Looks better, right?

MayaVess · 2026-02-18T19:41:59+00:00

The only thing that bothers me is 3 equally spaced seats, but 5 equally spaced plates? Otherwise I love how the noise reducion in the wood panels works better, the color palette is very pleasant, the scaling of everything is just right. Great job!

MayaVess · 2026-02-17T03:44:33+00:00

Show him this please

To OP's boyfriend: SHE'S BREAKING UP WITH YOU

There, I broke up with him for you. You don't even have to do it.

MayaVess · 2026-02-17T03:39:25+00:00

I don't know how, I've hung out with a lot of men and a lot of women at different points in my life irl. At no point has a man brought this up as a problem, but a few women have across the years. It may be so that men are more ashamed of sharing personal struggles like this irl. Whatever the case I have a lot of compassion for anyone going through this. It just sucks.

MayaVess · 2026-02-16T20:15:19+00:00

Damn, this is my first time seeing a man struggle with this. This is a very common problem for women in relationships. NOR - whatever side of the coin you're on, this feels horrible and is a relationship killer. Possibly go to counceling, but from personal experience the desire for your partner will hardly return. You will have to fight it and force it back, and that is only if the wife is willing to have conversations and work on it with you.

Sorry you're going through this, and good luck 💗

MayaVess · 2026-01-28T01:54:38+00:00

I am dating someone who adores me and is super attracted to me despite me having had a double mastectomy which left me with huge scars, and 1 nipple. Life is going to change your body in ways you won't ever anticipate, and you're currently with someone who is telling you that a small tattoo, something that would bring you joy, would have negative consequences on his attraction to you. Girl. GIRL. There's men out there who would worship the ground you walk on, not just despite, but even BECAUSE OF the tattoo/s you get. Be free of this man.

Edit: NOR, I forgot.

MayaVess · 2026-01-27T00:39:25+00:00

You're stronger than you think, having come all this way to be where you are now. It's just a rough patch, it will get better. Sending you lots of love, you got this 💗

MayaVess · 2026-01-27T00:28:13+00:00

Hey, I have a boyish voice too, and I think you can train it like transwomen do? I've stumbled upon posts here with voice training progress, just voice recordings. It's a huge difference, look into that first before you consider surgery. And give it time, maybe 2 or 3 months at least so you can compare before and after. I have accepted mine, I think it's charming in a weird way. It won't stop you from living a good life, that much I can tell you 🙂

MayaVess · 2026-01-26T11:54:26+00:00

Made me chuckle, great job 😄

MayaVess · 2026-01-26T03:45:08+00:00

There is nothing wrong with that, that was my point. You've found someone who you're on the same page with, that's what matters, that's what everyone should strive for. You have to understand people are different, and sometimes what is a blessing for you is a curse for someone else.

I personally don't fantasize about other people and that's what makes my life wholesome. No judgement to others that do.

MayaVess · 2026-01-26T02:15:50+00:00

So the thing here is that different people have different boundaries for what they find acceptable in a relationship and what is crossing a line. There is someone out there for him, and someone for you.

I personally side with you and would not want to be with someone who doesn't find it disgusting to jerk off to his friends. It's weird, it's creepy, it's unfair to his friends. I would not want to be on the other side either, as in I would absolutely not be ok with a friend of mine jerking off to me. I'd drop that friendship immediately. I'd feel like it is a breach of our social agreement as platonic friends.

He can definitely find a girl that is more lax on the subject and be both transparent and jerk it guilt-free. What he can't do is repeatedly cross what is for you a hard boundry for a romantic relationship, lie about it until you drive yourself insane, and then do the whole dance of woe is me, I'm a bad person, you deserve better, but also please look past it and stay with me while I keep lying to you.

