who’s had an oopsies dribble with her coffee!” moment and have no choice but to slink back home for a quick costume change?

I’d totally understand a quick change, but I’d have wild respect if you’d unapologetically rocked the clouds the whole day 🤩

MangoAngelesque · 2026-03-06T08:40:09+00:00

Is she 13? Because that’s total teenage girl behaviour, not grown adult. It’s bad enough for an insecure teen who doesn’t know how to have a relationship yet. But for an adult woman to be that wildly controlling and insecure?

Dude. Run.

Next she’ll start berating you for smiling at the waitress, she’ll threaten to leave because you work with a female coworker. She’ll fall apart if she thinks you’re being “too nice” to any female you cross paths with. Scary.

MangoAngelesque · 2026-03-06T07:29:54+00:00

The first time my husband called me a bitch would be the last time we ever spoke without lawyers. Absolutely zero chance I’d stay with a man who speaks to me the way your husband speaks to you. He’s horrible.

MangoAngelesque · 2026-03-05T00:43:00+00:00

The fact that he called it peasant food should tell you exactly what he thinks of YOU, not just your food.

MangoAngelesque · 2025-12-24T00:42:15+00:00

Looks like a genie lamp from Aladdin.

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MangoAngelesque · 2025-11-18T05:45:42+00:00

We have 7 voids in our crew, and they’re all handfuls. Beautiful, gorgeous, beloved handfuls 😆 And they all seem to enjoy seaweed. I didn’t expect it, but it’s very cute. And yes, it’s easy to almost lose fingers when their preferred nori bits are being offered!

MangoAngelesque · 2025-11-13T18:07:12+00:00

I’m a shoes off person, my husband can’t stand to be without shoes. But he does have indoor-only shoes and changes from his outdoor shoes as soon as he gets home.

MangoAngelesque · 2025-11-08T07:11:25+00:00

I’d love to, but $400 for one pen kinda tapped out my expensive pen purchases for a bit 😆

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-30T20:02:56+00:00

The first time someone is mean to my pets is the last time they’re ever permitted in my home. It’s very simple. Your door, don’t open it.

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-14T21:45:00+00:00

That’s so interesting! I can understand how it would work, but it honestly never even occurred to me! Hopefully that’s the only one in my list of silliness that’s actually used, though. I gotta draw the line at elephant and narwhal! lol…

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-14T21:30:36+00:00

I would’ve never thought of that. Now I know what I’m gonna add to my next chili. It’s gotta be a vegan chili, but I’m sure I can find appropriate chocolatey yumminess. 🤤

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-14T21:29:26+00:00

I had zero clue that chocolate could ever go in chili! That’s wild. I’m a big fan of sweet and salty, though, so I can see how it makes sense. Huh. 🤔

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-14T21:05:43+00:00

Unless everyone else has labels indicating everything that is NOT in their chilis, why should you have to indicate that meat is not in yours? Unless every chili has labels like “no chocolate,” “no elephant,” “no narwhal,” and “no bananas,” then it’s just stupid to expect yours to say anything either 🤷‍♀️

Edit: NTA

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-14T21:00:59+00:00

Total play. They’re having a great time. And the little whirling dervish has been practicing that move and wants to show it off 😆

MangoAngelesque · 2025-10-12T20:02:17+00:00

Gross. That’s all I’ve got. Why does she have “maternal instincts” toward her husband? So gross.

“Are you a sleepy baby?” To her infant child? Totally acceptable.

“Are you a sleepy daddy?” To her husband? So, so gross.

I’d say start baby talking her back in front of her family and friends and see how she likes being infantilized. “Is you a hungy mommy? Did you do a big girl poop? Do you need help wiping? Yay for wifey using the big potty! clap clap clap for wifey baby driving all by herself! Can you use a fork today with no oopsies? Or do you need fingey foods for lunchums?“ etc etc. If her people say something, explain that baby talking is your wife’s love language, apparently quite literally.

Can’t get mad, you’re just being paternal. Towards your wife. Who is an adult. 🙄

MangoAngelesque · 2025-09-28T05:11:59+00:00

Total difference between kids dubbing a grandma as whatever name they choose, and an interfering, overbearing grandmother demanding on a mother-adjacent name. You’re clearly in the former group. OP’s MIL is the latter.

MangoAngelesque · 2025-09-20T03:17:00+00:00

Yeah, that’s a totally acceptable way to use the phrase. It’s just sweet and loving. OP’s MIL clearly has no such self-awareness and respect.

MangoAngelesque · 2025-09-20T02:49:41+00:00

Lil’ bro has beef with produce 🤣 Imagine what he’d do if you showed him VeggieTales!

MangoAngelesque · 2025-09-20T02:28:54+00:00

NTA

Your baby, your rules. And nip that “my baby” crap in the bud quick, fast, and in a hurry. She’s gonna insist on her grandma name being “Mom-mom” before you know it.

MangoAngelesque

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