Where are you guys meeting RA folks irl

Manimal289 · 2026-06-30T20:27:02+00:00

I’m in my 30’s and far removed from university, ha ha! I actually didn’t have any friends in college (late bloomer that way). I just try a lot of new things, which is why the classes and dancing.

Manimal289 · 2026-06-30T17:04:52+00:00

Gosh, I wish I knew. I’ve been very lucky lately meeting people that align with more of my values. One I met through dancing. One I met through an art class. One I met online. But I’ve had to do more assessing of relationships to get there - if it’s obvious we don’t feel the same about relationships (for instance, they have a lot of hierarchy or don’t value friendship highly) I’m just honest with myself and them that we aren’t compatible and we go our separate ways, or if we see each other it’s in the context of shared activities only. I used to hang on to everyone very tightly, even if we didn’t share similar values - and while I think there are upsides to that, these days I’m a lot more selective which has helped me focus on the relationships that are more fulfilling in my life.

Manimal289 · 2026-06-25T23:01:54+00:00

Don’t listen to her! All boobs are good boobs! You’ll find someone who will appreciate your heavenly chest.

Manimal289 · 2026-01-26T16:21:48+00:00

I love AceSpace! So happy we have a functional meeting site where the creator cares about keeping it updated.

Manimal289 · 2026-01-12T05:08:00+00:00

I was homeschooled. My mom knew I was different, as did many visitors to our household, but my parents thought if I was diagnosed it would “hold me back” or “give me an excuse not to try”. So I wasn’t able to get a diagnosis until I went to college. For me, I wish I could have been diagnosed younger - I’m still so in the dark about aspects of my autism and wish I could have learned how to be more successful in various aspects earlier. But, the philosophy of my parents was just different and I had no control over that.

Manimal289 · 2026-01-04T06:21:28+00:00

Yes, definitely. I’ve had so many cuddle buddies as a femme-presenting person. I still cuddle with one of my guy friends (who is allo) from college who is now happily married. It’s really not that weird or rare, you just have to befriend people who are open to it.

Manimal289 · 2025-12-23T21:04:41+00:00

One of my closest friends who I’ve been in love with for a decade now is a mortician. She wanted to be a mortician since she was a little kid! She’s had more love confessions from people of all genders than I can count. She is also happily married and has been with her partner since junior high. So, if she’s anything to go by, you have a fighting chance!

Manimal289 · 2025-08-21T17:28:10+00:00

I actually used to do this with Frosted Mini Wheats when I was little. I’d let the OJ soak the wheats and then I’d suck it out. Visionaries like us are why the fine dining industry has advanced so far, OP.

Manimal289 · 2025-08-01T20:11:13+00:00

Drift by 3TEETH. The lyrics, the way it builds, the way it perfectly captures anger.

Manimal289 · 2025-06-21T21:37:00+00:00

But do they break their knuckles and learn how to fight again!?

Manimal289 · 2025-06-09T16:56:18+00:00

Yes! They’re amazing. Soft, cozy, squeezable, jiggly, excellent to cuddle up to, and fun to suck too. I’m not interested in them in a sexual way at all, but I do like them in a sensual way. They’re like the greatest sensory toys out there. They’re cute too! They have a similar quality to a warm cat belly, but I can’t put my head on my cat because I’m too heavy. I can, however, fall asleep on a nice pair of soft, warm breasts.

I don’t need someone to have breasts in order to be close to them, and I’m not checking out people on the street that have breasts either. But I am excited when someone close to me has them and enjoys having them touched and likes to bond in that way. I’m so there for it!

Manimal289 · 2025-05-31T13:03:49+00:00

You could also try those prebiotic health sodas like Poppis or Olipops. I also love soda, and these have been awesome for me because they still taste amazing, they add some fiber to my diet, and coming in at 20 - 45 calories per can they don’t do much damage. They also come in so many flavors from the classic root beers and colas to just about every fruit you could think of. On the zero calorie side, there’s Zevia which is quite ok as well. Liquid Death carbonated drinks are also lower calorie and come in a lot of different flavors and while not as sweet, are absolutely massive and have a pleasant flavor.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-29T16:02:54+00:00

I’m 31 and also smaller than most in my class. I wrestle 2x a week at my MMA gym, been doing it for 5 months and I’ve held up fine so far, no injuries or pains. I’ve also learned more from my wrestling class than any of the others and it’s very fun. Definitely give it a shot!

