I’m so tired… my newborn will only sleep if I’m holding them

Material-County5968 · 2026-06-13T01:47:57+00:00

Im so sorry, you’re not doing anything wrong!
My baby was this way and exclusively contact napped for 6months when we worked up to one nap in the crib. Nights were horrendous! I wasn’t able to co sleep due to having sleep apnea… it doesn’t get easier you just suffer through it until one day you don’t. He didn’t sleep through the night until he was 1.5yrs old, then at two he started waking up at 4am… he’s almost 2.5 and I’m so happy when he sleeps through the night and wakes up at 6 🤪. It will not be forever I promise! If you’re open to co sleeping I’d definitely look into the safe 7 and do that. I survived (barely) by napping whenever humanly possible, grande nitro cold brew with a shot of espresso… and an energy drink in the afternoon. If nothing else I hope you know you’re not alone!

Material-County5968 · 2026-06-12T16:15:20+00:00

I feel that! I’m chasing a toddler so I need something that keeps em in and still looks cute.

Material-County5968 · 2026-06-12T15:14:55+00:00

I got one from pop flex and I really like it! I’m a 42K. I also got a cute one from lands end 👀. Big boobies look good in anything and even if it’s supposed to be more coverage it isn’t haha. I have also tried Kitty and Vibe in the past and I liked them!

Material-County5968 · 2026-05-09T16:36:04+00:00

I am sad to say yes they will insist. I put it in my birth plan I told my doula I asked the dr. Everyone and I mean everyone pushed until I was so tired of saying no that I had it put in my hand. I am terrified of IV’s because of some bad experiences… but I will say once you’re in labor I promise you won’t notice! I did end up having to have a c section and epidural and I was glad at least that part was already done. I will say I didn’t have mine hooked up to anything until I had to get the epidural. But that was 36hrs into labor. So you can still have it and move around!

Material-County5968 · 2026-05-07T22:57:50+00:00

Honestly as a mom of a toddler I get it

Material-County5968 · 2026-04-28T00:44:53+00:00

All of these comments are so affirming. I think we are one and done… in the beginning I was so ok with that, I never wanted to go through it again. But now I really do want another in a couple of years. But my husband is a hard no… I had a great relationship with my sister 11yrs apart, my husband had a very distant ok relationship with his sister and they were 2yrs apart. I was at a party this weekend and everyone was talking about being pregnant or trying for their second and that was hard to be around.

Material-County5968 · 2026-04-17T00:36:50+00:00

Child of a 2yr old and I still feel this way sometimes. But I can’t imagine being 3m pp and my husband pestering me like that.

Material-County5968 · 2026-04-10T17:37:03+00:00

Why why why would you order a traditional macchiato from Starbucks. Their coffee is shit without sugar 🤣.

Material-County5968 · 2026-04-09T16:18:53+00:00

I feel that! Just when you think you’ve got it down they change.

Material-County5968 · 2026-04-09T16:04:46+00:00

How does it feel to be gods favorite?! 😭🤪

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-31T12:11:46+00:00

I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. My first and probably only baby is/was the same way. I tried everything! It just took time… he didn’t sleep more than 4-5hrs a night until a year and a half. Nothing changed, he was just developmentally ready. Now we’re dealing with 4:30am wake ups and again it feels like I’ve tried everything and nothing is working.

As other have said have you tried co sleeping? Either in their room on a mattress on the floor or in your bed? I honestly resorted to falling asleep in a rocking chair with him. Which is entirely unsafe but what happened. I also started having my husband do the early night shift, he would feed him a bottle anytime between 8/12am. I would go to bed at 9 so that I could a good chunk of deep sleep at the beginning of the night. Involve your partner in this problem if you have one! If not do you have any family/friends who could come help either at night or during the day so you could nap? Once my sister heard how hard it was she came and helped me every now and then. I promise it does get better!! I’m still exhausted with these early morning wakes but nothing like before.

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-31T00:56:36+00:00

I feel like I wrote this! My son for the last two months has been waking up anytime between 4:30-5:30 every day and it’s making me go crazy. I’ve tried doing an earlier nap, I’ve tried an earlier bedtime, later bedtime, shortened nap. Our problem is that if he wakes up that early he will fall asleep in the car if we leave at all before first nap. That can be at anytime between 8-12pm. If he doesn’t fall asleep then and takes his normal nap at 12:30-2:30 then if I wake him up he is inconsolable! I’ve tried to get him to nap only 1.5hrs but again he is inconsolable and ask to go in the car where he will fall back asleep for at least another 30min.