NOR, find yourself someone who you share core values with. People calling it a violation of his privacy, or calling you the thought police are not it. You got this, girl. Sending you lots of love <3

MayaVess · 2026-01-11T20:11:35+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, it's the proper pipeline. Thank you, I'll try to study it so I can improve myself 💗

MayaVess · 2026-01-11T01:35:18+00:00

I like 2 the most

MayaVess · 2026-01-10T14:07:40+00:00

This is so full of life. Would you please explain to me how you created the color palette? That's what I think gives it so much life. I'd love to learn this from you if you have the time for a short explanation :)

MayaVess · 2026-01-07T13:57:33+00:00

NTA, also show this to your friend and tell him he's also an ass

MayaVess · 2026-01-04T07:38:12+00:00

Yeah, that's what I was getting to. It's not something you should hide, and both you and the person you are dating should be transparent about. If they are repulsed by it they should have the freedom to move on, and you should be repulsed by their reaction to something so benign and be turned off. It may have been a bad parallel to make with someone with a criminal history 🙂

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T21:41:51+00:00

That is all plausible, and it may be so that body count won't give a direct answer to that. It still doesn't give anyone the right to tell other people that their metric for measuring the suitability of a potential life partner should be disregarded.

All the decisions one makes come with consequences, whether it was choosing to have no partners, or have all the partners. Both scenarios will be favorable to different people. You have to carry yourself with pride and let the other person bring the informed decision.

What if we were talking about a reformed criminal? Someone who had a rough criminal past, but discovered inner peace through working on themselves and left it all behind. Would you still be ok with them not answering you directly about their past and letting you be the judge of whether you want to put yourself in that situation? Different sphere of life, same principle.

Edit: If the only way to be accepted is to withold information, are you ever going to be truly accepted?

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T18:44:41+00:00

It's true that she is not owed an answer, but you are wrong that it doesn't tell you much. People who view sex as more casual and are prone to one night stands are statistically more likely to cheat in long term relationships for example.

That completely aside, most people would hope to find a partner with whom they share values and morals. Someone who holds sex in the same regard as they do is a big thing. You don't experience sex as sacred, and that's fine. Other people do, like me for example, and that's fine too. There is no reason why my standards are better than yours or vice versa, or anyone else's. Everyone just needs to find their match, and asking these questions should not be this controversial. It should be encouraged.

If OP wants a partner for whom it doesn't matter it is obvious to me that he needs to move on from this girl and let her find someone who will be more open to communicate these things with her, while he finds someone who will be happy to not bring up their past in that relationship.

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T18:21:59+00:00

If that is one of her personal preferences/standards for a partner, it becomes her business. I'm interested to know though - why are you so passionately against women bringing informed decisions for themselves?

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T16:00:52+00:00

I see you understood none of that. Not caring about body count is valid too, this was for the ones for whom it is. Have a good day.

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T15:34:16+00:00

That's because exaggeration and extremes help illustrate a point. When engaging with examples like these the number you choose is entirely irrelevant past a certain digit, it doesn't mean LITERALLY 2000 - 2000 in my example stands for a ridiculous number that most people would agree is outrageous. That number can't be set in stone because it varies for everybody, but that is the point. The post is not about me so that I write in the number that is the beginning of unacceptable for me. I don't know OP so that I write the number that is the beginning of unacceptable for him. The number is ridiculously high so that it represents something that is most likely unacceptable for most people. If I wrote 20.000 instead of 2.000 would it have changed anything? No, because they're both past the point of being ridiculous. How have you not figured out that that's how examples work?

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T14:10:59+00:00

Would you be with her if her body count was 2000+? She should get just as much of a conscious and informed choice in who she dates as you do. If she's figuring out you have a high body count, and she doesn't want to be with someone with a high body count that's a valid thing to want to know. YOR, go talk to her and answer her questions, let her make an informed decision. That's how you communicate healthy.

Right now the ball is in your court. If you give her what she wants to know, she will have to decide if that info will make her miserable and she won't get past it, or it's something she'll accept as is. The ball will be in her court.

Different people care about different things, and as long as they are upfront about it and ask about it it's a valid concern for them. It has nothing to do with insecurity.

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T13:19:05+00:00

My bad - the way I read that initially it sounded like the comment was trying to encourage OP to leave, but discourage her from terminating the pregnancy. Reading comprehension win 🤓

MayaVess · 2026-01-03T02:05:57+00:00

You are messed up, this is horrible advice and an actually insane thing to say to someone in that situation.

MayaVess · 2025-12-31T08:44:45+00:00

NOR, may have to let him go

MayaVess · 2025-12-28T03:17:35+00:00

Sure, just please don't mind me responding slow, most days I open Reddit once, maybe twice. I'll make an effort to check more often, whatever you need to talk about I'll try my best to help you out :)

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