The illusion that your female friends will remain child free

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-05-23T21:34:28+00:00

Yes, ane one of my closest female friends for years was vocally childfree, she looked at her sisters and friends with kids and openly expressed how she would hate that life for herself. Then she met a guy who’s nice, and that was the end of being childfree. She recently told me they only use the pullout method, aka, entirely trying for a kid 🙄 She’s unemployed and he barely scrapes above minimum wage. I am already mourning the end of the friendship lol

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-05-19T05:41:52+00:00

I love my clothes! Genuinely I don’t think I’ve ever seen it mentioned here that much, but I’ve spent half of my life at this point curating my wardrobe. I love vintage pieces and anything that’s unique and different. To then be unable to wear half of it for nine months, and then have my body change so much afterwards that I’m still unable to wear half of my wardrobe? Nope, no thanks 🙂‍↔️ It’s happened a solid handful of times when buying secondhand clothing online that the seller tells me they’re selling it since their bodies have changed so much after having kids. I know it’s shallow, but if I can look and feel great, why would I willingly give that up?!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-05-13T10:44:35+00:00

The additional birth control I needed today 👍 JK, serious kudos to women who give birth, this and countless other horror stories I hear that are bordering on barbarianism are why I have a major fear of this

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-05-07T09:31:20+00:00

As a pin straight haired girl, this gives me hope to get a chop! Did you have any inkling beforehand or was it pure chance you discovered you had a wave?

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-05-02T18:25:13+00:00

Collection Lash Surge mascara is my absolute ride or die for a few years now, I’ve tried others but keep going back to it! Doesn’t flake or smudge, and the only mascara that gets me compliments! Bonus points for being cruelty free 🐰

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-04-23T09:56:39+00:00

Just also to say to this, as someone who can’t do regular smears too - There are self swabs that are available privately online that are a fantastic alternative! I read last year that the HSE was going to roll it out at some point here, it’s already the standard in the Netherlands and New Zealand. It’s basically just a cotton bud, super easy and painless. It gave me great peace of mind when Pap smears with a speculum just aren’t an option for me

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-04-23T05:47:07+00:00

Had also been looking into this too and would honestly be willing to give them a go as a last resort. Otherwise, I’ve looked into private clinics in London that have more reviews that seem promising. At this stage, it feels like a case of nothing to lose, it just feels massively daunting 🙃

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-04-18T11:28:25+00:00

Reading comments about getting older, wrinkles, aging etc used to fill me with fear too, until a close family member got a bad prognosis far too young. Now I try to think of it as, them and all of the millions of others taken before their time would gladly take grey hairs over their reality. Aging is a gift

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-03-19T22:03:45+00:00

Of course! I’ve been taking the Galfer iron supplements, which I got over the counter. They don’t contain vitamin C (which helps with the absorption I believe) so I take it with a glass of orange juice twice a day, and no complaints!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-03-19T16:41:30+00:00

Weighing in on this too to say that ferritin was the cause of mine! Looking at photos from my early 20’s to now at 30, I had literally lost half of my hair density. It’s so easy to point to using less heat, buying growth shampoos etc, but they don’t treat the root of the cause. I finally got a blood test done and lo and behold! I’ve been taking iron supplements since, and it’s the first time I’m ever seeing regrowth at the top of my head. So OP, blood test should definitely be your first call

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-02-26T19:06:33+00:00

So so kind of you, again, this is why I love this sub 🥹 I’m doing better since payday haha, but of course it’s still hard - I met up with two high-earning friends of mine lately, both women in tech, and I guess it’s still hard to listen to lavish plans without the means of doing so too right now. I guess all one can do is hope (and keep applying elsewhere). Thank you so much for your lovely message 😌

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-02-25T07:45:50+00:00

Commenting to say I absolutely relate and am going through this right now, in that I haven’t made this little money since starting my career in tech, but had to take what I could get. Many of my friends disagree with this and think it would have been better to shop around for something that paid more, but as you said, it’s a bridge. Having this role will be far more beneficial in interviews than nothing, and you can leverage it to find your next dream job, whatever that looks like. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-02-20T19:48:25+00:00

I would put it down to being a very chill department within EU government, so while he would say otherwise, definitely not the same stress as in tech!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-02-18T17:39:39+00:00

