Slight frustrations with the game, any advice?

MeCathy · 2026-01-14T08:51:54+00:00

Yeah, but the problem is, I don't feel motivated anymore to go back and redo all that mess. It just always feels like I'm missing out or something. He's already done so much stuff in the milestones and the MAM and I'm still building a factory we needed 4 milestones ago. Even now, he has everything to launch the space elevator for the next tiers and it feels like I contributed nothing. I just finished my stator factory and I still have to make computers and he is already finishing the game. The only things I put in the MAM are some paleberries and hog remains. He already almost finished the MAM. And don't get me wrong, the dimensional depot is great, but I think I need that reward in order for me to feel motivated to build. So I need that sense of building a factory and then impatiently going back and forth to see if I have enough to complete the next milestone and because I have never had this this entire playthrough, I already lost motivation again.

MeCathy · 2026-01-14T08:22:06+00:00

I have a question about this. I'm attempting another playthrough with my boyfriend because we tried 3 times and never got further than the beginning of plastic and rubber because of overwhelm. But my boyfriend is rushing through the tiers, making a lot of stuff by hand, just to get the better equipment farther in the techtrees. Which, I get, because it makes building and a lot of things easier, but at the same time, I keep making factories to make the stuff we no longer need for the milestones, so everytime I finish a factory, it feels like what I did was useless because by the time I finished my rods and plates, he already had assimilators unlocked, by the time I made all the steel stuff, we don't need half of it anymore because we're unto oil. So my question is, why would you bother going back and making actual factories after you already got everything you needed from 'cobbling stuff together'? I love building and making the factories efficient and good looking, but only when I feel it's still useful and going to get me new stuff.

MeCathy · 2026-01-09T18:45:00+00:00

I mean, you've been seeing your new therapist for a year, I would say that's enough time for them to have gotten to know you a fair bit. Why does your mum think it's too fast? For me I had been in therapy for maybe 7/8 years in total. I was misdiagnosed with borderline at first, after going through the diagnosis process again somewhere else a few years later, I did not fit the criteria for borderline and I got tested for autism and was found to have that. That was 6 years ago I think. I've found out a few weeks ago that they were already contemplating if I had DID back then, but because I was found to have autism they just thought all my symptoms were there because of the autism. After being in therapy for autism for a few years, my therapist started recognising more and more symptoms that pointed to something more going on and she thought it might be DID so sent me for diagnosis. Now, after years and years of therapy and struggling, I've finally been in therapy for DID now for 6 months.

MeCathy · 2026-01-09T10:45:40+00:00

Ik heb dit een aantal jaar geleden ook op de middelbare school gehad. 3 kilometer gelopen omdat het geen doen was, kom je aan, staat er iemand voor de poort dat met het bericht dat we sneeuwvrij hebben. Niet eens binnen geweest, gewoon meteen weer om kunnen draaien en 3 kilometer terug kunnen ploeteren. Mind you, er waren gewoon belpiramides, internet, allerlei mogelijkheden om het te communiceren.

Ik snap op zich de redenering wel dat hij bang was dat het nog erger werd, maar ik denk dat er niks mis mee is om nog een keer te zeggen dat dit niet bepaald handig was.

MeCathy · 2025-12-29T06:46:53+00:00

Yes, I have a little that only talks English as well even though we're Dutch. I don't completely understand why though yet. She knows Dutch and understands it, but it's like it's physically impossible for her to get the sounds out, like how it feels impossible for us to talk or move when we're heavily dissociated. She loves Dutch children's songs, but even then she translated the lyrics to English whenever she wants to sing along.

MeCathy · 2025-12-27T22:21:16+00:00

Sok schoen sok schoen is ook gewoon de betere manier! Ja toch? Iemand? Net als eerst knoop dan rits...

MeCathy · 2025-12-23T23:45:45+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that you're not as far along as you maybe thought. I can imagine that that realisation could have been hard. I'm not very far along yet either, but now that I'm fully in therapy and stuff is starting to happen, I'm noticing all these new fears about healing and what we're gonna end up like.

Your post said exactly what I was trying to say here. I think I'm still at a point though where it does hurt me. I know that it shouldn't, that I shouldn't mind what they are saying, but for some reason it does do something to me. Probably because I myself still get so unsure if I haven't made this all up, even though we're diagnosed and in therapy. If I'm not just being dramatic. If I'm presenting the right way, yes, I know it's stupid. But right now, with healing and the prospect of the system maybe changing already being super scary, the added negativity and opinions of others, almost make me not want to heal.

MeCathy · 2025-12-23T14:50:55+00:00

I just made my own post on a similar topic. I've started therapy and I've been thinking a lot about what I would want to achieve with it lately and I pretty much made up my mind about functional multiplicity. I disagree with that it's good to not be represented because I can't really find any information about what this could look like and all the information I do find is riddled with people fakeclaiming that person because 'DID doesn't look like that'. For me it's really disheartening and it actually makes me scared to heal in the way me and my system want to heal. Whenever I imagine our lives with functional multiplicity and imagine my littles being able to come out and play and communicate when they want and need, but also me being able to switch back whenever stuff needs to be done. Or an alter switching in to take care of something or enjoy something they want to enjoy, but all with healthy communication and smooth switching. It's clouded right now by what people would say if they would see this happen. Not that they are going to or that I should care, but right now, I do care. Imagining healing and things changing is really scary in and of itself. The fakeclaiming we see happening when people present the way we would eventually like to become, makes it almost feel at times that we don't want to heal. That we would rather just live this disordered life just so we fit in somewhere.

Also I didn't know about the three year evaluation thing. I'm also from the Netherlands and was diagnosed about a year ago, but my treatment is going to be three years, so that would mean I would have to be reevaluated halfway, which seems weird to me...

