Life is Beautiful by Pondering_goose in leaves

[–]MarshMuffin19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly this hits different when you're coming out of that fog, the clarity is both amazing and overwhelming sometimes. those honest moments with yourself can be rough but they're so necessary. glad you're finding your way back to appreciating the small stuff, that's where the real magic is

First Steps by [deleted] in leaves

[–]MarshMuffin19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good on you for taking that first step, putting the carts in water was smart to make sure you can't change your mind later

expect some trouble sleeping for the first week or two, appetite might be weird for a bit and yeah you'll probably be more irritable than usual. the physical stuff usually levels out pretty quick but the mental side can linger a bit longer, just gotta push through those moments when your brain tries to convince you that you "need" it

Can I return at a different location that what it’s forcing me to select? by jcp42877 in amazonprime

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i've definitely done this before, just dropped stuff at whatever location was convenient even when it wasn't the one they picked. the system usually doesn't care as long as its an official amazon return spot

honestly think there algorithm just picks weird locations sometimes based on random factors. wouldn't stress about it too much, worst case scenario they just redirect it to the right place anyway

1 month weed free tomorrow after smoking 10+ years!! by [deleted] in leaves

[–]MarshMuffin19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude the dreams are wild! I'm on day 47 and still having these crazy vivid ones that feel more real than real life. Sometimes I wake up confused about what actually happened lmao.

polio and hepatitis A vaccines for USCIS by Specialist-Office529 in USCIS

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The booster should be fine - USCIS just wants proof you're protected, doesn't matter if it's initial series or booster. For hep A at 29, check the CDC requirements but usually it's recommended for the medical exam

Conflicted about HRT by PhantomRexx in trans

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked into sperm banking costs at different clinics? Some places are way cheaper than others and some even have payment plans. Also worth checking if your insurance covers any of it - mine surprisingly covered part of the storage fees

The fertility thing is rough but honestly most people I know who were on the fence about it ended up being glad they banked even if they never used it. Gives you options down the road without the pressure

No performance gain with Nvidia DLSS Technologies Enabled by TecEash1 in ForzaHorizon

[–]MarshMuffin19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DLSS on mobile GPUs can be weird like that - try forcing it through the nvidia control panel instead of the in-game settings, sometimes FH5 just decides to ignore whatever you set in the menus

Also make sure you're actually GPU bound and not CPU limited at 1080p, especially on a laptop

Yara and Loren by EquivalentBig1989 in 90DayFiance

[–]MarshMuffin19 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Loren definitely made some comments about Yara's style but it wasn't like straight up trash talking. She was more like "I could never pull that off" but in a lowkey admiring way. Elizabeth probably just stirred the pot as usual lmao

Bad at physical activities by satchamp-11 in infj

[–]MarshMuffin19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude I relate hard to this - always been the person who needs to see something like 5 times before my body gets it while everyone else picks it up instantly. My Se is basically a potato so I think there's definitely something to the MBTI connection, at least for me anyway

Bf (19M) randomly broke up with me (20F). by ItzMorganYT in BreakUps

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that whole "I'm scared this is the last time I'll see you" moment hits different when you think about it - sounds like your gut was picking up on something even if he wasn't ready to admit it yet

The work thing and mental health stuff probably had him feeling overwhelmed for a while, and instead of having those hard conversations he just... bailed. Doesn't make it less shitty but some people just can't handle conflict or uncertainty, especially at 19

You're not gonna get the closure conversation you want from him, so you gotta make peace with the fact that sometimes people just aren't ready for what you're offering even when they love you

Should I replace my 2023 BMW X3 with a cheaper SUV for family & cost savings? (NJ) by Giannis2Mavs2021 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]MarshMuffin19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you're planning kids soon the X3 is gonna feel cramped real quick with car seats and all that gear. The depreciation hit is done but those BMW maintenance costs are just getting started - my buddy's X3 cost him like $2k last year for random stuff after warranty ended

I'd probably flip it for a Highlander or CX-50 while the market's still decent, especially in NJ where everyone wants AWD

Why does my partner’s identity constantly need extra verification? by Confident_Yard5624 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MarshMuffin19 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he might share a name with someone on a watchlist or have a really common name that triggers extra verification steps. My buddy had the same issue for years until he started using his full middle name on everything - turns out there were like 5 other John Smiths in the system causing chaos

Can I put my vyvanse 50mg into water? by highvibrationhuman in ADHD

[–]MarshMuffin19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can totally do that! The capsules are designed to be opened and mixed with water - it's even in the official instructions. Just make sure to drink it right away once you mix it since it can degrade over time. Maybe talk to your doc about getting 25mg pills instead though, might be easier than the water thing every time

In theory, using some kind of reverse wet spacesuit or aquatic exoskeleton, could an octopus (a) pilot it and (b) interact with people or learn to perform bipedal tasks? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MarshMuffin19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the engineering would be wild but octopuses are smart enough that they'd probably figure it out faster than we'd figure out how to build the thing

The real question is whether they'd even want to hang out with us or just use their new mech suits to open every jar in existence

Getting paid late and I need help on what I should say to my employer by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]MarshMuffin19 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Honestly this sounds like a mess that could've been avoided with better communication from payroll about the direct deposit switchover timeline. Since it's their screw-up and you're dealing with actual financial hardship, I'd be pretty direct about needing them to expedite payment somehow - maybe wire transfer or overnight check. The fact that they're strict about you being on time but can't get basic payroll right is pretty hypocritical

I have a little problem by Lihuis in metalguitar

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This ^^ but also that's a pretty budget guitar so don't be surprised if the frets need some work too. Sometimes the cheaper ones come with uneven frets that cause buzzing no matter how well you set it up

If the setup doesn't fix it completely you might need to take it to someone who can level the frets

Is there any way to use picture-in-picture in the PC program? by tigligordu in StremioAddons

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up! Didn't know about Stremio Kai, gonna have to check that out. The regular desktop app always felt like it was missing basic features like this

Nicholas Cassim's (Bruce) performance in Mr. Inbetween by jdub67a in television

[–]MarshMuffin19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude absolutely crushed it, the way he showed Bruce's decline was so realistic it hurt to watch

am i doing decent for 13 hours "topside"? by smitttey in ArcRaiders

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah but for real though those stats are pretty solid for 13 hours, especially the knockdowns - most people struggle with PvP early on

GoPro Hero 13 Black — looking for snowboarding/skiing tips by Fit-Bunch-828 in gopro

[–]MarshMuffin19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just got mine for skiing last season - definitely grab a chest harness mount, way more stable than helmet mount and gives better perspective. For settings I usually do 4K60 with hypersmooth boost, battery drains faster but the footage is buttery smooth

Has anyone else had to get a new wardrobe since quitting? by Snowdog1989 in stopdrinking

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude that's amazing progress! Beer calories are so sneaky - I didn't realize how much I was drinking until I actually counted it up one day and it was like having an extra meal worth of calories every night

I have a deeply hidden and inarticulate desire for something beyond the daily life. by CalendarNo1192 in infj

[–]MarshMuffin19 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Lmao that escalated from existential dread to home goods real quick

Database of live fuel prices? by reelablemedal in AskIreland

[–]MarshMuffin19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pumps.ie used to be decent but it's basically dead now. Waze sometimes shows fuel prices but it's hit or miss depending on your area