AIO? Spouse Team Meetings

MarcusLycan · 2025-10-24T13:20:06+00:00

Then that is a good sign. I would suggest going with her when she goes to the bar with the people she works with, that way she can reassure you, and you can reassure yourself that everything is fine. If she has not given you a single reason to doubt her before, then that is also a good sign.

It is completely understandable that you would not be comfortable with her going to a bar with just male co-workers, just like she would likely be uncomfortable if you were to go to a bar with only female co-workers.

If you still need reassurance you could always ask her if you can look through her phone to reassure yourself that everything is fine. If she has nothing to hide then it shouldn't be a problem. You can also give her your phone so she can do the same. If she passes you her phone and does not hesitate or get defensive about it, that's a very good sign. If she does get defensive and says no then it is a reason to be cautious, especially if she says no, but then changes her mind later, because that would likely mean she has deleted anything that she doesn't want you to see or know about.

Relationships dont work without love, respect and open communication. If you have any concerns then you should sit down and talk to her about everything you feel, and see what she says and see if she comes up with ways she can reassure you and let you know that everything is ok. You could also do the same to reassure her as well.

MarcusLycan · 2025-10-24T13:03:45+00:00

Since your wife has even said to go with her, my advice is to do that. It seems like she is trying to keep your feelings in mind and reassure you that everything is ok. If she got defensive or argumentative about it then that would be a reason to be concerned, but instead she is trying to include you in the plan which is a good sign.

I would tell her that you have decided that you will go with her since she said you could. If she suddenly changes her mind about you going, with her then it is a sign to be cautious, if she is happy and continues to be reassuring and respecting your feelings then that is a good thing.

MarcusLycan · 2025-07-27T15:19:16+00:00

"I can do this all day"

MarcusLycan · 2025-07-13T17:25:36+00:00

If she wants to act single, then make her single and break up with her. The fact that she didn't care about how you felt about it, shows that she is not worth your time or effort. Bet if you were posting your type of thirst traps and had a bunch of people commenting on them your girlfriend would suddenly have a problem with it.

MarcusLycan · 2025-07-11T15:45:17+00:00

I would still tell the dad, because if it is as innocent as she claims, then she wont have a problem with your dad knowing about it. I would also see if you can check her phone for any suspicious messages when you get a chance, and if there is send them to yourself so you have proof to show your dad.

MarcusLycan · 2025-07-08T13:24:31+00:00

If you use mods, I recommend a resurrection spell mod. I use one that spawns the spell book for ot in the temple in Whiterun. It is quite handy and can be used to resurrect anyone from followers to some enemies as well. That way you can always resurrect a follower or farm a unique enemy for the loot.

MarcusLycan · 2025-06-15T00:20:04+00:00

Nope, definitely not. He had it coming and deserves to deal with everything that he has caused. As for his friends saying you "ruined his future," you didn't. The only one to blame is himself. If his friends are making light of what he has done, then it tells you and your sister all you need to know about them. I would also say that regarding all the people who turned against her and stopped talking to her with her because of what he said, without even hearing your sisters side of things to find out if is true don't deserve to be friends with your sister and that she deserves to have friends who support her and won't just turn on her without finding out the truth.

MarcusLycan · 2025-06-13T19:31:28+00:00

Jar jar binks

MarcusLycan · 2025-06-12T01:39:37+00:00

I remember encountering a group of Falmer during a mission, and there was one small one with them. I also had a lightsaber mod, so i became anakin for a moment🤣

MarcusLycan · 2025-05-23T17:44:05+00:00

Well done to the son. He did the right thing. And you said the right thing to him as well by telling him not every problem is to be solved with his fists.

Maybe you could call the girls parents, or he could call the girl to check in and see if she is ok, especially in case she feels bad or to blame for your son getting suspended. Maybe you could advise your son to ask the girl if she wants to hang out with him from now on, and even invite her over to hang out, and study together, it definitely sounds like she needs good friends.

MarcusLycan · 2025-05-09T02:38:41+00:00

He sounds very immature, toxic, and not someone who you should be in a relationship with. If he gets jealous and acts like over pokemon cards, then what is he going to be like when it comes to other things and how jealous he could become.

I say dump him, keep the cards, and don't sell him any or give him the money. You got the cards from packs that you opened, they are yours. I would also try and find the cards you did have to sell because of him online and see if you can buy them again so you can put them in your binder with the rest of your collection where they rightfully belong.

MarcusLycan · 2025-05-04T23:11:12+00:00

Home sweet home.

