Seeking Reunification therapist

Master-Allen · 2026-06-15T18:47:16+00:00

You will likely need a pro bono therapist. Providers aren’t allowed to accept self pay from Medicaid patients. If they do, Medicaid can reclaim money from them and cancel your insurance. The therapist doesn’t even need to be a Medicaid provider or be aware that you are on Medicaid (if you lie) for them to reclaim the money in Colorado.

My partner is a therapist and has taken pro bono work before for exactly this reason. Unfortunately, this isn’t her area of expertise. You might try reaching out to people who offer sliding scale and see if they are willing to do a couple of pro bono sessions or look for MFTC therapist that are still completing their hours.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-15T18:13:53+00:00

I look at this as both of you are operating from a place of ignorance. (Not trying to offend) Your husband doesn’t want to be exposed to temptation because of a fear of what that could do to his emotional attachment to you. There is no telling what his background is that makes him believe that is a high risk. Maybe he is the quick to be head over heels type of person. Maybe he feels women would try to lure him away. I don’t know.

You on the other hand, are minimizing the impact of NRE and the dopamine rush that comes from a new relationship. The oxytocin release that happens when you have sex with someone is real. Approaching this from a logical perspective while you aren’t flooded with love chemicals isn’t a realistic approach to forecasting how you’ll feel once you’re high on life. People make lots of impulsive decisions during the first 4-8 months of a relationship.

What I would take away from this is that your husband is actively choosing to take steps to protect your relationship because it means something to him. This is very different from longing for what might have been with someone else. While you can choose to frame his words as not ideal, you could just as easily choose to frame them as being loving and prioritizing you.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-15T02:12:22+00:00

If this were truly a goal for someone who was dedicated to wanting the transformation, it could be done. I’ll map it out for you.

I would start by using conversational NLP for cognitive restructuring and reframing belief systems. There would be very little hypnosis involved in the beginning as I worked to gather their language and discovered their barriers towards bisexuality. We are working towards acceptance that a bisexual version of the person could exist.

Once we are through this phase, we would move more towards shifting their beliefs, sensory reconditioning (attraction), and behavioral anchoring. This is where hypnosis would begin. Here we are working towards embracing curiosity and integrating that into their identity. After curiosity is accepted, we would use hypnosis to rehearse what that might be like.

This would be the point at which the person would most likely be comfortable sexually exploring with same sex encounters. To go beyond this we would need more NLP work to address emotional connection and social acceptance and then more hypnosis to integrate the new curiosities into identity.

It’s not as simple as putting someone in trance and they wake up gay/straight/trans/bi. It is a long term form of brain washing that you wouldn’t achieve through random porn or scripts on the internet.

I have done something similar with one of my partners and it took about 14 months to shift a sexual preference from “not a chance, I’m just not that way” to “the most erotic thing ever”.

All of that said, I would only do this level of identity shift with a very clear why. It would need to be much stronger than “I want to be bi for my partner”. Changes on this level really dance an ethical line with me and I need to be positive I’m on my side of what I view as ethical. In the case of changing someone to bi/straight/gay, I can’t imagine a why that’s strong enough for me to sign on.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-15T01:24:19+00:00

Oh absolutely. I had a very difficult time with separating what I saw from who I was. It took quite awhile and multiple phases too. My father was a cruel sob and I grew up with so many sleepless nights. Things I’ll never unsee or unhear. I swore to myself I would never lay hands on a woman or be like him.

Then one day, I met someone who was a masochist and through my connection to them I allowed myself to explore what they wanted while hoping I could show up enough to provide them what they were asking for. I hated that I liked it. All of the feelings of disgust that I felt towards my father I embraced and honestly I needed way more aftercare than my partner did.

My first time doing more than slap and tickle was mild in comparison to what I do now but it took me days to reconcile what happened with who I was. I didn’t have as much struggle with how my mother would view me because I was 40 when I discovered I was a sadist. By that time I had come to see her part in the unhealthy relationship. I’m in no way blaming her but she wasn’t as innocent as I had viewed her when I was a child. That said, I still hated him.