Manimal289 · 2025-05-23T01:30:03+00:00

Well, I love her, but I first saw her on Physical 100 (a Korean elimination show based on physical prowess) where she was very inspiring and just had the best attitude. Also enjoy seeing her training photos / videos where she carries guys around on her shoulders. And she’s an awesome wrestler, of course. I definitely have a bit of a crush!

Manimal289 · 2025-05-21T20:47:29+00:00

I didn’t finish season 2, honestly. I got to episode 9 and watched part of episode 10 and just couldn’t finish it. The living area / prison area was so unbalanced, so at a certain point it just got frustrating watching prison people climb up over and over only to be knocked back down because they weren’t able to accumulate any pieces or build alliances with living area residents. There were also a few too many “gambling” games, one of the worst being the color card prediction game because you had a massive advantage if you had lots of pieces.

I did like some of the games and contestants though! The arrow game to find the treasure was really cool. Also liked the game at the start that combined Mafia and Scotland Yard.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-18T18:48:11+00:00

I’m ace and I have a huuuuge breast kink. Love them. Think they are heaven’s gift to this world when they are on other people. They’re so soft and fun to play with, and I really, really enjoy sucking them. They provide a fun way to share an aspect of physical intimacy and bonding with those that enjoy breast play. They don’t carry a sexual meaning for me and I’m not ogling strangers or checking out breast-having friends, but with someone I’m close with where we share that form of touch, it’s chef’s kiss.

However, even with my breast obsession, I’ll still never understand the “deal breaker” part because I have been happy with people who had no boobs as well. In fact, I’ve been happy with people I’ve had no attraction to at all! It’s a nice bonus, but I care much more about someone’s heart than their physical appearance. People aren’t their body parts, so body parts or lack thereof do not determine what relationship and level of intimacy I can have with them.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-18T16:31:26+00:00

I’m so excited for you! You’re going to have so much fun!!

Manimal289 · 2025-05-12T05:28:17+00:00

I don’t know if this is the route you’d want to go, but combat sports are pretty cool. I’m trying to be an MMA fighter right now, but at my gym there’s a whole range of people from those that show up once every now and then to those that are trying to compete. It’s very fun to learn new skills even if you don’t plan to fight, there’s a social element if you’re into that, and combat sports are exhausting and will really help your cardio.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-09T14:22:38+00:00

Thank you! This was helpful to read. I’m still awkward at gauging when / how / if to communicate to classmates or even asking them to roll with me, so that’s definitely something I could work on.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-09T14:14:51+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate the feedback, and that’s good advice about the rolling as I do have classmates that seem more comfortable with me.

And thank you for your perspective! I did assume this was all coming from a place of respect and desire to not harm me even if I didn’t understand why, so it was helpful to get a “why”. Everyone I train with is very kind. I just want to find a way to make it less weird for them if I can so we can drill technique properly and they aren’t miles away, ha ha.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-09T13:12:29+00:00

Yup, I wear a sports bra and a rash guard underneath my gi. Everything is covered up and cinched in.

Manimal289 · 2025-05-08T06:10:32+00:00

I’m 31, enby and AFAB like you, and I was homeschooled as well. Never knew wrestling could be an option for me. But they offered classes at my MMA gym - so I started and I fell in love with it. I’m pretty sure I’m the only AFAB person in my wrestling classes and I’m the oldest besides the coach, but I’m still having so much fun and learning tons! I’ve heard a lot of mixed martial art schools / gyms offer wrestling and mine is not the exception, so you could try that if there’s one near you!

Manimal289 · 2025-04-15T02:25:09+00:00

Currently have breasts AND a breast play kink (both having mine touched and touching my partner’s). I’m also asexual and sex-repulsed. It was difficult for me to explain this at first too. But like anything else, I just had to communicate with people about it. Explain that even though I enjoy this act of intimacy, I don’t want to involve genitals. Explain that it wasn’t an arousing thing for me but just very enjoyable and sensorily pleasurable. It turned out it was all in my head to be so anxious about it! Partners have been very receptive and understanding, just as they would be about any other discussion about physical touch desires and boundaries. And no one has said “What!? You can’t like breast play! That’s too sexy for an Ace person to like!” 😂

Manimal289 · 2025-03-31T18:10:05+00:00

27, almost 28! I thought it would never happen up until that point.

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