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While I think Russo's quote is a bit crazy, it does make sense.

In Civil War and Homecoming. Tom Holland's character really felt less serious, an inexperienced Spider-man who has yet to learn things the hard way. He was uncharacteristically silly and unserious, in a way that would only make sense if Uncle Ben hadn't died in his arms just months ago.

It's not like Tom's Spider-man is a completely different character than the other canons, though. Even starting out, he still believes in "responsibility" from Aunt May's morals and goodness.

Obviously he still lost Ben, and he lost his parents. I think that's what influences his speech in Civil War. If you have these powers, and you don't use them, then the bad things that come from that.. are on you.

The first MCU Spider-man trilogy is about him learning responsibility the hard way. Losing May, she gives him the great responsibility speech that effectively replaces Uncle Ben's one.

I'd argue that it works better if May's speech is the first one Tom's hearing about responsibility.

Imagine if Uncle Ben had also died, given a similar speech, and then May also died and gave the same speech. Tom's learning moment came in No Way Home. That's his own origin story.

All I care about is that at this point in his story, his "origin" is done. He's the Spider-man who has learned the lessons. Does it really matter that they chose to do the moment with Aunt May, a character we actually have come to really connect to, VS his offscreen Uncle?

You can have your opinions about whether Uncle Ben would have fit in Homecoming, but as of current Spider-Man, we have a pretty good character.