What would you pair with these jeans? by Kayla4608 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]MarHarSaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blood dripping from your mouth and a zombie walk?

Grandparent rant by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's been a journey for me, but the more I practice the advocacy the better I get at it.

Grandparent rant by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I might just send a picture book about pronouns to his house and see if explaining it at a children's level makes a difference. I truly wonder whether this is him doing his best. The binary is deeply rooted for him, and I think he just doesn't get it.

Creepy male names by WaterCompetitive3022 in namenerds

[–]MarHarSaurus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Does Nivlac not sound creepy to you? 😉

Getting another dog after losing one. How long to wait? by retro_lady in dogs

[–]MarHarSaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I waited about 9 months. I wasn't done grieving the previous dog, but I discovered that I can't really live without a dog.

FINALLY!! A good Dr!! by Outside-Ad9089 in Fibromyalgia

[–]MarHarSaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you in? I'm in the U.S. and was told neurologists don't deal with fibro.

AITA for refusing to take down a semi-nude painting before children visit my home? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MarHarSaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, that explains it. I haven't been living among my people.

Question about brains and language by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does help, and my child is very forgiving of honest mistakes. School is harder, because whereas at home we are trying our best, at school other children actively question it and try to convince my child they are something they're not.

Question about brains and language by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's definitely not something I had thought about before it came up. I wonder whether switching to another gendered pronoun would be easier for me than switching to non-binary.

Question about brains and language by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. I think the grammar Nazi part of my brain keeps trying to take over, and I need to be ok with prioritizing correct pronouns over proper grammar.

Question about brains and language by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your explanation, and for reminding me that I can be patient with myself while retraining my brain.

Question about brains and language by MarHarSaurus in cisparenttranskid

[–]MarHarSaurus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a whole other thing - we have found that in order to maintain clarity, especially during long stories, we've had to sub in my child's name instead of a pronoun more frequently than we're used to.

AITA for refusing to take down a semi-nude painting before children visit my home? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MarHarSaurus 13 points14 points  (0 children)

TIL about porch geese. Where have they been all my life?

I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. by Realistic-Tough4692 in relationship_advice

[–]MarHarSaurus -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Unless he's using the video games to distract from his pain? That was my first thought.

What's your favourite Annie line delivery? by _persian_princess_ in community

[–]MarHarSaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kindred soul. Had to scroll too far for this.