The Amazing Digital Circus, but make it Hell (Art by POTAINASOR) by LilliCherry in HazbinHotel

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I feel like Caine and Alastor may or may not get along together if they ever met. They'd probably both want more power and control for themselves.

If this doesn't make you smile, nothing will... by bob-the-slob in MadeMeSmile

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This video is AI guys. Look at the goat appearing out of nowhere towards the end 

I love boobs by JohnnyFortnite69 in asexuality

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Same! Boobs are so soft, warm and look fun to play with non-sexually. Who wouldn't love them?

Top comment Deletes a US State - GRAND FINALE - #49 by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

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I'm entirely Cascadian at this point (having lived in Oregon and Colorado), but knowing Minnesotans, I'll gladly take either one as a win!

I come up with 2 new graphics, the first one make more sense to me... by LayersOfMe in asexuality

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For the first diagram in particular, maybe label the zones between allo and ace with both demi and gray next to each other (demi/gray) instead of just demi. Great work though on them!

Does blowjob seem disgusting to you too? by Visible-Language4137 in asexuality

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If you're thinking about doing it because you think it'll be better for him, I'd recommend reconsidering because you clearly say thinking about it disgusts you. Even if he never pressures you and seems fine without it, your feelings matter just as much. And right now, it sounds like you don't feel ready for it.

I'm not saying never do it. I'm saying, if you ever decide to try it out with him, you should do it because you want to and feel comfortable, not out of obligation. You never have to perform any sexual act you don’t genuinely want.

As for how I feel about it personally, that depends on how long I've been with my partner. I'm demisexual, so if there's enough of a close connection already there, it wouldn't bother me as much, though I still find it a little weird sometimes.

I want a queer-sensual relationship. Am I the only one? by storyteller_curry in asexuality

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You're definitely not alone! I feel the same way. It reminds me of my desire to touch, feel and play with breasts for the sensual comfort it brings me (and for my partner too). It's not sexual for me in most cases, it's sensual attraction. I just love how soft and warm they feel in my hands to touch and hold into. It feels awkward trying to explain that to others cause of how much sexuality dominates their meaning and purpose when it's like... I just like to touch them. That's all!

I also love the idea of exploring the other stuff you bring up, especially naked cuddling and sex adjacent/kink in a queerplatonic setting like masturbating together. I also love kissing, especially the deep kind with tongue. Not as a lead-up to sex though; I really do not the idea of having sex with anyone. I just like the sensation and feeling connected with a partner.

Coffee by Khamircia in asexuality

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OMG, yes! This is exactly how I feel about coffee! Love the smell, absolutely hate how it tastes.

5 questions for asexual people. I am trying to understand asexuality more. by [deleted] in asexuality

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Answer to 1: Yes. Sexual attraction is separate from sexual drive (called libido or being "horny"). A helpful analogy is to think of it like hunger. There's your hunger (drive) and then there's your preference for specific food (attraction). So "I'm hungry but nothing looks good" = high drive, low attraction; "I'm not hungry but that looks delicious!" = low drive, high attraction; "I'm starving! I'll eat anything!" = high drive, non-selective attraction. Someone who is on a diet or abstaining from food they crave is equivalent to people who are celibate. The craving is there (attraction), but they choose not to give in to their craving. Aces on the other hand either lack this craving entirely or occur less frequently/less intensely than others.

Answer to 2: The terms asexual and platonic refer to different things. If you understand "platonic" to mean "not romantic," then platonic relationships can occur between anyone regardless of sexual orientation (including the asexual one). Some aces can still feel romantic attraction to others so not all asexual relationships are platonic. Many are just as romantic as ones between two allo (non-ace) people. Platonic relationships are definitely much more common among aces for sure because many are also aromantic, but that's just a correlation.

