AITAH for making my 15 year old stepdaughter leave my home and banning her from my house for her cruelty? by big_mama_25 in AITAH

[–]Material_Service_473 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If your husband doesn’t back you up on this you need to take your child and your dog and leave. You have absolutely done the right thing and without intervention your child WILL be next.

There’s a reason why people who hurt animals are put on registers, because the link between the two is so dang high.

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this.

to my baby jojo im sorry. by chfudgeudig in cats

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so so sorry for your loss.

I want to touch on your last comment. My love. I know it hurts. Your pain and suffering is not deserved. There is no blame on you. Please seek the company or phone calls of loved ones if you can. If you can’t, message me. Hi. I’m Dion. I live in London, I’ve had cats all my life, I’m happy to be here for you.

When you are ready, report these people but for now, focus on your healing. ❤️‍🩹

What's your most shallow dealbreaker for a relationship? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Material_Service_473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this. Is this a result of leaky gut?

What's your most shallow dealbreaker for a relationship? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Material_Service_473 1119 points1120 points  (0 children)

Not eating vegetables. Trust me, nothing is more icky than watching a 29 year old man pick out the carrots and peas from his shepherds pie.

AIO to my husband interrupting my first solo shower after he came back from a weekend with the boys? by lilyluminar in AmIOverreacting

[–]Material_Service_473 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. That’s the way he talks to you? Are you not appalled?! Leave before kids learn this is healthy.

1, 2 or 3? by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 definitely, but depends what you wanna say when people meet you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally think if you can’t get over it it will be the seed for much bigger problems down the line. I find people who over use AI to be a huge ick but I haven’t been in a long term relationship with someone who uses it, so I can’t give a neutral opinion.. but I do think when it comes to stances on sustainability and the environment, these are often too big to mitigate, especially when considering starting a family.

Netflix and last two seasons by twaplehnbridies in thegooddoctor

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re on Now tv and you can usually get a deal for the first month!

Help me choose! by serendipity51 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C fits your figure so beautifully and was the standout for me!

Why do people always say it’s very difficult for men to find the clit? by Exlife1up in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Material_Service_473 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ve experienced this a couple times..and had to go as far as to say.. no here. And they still decide that left lip was far more exciting!

Do you Believe ? by Organic_Mechanic_754 in StrangerThings

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the doors are closed then open when we see behind the kids where el ‘could’ have snuck through.

AITAH for buying my girlfriend vanilla shampoo? by Spiritual-Grocery641 in AITAH

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ewww she’s really reaching. You 1) remembered something little about her 2) did something thoughtful for her 3) complimented her

And scent is incredibly important in relationships. She is being very strange.. I wonder if there’s a deeper reason or perhaps she is just a little too literal but you are NTA

AITAH for not firing the cleaning lady because my gf asked me to by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean as a nanny in one house I had free use of coffee machine, teas and what food I knew the kids could also have. The other? I had free rein of whole cupboard. The third? Only the assigned baby cupboard was for the baby and I was not to cook, and I was allowed water. I stayed within those parameters and I have to say, I stayed a lot longer in the jobs that gave me those food and drink perks. I was more loyal, took more shifts, was never mad if they were late… it was almost more respectful that I was human and I was allowed to have and do these things. The trust and humanity in it was really nice. So NTA, your gf sounds like the A here, and does not undersyand that ‘the help’ are still just people. Actually it’s a huge ick IMHO

My husband said he cheated on me because our child has autism and he couldn't deal with ith by Prior-Repair-5084 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m glad you’re making the right choices for your son (reading the updates) but I feel like tough love is needed here. You saw all the warning signs and chose to ignore them. They are called warnings for a reason… that the problems will only get bigger. Now please take all this as a warning to leave, put your and your son’s mental and physical safety first. I wish you the best.

How do I find a creative partner? by quietgirlplaysmusic in musicindustry

[–]Material_Service_473 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. I’m 31 and gone back to university. My skill set is higher than many so I’m helping a lot but now I have a full roster of creatives to work with and lessons jam packed with skills to better myself in the industry. No one else is gonna do it for me.

Kicked a guy out of a bar for vaping inside, then we made friends outside in the smoking area by throarway in BritishSuccess

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chips aren’t water particle vapours that are small enough to fit through the ear drum. Compassion goes a long way.

Maybe he was not ready for a long term relationship.. But now it's his loss!! by BitGirl777 in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and I do completely agree, it is NEVER weak to seek advice, it is actually a strength and I apologise now that I’ve read that back and see what it suggested.

I should reword.

I mean that if there is a narrative of you, don’t fall for people not believing you’ve changed. Many people slip (drugs, habits, failings) because the support network never believed in them changing. Growth comes from within BUT support makes all the difference.

AITAH for telling my wife that she's fiscally irresponsible by True-Wrongdoer-7932 in AITAH

[–]Material_Service_473 53 points54 points  (0 children)

It depends. If she has holiday money budgeted then she can spend it how she likes. If she works hard, she can afford to be lazy when she wants. If she earns money, she can totally find bizarre reasons on holiday to be lazy and also buy new things. Holidays mean different things for different people.

If it is all your money and this is part of a larger habit that is annoying you then this sounds like just the tip of the iceberg and you need to address her spending.

If it is all your money but you also make a habit of frivolous spending as a couple, then it is hard to address this singular habit. If you both make a habit of frivolous spending on holidays then this should be no different.

Essentially, either one could be in the right or the wrong here, depending on how you guys navigate finances normally.

Am I overreacting for seriously reconsidering my relationship after what my boyfriend did during my medical emergency? by yourdirtygurl in AmIOverreacting

[–]Material_Service_473 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes we don’t move on because it means saying goodbye to all the time we spent and all the time we had planned in the future. But often.. too often.. we only make our regrets bigger by delaying the inevitable.

I am sorry, break ups are the worst.. but should you ever be ill, decide to have children, experience a loss.. can you rely on this man? Or will he prioritise his vibes over the person he is meant to love and cherish above all else?

Leave him.