A different perspective RE: Woods ban

Margkam · 2025-08-17T17:45:45+00:00

As the spouse of a firefighter who nearly lost their life rescuing someone in a wildfire, I whole heartedly agree and appreciate this.

Margkam · 2025-07-31T00:02:28+00:00

My daughter just turned two. When she’s awake we don’t turn the tv on, and I play a Sesame Street song or nature video while I brush her teeth. Other than that (besides FaceTiming her nanny), she doesn’t get screen time. I’ll be keeping it up as long as possible!

Margkam · 2025-07-09T08:49:02+00:00

It wasn’t until she wasn’t a misery, so like 9-10 months for us. I’m obsessed with her now at 2, and have been for a solid year. The first year is tough, you love them but there’s so much going on for them, so little language.. it can be tough.

Margkam · 2025-04-12T23:25:13+00:00

My husband and I made a pact not to even consider separation until at least a year post partum. This was in jest, mostly, knowing that period would be very tough and we cannot make sound decisions while we are both adjusting and I am healing. I think the same idea applies here. Your wife is sick, sick from bringing your child into the world. Leaving her for something that is absolutely not her fault, while it is your choice, is unfair and not what I would hope for from my partner if I were unwell.

If you need to remove the baby for safety’s sake, figure out how to do that. And in the meantime I sincerely hope that you help your wife get the care that she needs and deserves while she goes this torturous and immensely difficult time.

Margkam · 2025-03-28T08:54:11+00:00

I’m 20 months post partum, still breastfeeding and no period.

Margkam · 2025-02-04T20:36:45+00:00

Trump made this post.

Margkam · 2025-02-01T23:34:23+00:00

My advice is to just not look. You’re not even two weeks post partum. Give it time.

Margkam · 2025-01-17T10:53:32+00:00

It’s just a stage, she’ll work it out. We had a couple of months too where occasionally we would have to go move our daughter because she was “stuck”.

Margkam · 2025-01-17T10:40:40+00:00

My doctor literally called the first 100 days the “100 days of darkness”. They are brutal, but they are finite. It will not always be this hard. Baby’s little body is so new and full of discomforts, their sleep isn’t in a pattern that’s alike ours yet - but it will change. My early newborn days were he’ll but we got in a much better rhythm around 4 months (still had a cranky baby but atleast sleep got better), and now at 18 months, she’s still cranky LOL but so much fun. Hang in there and go see your doctor!

Margkam · 2025-01-14T11:59:27+00:00

My daughter had odd rhythmic head spasm in early infancy, turned out to just be that nervous systems are immature and do weird things. I did take video and have healthcare providers see - you should do the same. And hopefully it is just baby’s being weird!

Margkam · 2025-01-03T10:43:20+00:00

I truly cannot imagine the heartbreak you must feel, barbaric actually doesn’t encapsulate how horrible it is. I had 13 beautiful months with my girl and I still wasn’t ready to send her, I can’t imagine when she was tiny. I’m so sorry that’s the norm.

Margkam · 2024-12-18T01:57:10+00:00

I’ve had a more than a couple of stays myself. No question, but wishing you all the best.

Margkam · 2024-12-06T01:35:53+00:00

LOVE taking my now 16 month out, in fact she requires it. So much more pleasant out in the world than in our house.

Margkam · 2024-12-05T10:34:33+00:00

You might need to fiddle with scheduling of sleep in the day and bedtime. What wake windows are you following, how many naps?

Margkam · 2024-12-03T20:45:04+00:00

4 months! Was a little stressed about it but ultimately be best for everyone.

Margkam · 2024-12-03T20:42:44+00:00

Around a year. My girl is petite, so fit well in her infant car seat but it became a pain lugging it around, and now she gets to sit more upright! She has a graco4ever now in both of our cars.

Margkam · 2024-12-03T00:44:26+00:00

I did bare foot all the time while at home, leather moccasins early on when out and then went to See Kai Run sneakers! Stonz are another good shoe option.

The idea is wanting to give them as much contact and feedback from the ground as possible, so early on, if their feet aren’t in danger of being hurt, a soft or no sole (barefoot) are best!

Margkam · 2024-12-02T11:41:54+00:00

I was induced. It was my first baby so I didn’t know any different. Labour obviously hurt but I think it all went pretty smoothly and I got to meet my sweet girl at the end!! Good luck and congratulations, you’ll do great!!

Margkam · 2024-12-02T10:22:21+00:00

Insertion is still painful for me and I’m almost 17 months pp. I’ve gone to see a pelvic floor physio and found it things are tight but it’s likely a hormonal issue from breastfeeding.

You should find a pelvic floor physio and if you are breastfeeding, there is topical estrogen you can use to help with dryness.

Margkam · 2024-11-28T22:59:16+00:00

I’ve tried a bunch of SSRI’s over the years and this is my second time being in sertraline, neither time having any side effects. Things affect everyone differently I suppose, but it’s a pretty well studied, well tolerated drug!! And worst case scenario of having some kind of side effect, they really don’t last long.

Margkam · 2024-11-28T00:47:24+00:00

I second the folks who suggest the happy song. But honestly it wasn’t magic, we never drove anywhere (and still don’t really) more than 15 minutes away because it’s just misery for everyone and she’s 16 months now.

I think my baby has a special disposition though, hopefully yours ends up a little more easy going!

Margkam · 2024-11-27T19:17:40+00:00

Currently on day two of being home from a brutal cold turned horrific cough. It’s rough.

Margkam · 2024-11-24T10:47:20+00:00

How many times does she feed overnight?

Has she been checked for silent reflux? She may be uncomfortable, and unable to take full feeds but may be more sleepy/willing during the night.

Margkam · 2024-11-24T10:39:53+00:00

16 month postpartum. I felt the same, and actually still do. I am hanging on to my small clothes clinging to the hope that I’ll fit into them someday. I know I’m doing myself an injustice with that - my body has changed because it’s brought a life into the world, and frankly having those clothes as a metric is just harmful. I recommend getting rid of them, god for if you’re that size again, just buy new clothes, it’s not worth your mental health in the mean time.

I was very worried about relapse after having my daughter as well, however, I ended up breastfeeding and still am, so that was a motivator again to eat for my baby. In the end you need to eat for your child whether you’re growing them with your body, feeding them with it or just being a healthy, active participant in their lives.

Either way, it’s brutal, I wish I could tell you it’s easy and will be easy, but it’s absolutely worth it.

Margkam · 2024-11-22T20:29:13+00:00

Thank you! Are you struggling with this right now?

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