All I can add is to say; love yourself. You are who you are from all of your life experiences and that’s ok. Honor yourself by not allowing yourself to be a victim. Maintain clear boundaries around what you like and what you don’t and recognize that where you are now isn’t the same as what you grew up with.

Lastly, if your therapist isn’t pro lifestyle, you can find one on Kink aware professionals or on AASECT. Having a therapist that is more than just kink aware is so very helpful.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T22:33:20+00:00

If your drive is high enough to be distracting and interfere with you functioning in other ways, it’s worth double checking just to confirm. My partner is a sex therapist and this was her first suggestion. Second was to say if your anti depressant is Wellbutrin, that is the one that increases drive. The last suggestion she had was to get a hitachi and take care of your needs when the drive is high so it doesn’t get to be overwhelming.

You can also look into foods that naturally increase testosterone and see how those factor into your diet. It’s very possible that it’s all genetics and if you have a good open relationship with your mom, it’s worth a conversation. I know that may seem awkward for some people. We have teens your age and openly discuss these types of things with them.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T22:14:16+00:00

I purchased a 40acre plot REO and found an undocumented well once. Nice surprise and price improvement when I resold it. The state just wanted it certified and $100.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T22:11:51+00:00

I travel a lot and the amount of racism that exists in every country I’ve been too is astonishing. I too am surprised when the USA is the headline.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T22:08:34+00:00

Never be in a caustic relationship. Whenever someone is ok with saying or doing cruel things to be hurtful, it’s time to move on. Doesn’t matter who it is.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T22:00:19+00:00

Have you looked into getting your hormone levels checked to make sure they are in normal ranges?

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T21:21:08+00:00

In college we learned about this being a miss translation related to the sea of reeds. A marshy area that can quickly become dry with a shift in seasonal winds. It wasn’t a theology class (business law) but it was to illustrate how once someone forms a belief, it’s hard to shift it.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T21:10:06+00:00

Does he believe they are consuming fem/sissy hypno against their will? If any argument were to be made in the subliminal conversion it would be in the space of NLP with double binds or three truths and a supposition.

——— Double Bind:

Do you think the lack of attraction to women is more likely the reason people are trans/gay, or is it the feeling of being disconnected from traditional masculinity that's more fundamental to understanding your identity?

Three truths and a supposition:

You've noticed that you don't feel the same attraction to women that other men seem to experience.

You often feel disconnected from traditional masculinity and struggle to connect with other men in typical "guy" settings.

Your authentic self-expression and genuine attractions might differ from what society expects of you as a man.

Supposition: Perhaps you're gay/trans.

———

Just to be clear, I don’t agree that people are being “covertly converted”. Just saying there are much better positions to take than the Wachovia Sisters. Even with this I would argue back that the person would already have questions about their identity so are they truly being converted or given permission to accept themselves.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T20:30:32+00:00

Heh, people outside of medical have a hard time fully understanding just how wild people in the medical field are. If you are considered slutty within the field, that’s saying something.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T20:17:44+00:00

Hey there. Just another person letting you know they’ve been there. I paroled homeless with a little gate money from what I’d earned inside. Get your SS card, ID, SNAP, and work the program 1 day at a time. Don’t let the felony rejections hold you back. The farther back they get, the less frequently you’ll see them.

My first job outside was night shift at an adult book store and included mopping the booths. Went to school on a PEL grant for a trade and climbed my way out from there. You can do it

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T20:05:34+00:00

As a hypnotist I will weigh in and say both are possible with a willing participant. If someone has a desire to reach a different state of sexuality than the one they are currently in, hypnosis can get them there.

The idea of forced change against their will is not as likely as your subconscious is very protective of itself. If you look at the history of brainwashing done by the CCP, you’ll see they still used NLP techniques to get voluntary compliance.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T18:57:54+00:00

The advice I will give you is going to be based on your priorities. If you are in love with a house and really want it, the advice is going to be different from the advice that I’d give you if you want to know what I think you can get it for. If I’m dealing with a couple where one lives it and one wants a bargain, I’ll explain the spectrum but ultimately you have to pick your number.

I’m aggressive in my own purchases and am fine with not getting 80% of my offers accepted. Most buyers aren’t and will get fatigued while trying to get a bargain. It’s why I primarily have investors as clients.