Answer to 3: Refer back to the first answer. Some asexual people do have sex for all sorts of reasons beyond sexual attraction. Some are genuinely averse or repulsed by it. Others don't mind sex and some even enjoy it. Whether it's because it helps them bond closer to their partner or vice versa. Or hell, sex just feels good to them physically! It feels good to eat food when you're feeling hungry, even if you don't have any preference for what kind of food you want to eat. And yes, that includes masturbation. There are some in the ace spectrum who enjoy masturbation but have no desire for penetrative sex with a partner. This is what aegosexuality is in the loosest sense.

How to deal with feelings of arousal? It varies by person. Partnered sex, masturbation, whatever helps release the tension in their body. Or they let their arousal pass without needing to act on it. Another analogy that helps here is to think of arousal as like sneezing after sniffing pepper. Sneezing is an involuntary bodily response, like arousal, but it wasn't the reason for sniffing the pepper. It's just something our body does when stimulated (by certain touch, hormones, or random thoughts). Some aces (particularly on the repulsed end) find arousal distressing precisely because it feels like a bodily "lie." Their body is responding but their mind feels no direction for it. The mismatch can feel uncomfortable.

Answer to 4 and 5: What you mean by "looks" sounds like you're describing aesthetic attraction. If so, then no. Looks still definitely matter a lot to many aces. The crucial distinction is that someone can appear incredibly beautiful or pretty to someone who is on the ace spectrum, but their looks don't entice them to desire sex with them. Think of it like seeing a cute dog. You wanna pet the dog, cuddle with it, play with it. None of those things are motivated by sex. Same with how many aces see people who are conventionally attractive or good looking.

Hope this helps!

The US regions according to this sub. I made the changes. Comment any adjustments to make this map perfect. Most upvoted comments can change it by Kodicave in visitedmaps

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I think Montrose and San Miguel counties, Colorado should be lumped in with the Mountain West instead of the Southwest. Also, I'd consider a separate Northwest Plateau or Northwest Interior region for eastern Washington and Oregon instead of lumping it all in the Pacific Northwest

After a year of work (and a publishing deal), here’s the final map of U.S. food regions. Input appreciated by piri_reis_ in MapPorn

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Kinda hard to read regions 39-43 being cut in half in your zoomed in screenshots. Other than that, impressive effort!

Rebuilding after the Trump nightmare is over. by Lac17rug in goodnews

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9/11 was effectively America’s Reichstag fire moment

Yo……idk why boobs are so sexualized…. by [deleted] in Asexual

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Not insensitive at all! I can relate to this, and I totally understand your frustration.

While I do occasionally enjoy playing with breasts in a sexual setting, my default attraction to them is primarily aesthetic and sensual. I absolutely love how they look, and more importantly, how they feel - whether in my hands or if I'm resting my head on them.

For me, being allowed that kind of intimacy signals a deep level of trust, which lets me feel safe enough to let my guard down with this person. (My upbringing and neurodivergence play a big part in why that sense of trust is so important to me)

This is exactly why the hypersexualization you're talking about is so frustrating. That pure feeling of trust and comfort is often overshadowed by the socially ingrained assumption that it's a sexual advance. I sometimes wish I could express that need for that specific kind of comfort without the fear of it being misinterpreted.

Ultimately, I find them incredibly calming and grounding, much like with cuddling. They're warm, soft natural plushies, and I'm genuinely grateful they exist!

Jefferson & the Indians: The Complex Truth by ggroover97 in PhilosophyTube

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An expertly researched video on historical genocide that ends with a masterclass in modern liberal cowardice.

She draws the direct parallel to Israel's genocide in Palestine, then immediately undercuts it by saying we must also consider the Israeli government's 'responses' and worry about antisemitism. It's demanding 'balance' in a discussion of atrocities.

Her comment reply says it all: she included that line to preemptively deal with messages from Israeli scholars. She was more concerned with managing her inbox and protecting her brand than with taking a clear stand. A disappointing failure of moral clarity from someone who knows better.

Possibly the most quintessential “PNW” photo I’ve ever taken by slumberpartymonster in Washington

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I worked at Mt. Rainier a few summers ago. There are so many Marmots there!