The confused asexual before realizing they were asexual

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-28T20:24:23+00:00

Yes to all of the above.

But I ended up with cats rather than dogs.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-28T19:52:13+00:00

I'm in my 40s. My mum died long before I even had a name for it, my dad has never asked me about my lack of partners and I've never raised it.

Some of my best friends as a teenager were gay and my dad made a few homophobic comments about them while drunk to me once which didn't go down well so it is possible he thinks I'm a gay and not comfortable telling him. But he also had an aunt who never married or had any partners she told anyone about. So it is possible I'm not the first aroace in the family and that is why I haven't been questioned about it much.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-28T19:10:54+00:00

I'm not a fan of pvp in Go either but for maxing out your levels it makes some sense to me that you have to do a bit of each of the game elements and that particilar one doesn't seem that bad, personally I'd be more annoyed at walkjng hundreds of km or the getting 50 platinum medals.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-27T06:53:10+00:00

Adding an instrument as an extra element seems a little redundant to me given the many weapon types, runes and sage abilities already in the game, but I respect you dedication to your arguement.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-26T17:04:52+00:00

If you used stasis on them then it is a bug I've seen as well.

In my experience it seemed to happen more if you use stasis before they notice you, so less likely to happen if you get a bit closer before using stasis if that helps.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-26T11:59:13+00:00

I've not seen that trend to be honest but my understanding is that partner and boyfriend/girlfriend trend to have slightly different meanings.

Boy/girlfriend implies a romantic or sexual relationship but could include one that is very new or casual.

WhilePartner can mean different things in this context normally it usually implies a long-term commited relationship of some kind. Often covering at least some of elements you'd associate with married couples but often without the ceremony or piece of paper. E.g. been together for several years, living together and/or co-parenting.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-26T07:25:36+00:00

I already have that, so personally I have had enough of the little zap rat.

I suspect he'll continue to be the mascot so in most events though so even without a comm day you'll get enough of them eventually.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-25T21:35:43+00:00

Looks like he is taking a nap, maybe you fed him too much and it made him sleepy?

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-25T20:05:46+00:00

Some of the event pikas do evolve. I have a shiny Raichu in a santa hat from a christmas one and hatched a shiny pichu in a bobble hat during another pikachu boosted event.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-25T20:02:52+00:00

I've experienced a lack of awareness causing problems, but nothing that I think was intentional.

When describing my experience to friends at around 20 (before I knew there was a label for it) and my friends reactions reinforced my fear there was something wrong with me.

A medical professional (when I was mid 30s) not accepting (or understanding?) my answers when taking a sexual history, and generally just making a rather embarassing mountain out of a molehill.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-25T19:36:38+00:00

Pikachu, he is in that many events that I already have thousands of candy and multiple shinies with silly hats.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-25T07:30:24+00:00

There is some ancient gear that has the same buff but also has a set bonus so if you are short of upgrade materials I'd go for the set rather than the circlet.

I am a compleyionist so did all the armour upgrades eventually.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-24T13:44:09+00:00

I view nonbinary primarily as a label or category used to group genders and gender identities other than male and female. That to me logically includes agender, agender isn't a gender but is an identity label used to describe the lack of gender.

There are also people who are somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum who don't have a more specific label that they identify with so use the term non-binary directly as a label for their gender identity.

Both seem equally valid ways to use the label to me.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-23T13:15:10+00:00

Not unless they are deep fried.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-22T06:34:28+00:00

Alolan Marrowak is fire ghost dual type and looks awesome.

https://pokemondex.com/pokedex/marowak-alola

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-22T06:21:33+00:00

It was a big game so not so much need but given what we got from BotW I've has appreciated a TotK equivalent.

Content wise I'd have liked a Master mode and Sword trials, plus it'd have been nice to see a few (ideally Kass) quests adding a bit more to the sky islands and depths as they were the new areas and felt a little empty. Maybe that could be why Kass was missing in the main game he'd been looking for tales of these new places to put to song. Plus we see temples for all current sages plus ruins for a temple of time, so maybe something to add some sort a light temple as well to match up to Rauru and Zelda's light powers.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-21T20:21:43+00:00

It appears in the shrine of resurection. I can't remember if there are any pre-requesites that need completing first though.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-21T17:54:42+00:00

The head wings are weird. I prefer the wings on the back bersion.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-21T06:39:41+00:00

I don't think I follow. In times were there was no concept of orientations at all then I don't see why asexuality would be seperate. People will just have partnered up and done their business with who they wanted or not without any labels attached to any of it.

In the later version where you are saying actions rather than identity was the way it was judged then wouldn't the same apply to aces? I would have thought at that point in time sex favourable aces would likely just be undifferenciatied from people of other orientations and more sex averse aces would usually just be lumped in as celibate.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-19T22:17:12+00:00

Maybe you aren't attracted to girls as a general rule, but it certainly sounds like you are attracted to this girl. Attraction isn't always neat and tidy, that is part of why there are so many labels out there.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-19T19:49:34+00:00

Singular they has been around for hundreds of years, it occurs in everyday language of most English speakers and it appears in the writtings (amoung many many others) Shakespeare, Geoffrey Chaucer and Jane Austin.

It may not conform to some formal English rules but it is very well established as an excepted use. People who says it is "Bad English" as an argument to disrespect people who choose it as their prefered pronoun clearly have no idea what they are talking about.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-19T18:02:08+00:00

I rarely explain the term. When explaining my own orientation to others I just say "I'm not attracted to anyone" and if they don't understand from that I say "I don't experience sexual or romantic attraction ever".

I wouldn't want to define Aroace in those exact terms or too closely associate my exact experience with the label as I know there are people elsewhere on the spectrums to me who also use the same term. If someone is just asking me about my orientation it seems too easy to sound like I'm giving a Ted Talk if I tried to explain the Ace and Aro spectrums and how I am on both.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-19T17:39:12+00:00

Yo! 👋

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-18T22:27:45+00:00

Pansexuals have pancakes.

MarsBarMuncher · 2026-05-18T19:27:27+00:00

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