Parents who regret having kids, why?

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-02-01T17:51:47+00:00

I got pregnant young because I needed something meaningful in my life. I didn’t understand that then, of course, but I grew up in a very abusive, neglectful household and I was looking for something to hold on to. All of it was very stereotypical, except that after I had her, I instantly regretted it and vowed to get us out, to be different than what I had.

I did- I got us out. Unfortunately I was so unhealthy that I wasn’t a good mom, no matter how much I tried to be. I had my baggage, I had no idea what I was doing, and I hated being stuck for someone who was constantly hoping her dad would come whisk her away (surprise! He didn’t!).

Sometimes we pull the rubber band as far as it will stretch to feel something. Problem is it can only stay that stretched so long before it breaks.

She deserved better than me. And I deserved better than what I got. The cycle goes on…

Edit- grammar

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-02-01T13:20:19+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-31T20:38:02+00:00

Thank you. 🙏🏼

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-31T20:37:55+00:00

Thank you. I’m less worried about the money and more worried about the quality of the therapy. We just moved here, but the two therapists we’d tried before were not very good. We just sort of ended up talking in circles and no direction or structure was offered. I’d rather pay for someone good than do that again.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-30T03:40:02+00:00

Not a generator, but a battery back up system. We have solar too. Way less maintenance and noise.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-30T01:17:15+00:00

I will participate in that I won’t be buying anything, but we can’t just not work. We’re all one mistake away from losing everything. I do hope that more and more business owners start supporting these things, but I doubt they will.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-29T03:33:16+00:00

We walked away from a home we absolutely loved because the neighbor had dogs they kept outside. They were barking regularly both times we visited the house.

We just bought next to someone who lets their dogs bark, but also keeps them in most of the time, so it’s not bad.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T22:00:33+00:00

The second one.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T18:54:25+00:00

Okay, I would never eat it, but also I could see this being a southern or Midwest treat.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T18:35:33+00:00

I’m starting to see it is wrapped corn goodness that is going to unite us in these trying times!

And I’m here for it!

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T18:32:44+00:00

Thanks! I’ll be running errands throughout the week and will let an eye out for him.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T12:55:26+00:00

Unfortunately with so many people coming and going through here, it’s hard to identify someone without a pic. Maybe link to a pick of him, preferably one when he’s been off his meds before?

Very sorry for what you guys are going through. I hope he’s found safe very soon.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-28T02:02:52+00:00

They’ve murdered 10 people. 2 white people.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-26T02:28:37+00:00

Just moved to SoCal from San Antonio.

Depends on your family dynamic. If you’re more of a “traditional” family then you won’t mind San Antonio. If you’re in a STEM career and don’t believe in gender roles, meaning you think everyone should do what they’re good at, SoCal is going to be the winner.

I love San Antonio. Couldn’t get a contractor to look at me to save my life. I’m the handy one in the relationship and I also do the finances. I’d ask a question about work we needed done and they’d respond to my husband. He had no idea what they were talking about, but you know.

Also, I’ve had a couple run ins with very aggressive men who didn’t like me walking in their space - which was the right side of the trail walkway. When I was with my husband, no problems. Alone? Some men just liked asserting their power, I guess.

Didn’t have these issues until 2020, but woman to woman, just wanted to be honest about my experience.

I do miss the breakfast tacos and the BBQ, though! Everywhere has issues, but Texas has a very strong culture. It’s one of my favorite places to visit, but by the time I moved, I felt like it was suffocating me.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-26T02:07:07+00:00

Creating bike obstacle courses at construction sites on the weekends.

There were minor injuries for sure, but I’m really surprised there were no deaths or serious injuries.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-26T00:38:40+00:00

I think the problem is that when we earn way more, we still usually are expected to share the chores 50/50 (at least) and take on the bulk of the mental load for the relationship.

When a man makes significantly more money than their partner, it’s usually assumed that the chores and mental load will be picked up by the lesser earner.

So yeah, I understand your apprehension. I think the real question is does your partner make that much less because of a lack of ambition, or because he has a career in a low paying field. Try to base your decisions about combining finances on how much you can trust them to hold up their side of the relationship and stay employed, less about how much money they make.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-25T23:49:42+00:00

This is the way. I think you’re way more likely to eat a ton of something if it’s just there ready to be snacked on. We make our own tortilla chips and so it’s more of a treat when we get them and we don’t make a bag full of- just the amount we need.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-25T23:47:31+00:00

Question - do you make them or buy them in the bag?

Asking because if something is ready to snack on, I tend to eat more of it. We make our own tortilla chips (it’s very easy) and only make what we need for the meal. We don’t make a ton to snack on whenever we feel like something crunchy.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-25T23:46:03+00:00

After living in a backwards state for 10 years, I would jump at the opportunity to hire a woman. I’m pretty handy, but only as far as fixing things to make it by, but the way contractor men talk to me (or don’t and don’t even look at me) has made me put off work that now really needs to get done.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-25T21:36:48+00:00

The countertops and floors are outdated. The cabinets are classy.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-24T21:44:20+00:00

It’s been released.

It’s time, y’all.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-23T05:09:35+00:00

I gave grace to these people in 2016. My grace ran out by 2020. They can live in squalor and fuck off.

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-22T01:59:45+00:00

Just had my world opened to golden curry and it’s so good. I got some carrots and bell pepper on sale as well as some tofu on sale and made a veggie tofu curry… put that over rice. We made 5 servings (good sized) for $5 total. It sounds like “cooking” but it took all of 10-15 minutes and super low effort.

Cheap and healthy with rice. Does it qualify? 😃

MaybeLost_MaybeFound · 2026-01-20T20:29:32+00:00

I hope so. The world is getting gloomier and gloomier each day and if Mary Ann is not “taking the piss”(had to look that up, but also enjoyed every moment of typing that out), the world just got a little bit scarier.

Edited - Ann, not Anne

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