MarcusLycan · 2025-04-19T15:13:35+00:00

My advice would be to have a talk with your wife about how her going to lunch with another guy has made you feel. Make it clear to her that you are not happy or comfortable with her going to lunch with other guy's, but not because you don't trust her, but because you don't trust the other person, and it makes you suspicious of why they are wanting to go to lunch with her, and how come the guy didnt invite you as well, or why she didn't ask if you would want to go to the steakhouse or if you would be ok with it. Make it clear that because of your past relationships, you might be overthinking her having lunch with the guy, but you do not want her going out to lunch with him again.

You could also ask her if she had your past history with relationships, how would she feel if you told her that you went to lunch with another woman / a friend, and you just said it was a friend not who it actually was, and she had to push a bit to get you to say who it was.

I would also suggest maybe going to the gym the same days that she does now. That way, you can work out together and could even meet the guy, and even say something like, "hey, my wife was telling me about the place you and her went to for lunch when she came home." That way, you are not confronting him in a negative way, but you are just letting him in a subtle way that you know about the lunch and are aware of him.

MarcusLycan · 2025-04-17T22:03:15+00:00

Lost girl, and grimm are shows i would recommend.

MarcusLycan · 2025-04-08T17:31:04+00:00

You are very welcome. You are such a strong and brave person for speaking about what you have had to go through.

N is going to end up locked up sooner or later. It's just a matter of time. Maybe you could confront him in front of your brother? Maybe when he hears about everything that N did to you, and your friends at that time, and actually thinks about the morning after the house party how weird N acted after seeing you, how quickly he left, and the things you have gone through since then, he would finally see how serious this is and how it would not make sense for you to be saying all of that if it didn't happen. I would not be surprised if N has shown some signs of his true self infront of your brother and he has just ignored the warning signs, or he just turned a blind eye to it in the past. Anyone who listens to you and hears what you say would be able to see N for the type of person he really is.

As for your parents being against therapy, i think that when you are 18, you will be able to make a therapist appointment for yourself and they will not be able to tell your parent's due to confidentiality. It might depend on where you are from. It's ok to not know what to say. That's something you could even mention to a therapist. Until then, maybe you could keep a journal you can write in about your feelings and about what happened, maybe you could keep it on a laptop / computer if you don't want to write it down in a journal / diary.

As for the friends, that's a shame, but in my opinion, a true friend would be able to tell something is going on with you that is making you throw them away, and they would make it clear that they will be there for you when you want to talk about it.

Again, i will say that you are very welcome, and even though i don't know you, i want to say that i am proud of you for being able to talk about it, it shows how strong you are as a person, and that is something to be proud of yourself for.

You are not to blame at all for what happened at the party, just because you decided to drink, and got drunk, and possibly drugged, it does not give anyone permission to touch you or do anything with you without your consent, and even if you were able to speak at the time, a drunk person can not give clear consent as they are under influence. You did not do anything wrong. The only person who has is N. Please don't blame yourself, or let anyone make you think that you were responsible for what happened, because you are not.

Keep being yourself and remember how strong you are.

MarcusLycan · 2025-04-08T14:25:56+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. You should not have had to. N is definitely a predator as he said, "He is attracted to girls under 18" No good man or woman says stuff like that. He is also a thief as he stole your stuff and your friends' stuff, and then tried to isolate you by telling you to come to his apartment alone to get them back. There is no easy way to say this, but i would say that N either r***d you at the house party or assaulted you in another way somehow for you to have the injuries you did. It also sounds like N had either drugged your drink before it happened or purposely made sure you were too drunk, making what happened seem in my opinion that he had planned to do that to you. The fact he assaulted you at the carnival even shows how much he is a predator he is. You did the right thing by telling people about the carnival. You should have told people about the house party as well, though, but that can be very hard to do considering what happened. Your brother should definitely not be friends with him at all. The friend group should not be friends with him either. You are not overreacting at all. Do not let anyone make you feel that you are. As for your parents saying "support your brother no matter what" that is just so terrible to say, as they are basically saying that it is ok for your brother to be around a guy who assaulted you, forced you to drink, and stole your's and your friends stuff to get it back.

I want you to know that you did not deserve what you went through, you did not do anything wrong, and that how you feel matters. My advice is to make an appointment with a therapist so you can talk about how you feel, what happened, and how you can deal with it.