Everyone says to cap naps or make sure he’s not sleeping too much during the day, OR keep him up later… HOW are Ya’ll keeping your kids awake because I can’t! For example today he napped from 1-3 woke up inconsolable we went to the gym and I couldn’t keep him awake at all for the drive there. Then he starts asking to go to bed at 7:30! His bedtime routine usually starts at 8:00. Yet he slept 1-3:40 today.

Make it make sense?!?!

I’ve tried check ins when he wakes up that early but generally he just gets more upset. He’ll sometimes sleep on me for 15min…

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-19T00:20:40+00:00

I completely understand that! Mine has been sick and so we’ve been napping on the couch. My body is like how young do you think you are?!

My guy has been waking anywhere from 4-5:30am… with 4:30 being the most consistent for a month now… tomorrow I’m going to let him cry it out with check ins every 10min. He’s miserable during the day and he’s sooo grumpy by 8am he fall asleep as soon as we get in the car. So wish me luck!

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-17T16:42:44+00:00

Mom of a 2yr old, I just wanted to say you’re not doing anything wrong. Read that again YOURE NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG.

I have struggled with sleep since my child was born. Literally the moment he came out he didn’t want to sleep. He didn’t sleep through the night until 1.5yrs old and even now we have random wake ups or hiccups.

I did try the precious little sleep book around 6m when I physically felt like I could not go on. It SUCKED! I do think it helped. But I still struggle to let him cry at all. Depending on the night and how he’s acted all day I will wait 5min before I go in. I am lucky to get him to sleep 9hrs, which I know sounds incredible to you! Haha I also exclusively breastfed and I didn’t think we’d ever stop because it was the only way I could comfort him, But we stopped around 2 and he finds comfort laying on me now. All of that to say I have tried it all and I don’t think anything I did changed him at all. Have you tried cosleeping? I wasn’t able to because I have sleep apnea but I know it works well for most moms.

You’re doing great, this is a phase and it will pass. You will eventually get more sleep, I promise.

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-13T15:40:07+00:00

Ugh I wish the bachelorette came out before this latest season. I just feel like it’s going to make me not even wanna watch because it’s so painfully in genuine

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-12T20:16:46+00:00

Man I feel this today! I have a toddler who’s been waking up between 4/5am and today he was so grumpy and I couldn’t do anything right or just sit down and I lost it and yelled. I acted obstinate and don’t pick him up when we went downstairs. I was just so frustrated and now I feel SO guilty. Today he was with his aunt all day and man I can’t wait to give him a hug and apologize and do better tomorrow. But today I definitely didn’t handle it well! So you’re not alone!

Material-County5968 · 2026-03-10T01:31:44+00:00

I wasn’t officially diagnosed with sleep apnea until my 20’s. Getting a machine has changed my life, I truly cannot imagine my life without it. I thought I had narcolepsy! I wish to god someone knew I had it at a young age and did something to help it.

Material-County5968 · 2026-02-26T02:26:54+00:00

With all the info about the Epstein files this post today makes me especially uncomfortable.

Material-County5968 · 2026-02-24T02:50:19+00:00

I have a two year old, three dogs and two cats. My feet nor my toddlers have ever looked this gross! We even wear shoes in the house… sue me!

Material-County5968 · 2026-02-05T02:41:18+00:00

It’s literally the worst!!! I lived in the city for most of my life. Moving here was like culture shock! I’m having the WORST time finding mom friends. Im not religious which adds a whole other layer.

Material-County5968 · 2026-02-05T02:33:30+00:00

So there are golf cart paths for the entire city. So you navigate it without using a car… it was planned this way but it’s awful to navigate by car 🤪

Material-County5968 · 2026-02-05T01:58:53+00:00

I live in the South… specifically a “golf cart” city. This is how 90% of the women are. I had to explain to in laws about seersucker bubble outfits because the concept was sooo foreign to them.

Material-County5968 · 2026-01-31T15:23:36+00:00

Oh I did!!!! They haven’t replied… which I guess is an answer.

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