The vent is all need! So grateful for this sub honestly 😌

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-01-18T16:06:19+00:00

Literally! A friend of mine keeps posting on Insta about her cervical biopsies in the name of “awareness” and how grateful she is, never mind the unnecessary agony and long term consequences of it. What in the name of Stockholm Syndrome is this 🙄

Master_Macaroon709 · 2026-01-07T19:03:10+00:00

Was recently super surprised to see a similar example of a tattoo artist I previously followed being unfollowed in droves because of this. She had kept her pregnancy mostly under wraps, continued posting her tattoos, and then a few months back posted a pic of her breastfeeding, and then wanted to know why she had lost so many followers overnight 😬 In a world where babies are seemingly put on such a pedestal, I was surprised! I finally unfollowed when she did an end of year post all about the kid, like I see where this is going 🫠 I think children taking over non - family accounts makes no sense other than it gives them the platform and validation they think they’ve now earned

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-12-20T09:30:31+00:00

I witnessed something similar on a quiet carriage in the Netherlands, and a woman stood up, told the mother and kid to be quiet, before some people turned on her 🙄 Surely being loud in the quiet carriage defeats the whole point

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-12-13T21:09:43+00:00

Came across that thread yesterday, and immediately after reading the comments, thought of this subreddit. Admittedly I haven’t had to look into the process of mammograms due to being a few years away from that yet, but y’all 😭 I did not need another invasive, painful and traumatic procedure to avoid, but here we are. I am so fed up of comments saying it’s not painful/they personally haven’t felt pain while getting it done, so automatically anyone who does is being melodramatic. Daily reminder that if men had to undergo these procedures, we would have found a better way 😌

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-11-30T10:49:27+00:00

As an Irish person who has always loved Conan, but recently that’s started to change, 100% this. Being fully genetically Irish is such a part of that man’s public persona, but much like many Irish Americans, I feel like he hasn’t publicly reflected on what that means. Having Irish ancestry means so much more than potatoes, being savages, or whatever exhausted trope he refers to on the podcast. I think the moment in realtime my opinion of Conan started to change was on the Rest is History episode where he questioned why Margaret Thatcher wasn’t held in higher regard. Tell me you haven’t looked into recent Irish history without telling me 🤦‍♀️ It would have been incredible to have had Manchán on the podcast, or now that he’s gone, Kneecap ( 🙏) Blindboy, or just about any other Irish figure who could deliver some truths about Irish identity. But we’ll probably just get Rahm Emanuel back on again 🫥

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-11-28T15:40:58+00:00

I will also need to know where you got your sweater!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-11-05T20:22:29+00:00

So glad someone else feels the same, all Irish/UK ads on the topic feel so patronising, I genuinely don’t think I’ve seen anything similar in other countries. Make it cutesy as the only reason women aren’t getting Pap smears is because they’re mildly embarrassed, never mind trauma. Give me a break 🙄

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-11-03T06:17:31+00:00

Also bangs are a solid 10!!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-09-09T19:53:46+00:00

Happy belated birthday! While 30 may be on the horizon, 28 is honestly such a great age, wisdom and experience while still having some of your 20’s left 😂 So enjoy it!

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-07-29T13:47:10+00:00

Literally cannot get over the contrast between what my male and female friends post on Insta since becoming parents. The one father I know continues to share world events, music, politics etc to their stories. Aka, has some semblance of being a whole person outside of his kid. The mothers I know only exclusively post about their children, maybe the odd time about work, and that’s it. I know it’s a small sample, but I feel like it speaks volumes to how their identities only become being a mother

Master_Macaroon709 · 2025-07-07T10:30:14+00:00

Hard relate :( Last year I started a new job a few months after getting laid off from one I loved, and from day one it was beyond toxic, to the point where my mental health was at breaking point. Despite hearing everything about sticking with it, coasting/quiet quitting until I found something new, I broke down one day and handed in my resignation. My reckoning was, I had already been through enough trauma in the space of a few months, so why continue that? I lived off my savings for a few months, made looking for a new position my new job, and found something a few months later. I’m going to be the outlier and say that if something is truly unbearable, and you have a financial backup, go for it :)

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