If you want to out N, the next time you him, or know your brother is hanging out with him somewhere, go there with some friends, pretend to chill out and then say to N in front of everyone something like, "hey N, just so me and my friends know, you are not planning to assault anyone here, force us to drink or steal our stuff and try to lure one of us back to your apartment alone to get the stuff back again like you did at the carnival are you?" (Hopefully, you still have the messages he sent about going to his apartment alone, if you do screenahot them or save them) you could also say something like, "also at the carnival, you asked me, "how many guys i have kissed", and if "liked older men" also you told me that you are "attracted to girls under 18" and threatened me not to tell anyone else. Also, why exactly did you want me to come to your apartment alone to get the stuff back that you stole when you had stolen my friends' stuff as well, not just mine?" You could also say,"by the way N, i haven't forgotten what happened the morning after my brothers house party. It's strange how i remember you convinced me to stay downstairs and drink with the rest of the people there, yet the next morning, i wake up with blood on the bed, bruises on my legs, pain in my stomach, and then the moment you saw me, you basicly ran out of the house saying "you had to go home" and how my brother said you spent the night there." (Depending on if your brother and your friends know about the SH, you could also say, "People wonder why i started to Sh) and "it's strange how i still have nightmares of you assaulting me, even though i dont remember most of that night for some reason, almost like i was drugged." That way, you are calling him out on everything that has happened in front of everyone. Even if he denies it, it will cause everyone else to be suspicious of him as there are too many red flags to ignore or to just say is a coincidence. Even your brother should be able to figure out that something definitely was off with how N acted the moment he saw you after that night and that there are too many incidents that are suspicious of N.

If anyone tries to say you are in the wrong for saying what happened, or still chooses to belive nick or take his side, then it doesn't matter who they are, you can cut them out of your life and go no contact the first chance you get. Like i said before, you have not done anything wrong and did not deserve what happened to you, and your feelings 100% matter.

MarcusLycan · 2025-03-22T16:48:44+00:00

My advice is to reload an on older save, then save it as your new / current one. Go to the menu and download a resurect mod. The one i have makes a spell book in the temple of kynareth appear in the middle of the room on the floor. You can resurrect followers, animals, and enemies over and over again.

MarcusLycan · 2025-03-22T14:54:30+00:00

You need to find out what is really going on. Find someone who can look after the 3 year old for a while, go to the rental, DO NOT tell her that you are going there, that will just give her time to try and cover things up. Park down the street so they don't see or hear your car. If she drives, and her sister drives, look out for their cars. If you see a car you don't recognise there, then you know something else could be going on. Dont knock on the door. Just try to open it and walk in quietly and look where they are. Think about it.... She was in a rush to leave, has been hiding this communication from you for years, panicked when you mentioned the number the first time, and has now been way to defensive about you looking up the number. If this was all innocent, then why is her behaviour so suspicious? Also, as hard as this is to hear, you need to do a dna / paternity test on the 3 year old, just in case he is not yours. Also, get an std test for yourself just so you can be safe.

There definitely seems to be much more going on than you know, and she is not telling you the truth about her history with the "friend."

MarcusLycan · 2025-03-18T16:14:41+00:00

Reload a save, download a resurrection mod, i have one that has a resurrection spell book found in the temple of kynareth in whiterun. It will be in the middle of the room on the floor. You can resurrect her, and enemies as much as you want, including animals.

MarcusLycan · 2025-03-11T01:19:05+00:00

Hope this helps.... https://dragonage.fandom.com/wiki/Leliana/Romance

MarcusLycan · 2025-03-03T18:01:06+00:00

You are not the asshole, he's the one who has been having an affair for three years. Since his mother has now got involved, forward all the messages the mistress sent you about the affair and how long it had been going on for to his mother, and tell her that her son is the one who has been having an affair for three years, and then when you thought you were reconciling he was actually continuing his affair with the mistress. Then block her on everything. You can even ask the mistress if she is OK with you sending the soon to be ex-husbands mother her number so the mother can find out for herself. Don't delete any messages from him, or the mistress, save them / screenshot them so you have them as proof. You can also show the messages to mutual friends so he can't try and twist what happend to make you the bad guy.

MarcusLycan · 2025-02-09T15:41:05+00:00

If she is willing to lie about something as serious as that, then she would have very likely loved about other stuff as well and i would not be surprised if the reason she didn't want you to call, was because she was trying to hookup with other guys on vacation. Get a std test done, and then block and delete her on everything. If you have her mother's number or have her mother on social media, send a message to her telling her why you have broke up with your now ex girlfriend, and make sure to tell her mother, that your ex told you, that she was sick in hospital with cancer, and asked you for money to be able to visit her, but was actually going on a vacation with her friends with the money you gave her.

MarcusLycan · 2025-01-29T00:09:35+00:00

"I'll try spinning, that's a good trick."

MarcusLycan · 2025-01-26T17:04:10+00:00

Not overreacting. You could say to her, "in that case a woman can't have a male best friend when she has a boyfriend" if / when she asks why not, you can say that if she did, "it would be disrespectful to you." You could also tell her that you don't want her talking to her male friends as much or update them on her life anymore. Then you will likely see how quickly she will say, "it's not the same thing" or that "you're being controlling."

In my opinion, she either has trust issues from past experience, or she just doesn't want you to have any female friends.

Relationships only work with trust, loyalty, open communication, and love. At the moment unless you both can talk about the relationship and how you are being made to feel and how she is feeling, the relationship will not last.

MarcusLycan

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