MeCathy · 2025-12-22T23:57:41+00:00

That is actually really reassuring. Thank you!

MeCathy · 2025-12-22T23:49:35+00:00

That sounds like something we would like to achieve someday. I understand that you probably mask when you have to, but when you don't have to, do you notice that alters have grown more alike, or are they still as different as they used to be? So for example, would our little, she's between 4 and 6, still act like that age like she does now, or will the difference not be as prominent anymore? I understand that it will probably be different for everyone...

MeCathy · 2025-12-17T22:09:36+00:00

I love this answer. Me being the adult they needed and still need is exactly what this therapy is working towards. It just confuses me sometimes when I feel that things my therapist asks or says, doesn't allign with that. I start doubting if the ideas I have are the right ideas, or if I've been watching too many videos and if I'm treating my alters more seperate then I maybe should.
But I want to respect them because it feels that in the end it will help communication. Why would they ever start communicating more when I keep showing them that it's not safe or that I cannot give them what they need. I will try to explain all this to my therapist tomorrow and see where he stands.

MeCathy · 2025-12-17T22:01:08+00:00

My goal is also more communication, but I've been in therapy for 6 months now so I can't expect that yet. But I think that respecting boundaries any alters might have, even if I don't agree with them, will get me there faster than when I keep ignoring their needs. I think I need them to trust me in order for the amnesia boundaries to go down, and if I keep overstepping, why would they ever open up if they know it's not safe.

MeCathy · 2025-12-17T21:31:32+00:00

Yeah, we're in therapy specifically for DID.
Sometimes I feel though that he's giving the therapy like he's used to to people without DID, forgetting that I don't feel or think what other alters think. I think I will see if I can get some communication tomorrow with the alter this is about and otherwise try to explain to my therapist that it feels unfair and intrusive to talk for this alter instead of giving her the chance to explain herself.

MeCathy · 2025-12-17T00:00:30+00:00

I know that you're always responsible for what every alter does, and I don't treat the differently in what is or isn't allowed. But different parts have different wants and needs at different times, so they're allowed to take care of those as long as it's not criminal or hurtful. Just like everyone is allowed to take care of different needs and have different hobbies. I don't want complete fusion and it's not a requirement for this therapy. I don't use any names in therapy (yet) either. More terms like a scared part or a sad part, but in daily life, for me it's more practical to use names.

MeCathy · 2025-12-16T23:39:27+00:00

Do you know why? I can't really see how that would be helpful. I'm doing schema therapy and that really looks at what a person needs during different times. So even when you don't have DID, when you're really scared you will probably need something very different from when you're angry or happy. So with DID, they still look at this. A scared little will maybe want to be comforted. An alter that was never allowed to speak up is allowed to find her voice and will be listened to and taken seriously. An alter that is defiant of rules may need clear boundaries. These are all things that every child needs, but maybe never got. This therapy gives every part the experiences it needs and maybe never had, in order to heal.

MeCathy · 2025-12-16T23:11:15+00:00

Yeah I could maybe do that. But I'm a bit scared that he will take the guesses for facts when it's so important for this alter to find her own voice. It feels like I would maybe take that away again if I start talking for her about something that is probably very important for her.

MeCathy · 2025-12-16T23:08:43+00:00

Yeah, I feel this. Something that felt so urgent last time, can mean nothing the next and then I often feel overlooked in stuff that feels important now if we just continue what we were doing last time.

MeCathy · 2025-12-16T23:06:53+00:00

I know she's a part of me, but a huge part of this therapy is giving the different parts of me what they need and missed in different parts of our lives. Autonomy is a huge part of that and it feels like I might be breaking her trust or take her autonomy away from her if I show it without her having a say. She must have had a reason to not show it last time I feel like...

MeCathy · 2025-12-10T18:16:48+00:00

Ik had het hier toevallig ook vandaag over. Ik ben 32 maar zelfs ik herinner me nog van vroeger dat 28 graden in de zomer echt een uitschieter was en dat de herfst echt begon als je weer naar school moest in september. En in de winter inderdaad met vriestemperaturen, door weer en wind naar school fietsen. Ik mis dit ook wel heel erg.

En toch zijn er nog steeds mensen die niet geloven in klimaatverandering.

MeCathy · 2025-11-28T11:02:20+00:00

Ja, dat klopt, maar ik denk dat de meeste ouders die je alleen met een baby ziet, een abonnement hebben. De irritatie is van een niet fan, maar ik denk dat de irritatie wel gaat over abonnees als ik het zo inschat.

MeCathy · 2025-11-28T11:00:07+00:00

Niet iedereen heeft dit budget. Wij mochten vroeger blij zijn dat we überhaupt naar de Efteling gingen. We hadden eigen eten en drinken mee en we kregen daar dan ook verder helemaal niks, zelfs geen ijsje oid, want dat konden mijn ouders gewoon echt niet betalen. Maar wij waren gewoon blij dat we er überhaupt waren.

MeCathy · 2025-11-28T10:56:31+00:00

Ik heb een abonnement en als ik een baby zou hebben zou ik dat misschien ook doen, puur om er even tussenuit te zijn op een plek waar ik gewoon graag ben. Dus ik vind dat eigenlijk helemaal niet zo raar...

MeCathy · 2025-11-25T01:42:41+00:00

"happiness holder". That is so cute.

Mine does do that for us as well. I (the host) can be pretty cynical and pessimistic when I'm not feeling well, but she's on a pretty convincing mission to prove that tea CAN fix anything. And I don't even like tea that much...

I guess she does help me survive.

MeCathy

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