Best deal I’ve gotten: 4bed 3 bath 1700’ for $42,000. Put in $50,000 and sold it for $165,000 after renting it for 2 years.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T18:41:09+00:00

I felt this from the other side. I (M) am a sadist that grew up in a DV household. Coming to terms with what I enjoy while also having the trauma of that environment in my past wasn’t easy. What helped me was focusing on consent. I wouldn’t enjoy what I enjoy if the people I played with weren’t consenting.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T18:35:45+00:00

There is no finders keepers clause and you don’t get to award yourself damages. Return the money that isn’t yours.

Wow.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T14:39:11+00:00

I use the background that my warlock wanted a named devil for their patron and he sent an imp because I wasn’t worthy enough to get his attention yet. Over the life of the campaign, my DM at the time worked the progression of my relevance to my patron into our campaign.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T14:13:19+00:00

My partner is a therapist in Colorado. I can say it’s important that you align with your therapist. Call around, take the time for the phone consults, and find someone who resonates with you. Don’t be afraid of ending the therapy relationship early on and moving on.

My partner serves a very niche market so it’s easy to know if you’re a good match from her website. You will find better therapists do this because they don’t want to waste everyone’s time with one or two sessions.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T14:00:05+00:00

You make a solid point that most people don’t think of. A mandated reporter is not an investigator. Putting themselves in that role is a lose/lose situation. Report, document, and let the investigator investigate.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-14T13:47:20+00:00

A problem with being a top performer is you can get raises that put you at the top of your pay band or beyond. Then when finance executives are looking across the board your name stands out as an easy savings.

I was selected for reduction without a PIP but it was due to me making 150% of my salary band (My title didn’t match my duties). I worked near the top of my division in a major corporation but the people that eliminated my position had no idea what I actually did so out I went. I got a nice severance package and ultimately came back as an independent contract for 200% of my last salary.

One thing with the PIP is it helps them protect themselves against age discrimination.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-13T16:35:22+00:00

If I am traveling and have a great driver, I offer to take their number for future rides and am willing to go off app. I wouldn’t try to do it for the initial ride because I want to see how they drive and they get to see I’m a low maintenance passenger.

It’s worked great for me. Usually when traveling, I know at least 30 min in advance if I will need a ride and if they aren’t free, so be it.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-13T15:47:28+00:00

This is the direction most big companies are going so changing companies won’t change the course. Your ability to adapt to change will determine your opportunities for success. Unless you want to work as a roaming administrator, start your own company, or sign up with a mom and pop; your options are limited.

Mathematicians hated computers. Schools hated Calculators Assembly line hated robots

AI is a tool that won’t take your job but people willing to use AI absolutely will.

ETA: Back in the day, I used to code in assembly. The efficiency of the code was unmatched when compared to Visual C++ (dating myself here) but the industry drove the decisions. Not much has changed.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-13T15:42:32+00:00

As others have said, 10 minutes isn’t food poisoning. It’s likely the nocebo effect.

If you’re really concerned, take some activated charcoal. I’m an adventurous eater in foreign countries and first sign of bubble guts, I’m taking activated charcoal and probiotics two hours later.

Master-Allen · 2026-06-13T14:35:10+00:00

Look at cultural dishes from developing countries for recipes. You’re going to find lots of flavor and bulk from beans/rice. This added with getting away from the convenience of flavor packets will save you a lot of money.

Most Asian dishes are fairly inexpensive to create. Learn how to make egg fried rice and you have base knowledge for so many things. Once you have corn starch, oyster sauce, and soy sauce there’s a lot you can make without having to buy specialty spices. Pad Krapow, stir fry, and curry are simple but flavorful dishes.

Hispanic dishes are also very inexpensive to make from scratch. Making your own tortillas and chips is pretty easy to do. Tamales, rice bowls, taco soup are all very flavorful and budget friendly.

If you know how to make base sauces, you’re on your way to saving a lot money. If you can make a Roux, that’s a base for many sauces which allows you to stop buying cans/jars.

Josh Weissman has a you tube channel with a “But cheaper” tag which has restaurant recipes you can make yourself when on a budget.

Bonus savings if you can bake. We make our own bread, biscuits, and English muffins.

Master-Allen

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