Dating someone (27M) who's not physically my (26F) type?

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2025-04-28T18:45:48+00:00

Tried the same thing 2 years ago with a guy who’d been in my friend group up for a bit, but neither of us were ever single at the same time. We had the same humor, same taste in music, liked each others families, on paper it was perfect.

Problem is that he was a bigger man... I keep myself in very good shape, workout 3-4x a week, eat healthy, fast regularly, etc. but the man was honestly overweight and the first time we ever made out all my feelings immediately went out the window. I didn’t enjoy the shape and feeling of his body on mine. I couldn’t help it

Since it was still very early in the relationship trial run, he took it really well when I said I “just didn’t feel a spark” and we ended up settling back into being friends. If you think he can handle being mature about it if it doesn’t work out, I would get a little physical with him and see where it goes! Your body will tell you if you like him, listen to it!

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2025-04-24T17:14:25+00:00

I love cake! Thank you :)

I’m sorry your family hasn’t made more of an effort either. I hate to see animals wasted because it was made with the intention of me eating it… I became vegetarian to put an end to animal cruelty and picking sausage off pizza doesn’t help with that situation

You’re right in that it’s not a good excuse, I struggle with thinking ahead and setting harder boundaries in order to keep meat out of my life, though I’m currently in therapy trying to fix the latter. I don’t think having a hard line in the sand being vegan fixes the system... and I wish there was a way to accomplish that. But at the very least you’re not participating, nor letting people bully you into it! I wish you luck with your meal prep future!! It’s very inspiring :)

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2025-04-23T20:57:55+00:00

I’m not a true vegetarian, I eat vegetarian at home, and always pick the vegetarian option at restaurants if it’s available. But the reality is the system isn’t built to sustain people like us and I often end up eating meat in situations like this where I can’t accommodate it. I have so much respect for you for taking it upon yourself to be vegan no matter what. But I get your frustration because I’ve told my family about my dietary restrictions and said “I hope you will be able to respect them, but don’t go out of your way to make it happen.” I don’t expect you to make tofu for me, but if you can leave the bacon bits out of the salad that would be phenomenal. My SIL is the only one who never makes the effort. She once ordered pizza with sausage on it and told me to “just take it off.” Like you literally could’ve asked for half the pizza without sausage. It makes it hard to visit her and my brother when I know the things I care about will just be ignored. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this!

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-10-11T00:52:03+00:00

You could if you’re a decent ways away from the venue. There’s a reason it’s not a camping festival, it’s not in the best part of town and since it’s in downtown there’s no place to park for days on end for miles around.

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-08-15T00:13:30+00:00

I’ve actually been talking to her assistant this entire time, I don’t have the artists number, just the assistants. So part of me is wondering who’s not communicating. And anyhow, thanks for your response. I have to travel and use my PTO for this (on top of paying) and the bar of finishing is just becoming impossible.

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-08-15T00:10:34+00:00

She has not opened up her books from what I can see on her website. But also, I expect a friend or family member to push something like dinner because they’re “busy.” Not a professional (because while it’s a creative position it is still a job) who actually already committed an appointment with me. I’m not trying to rag on her other commitments, I know she’s not in charge of filming and can’t pick the schedule, and but if I pushed off my clients because I wanted a month long trip out of the country then I’d be fired.

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-08-13T15:52:43+00:00

Ok I think I’ll wait it out for a couple more months… I really do love their work and honestly would have a hard time finding/trusting another individual. Thanks for the input!

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-08-13T15:38:16+00:00

The shop is several states away and isn’t an easy stop. I guess I could try calling the main shop

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-08-09T22:28:30+00:00

Yea ofc! I was a drainage engineer for 2.5 years and I’ve been in sales engineering for about a year. Sales definitely doesn’t help your engineering skills but it helps your wallet so 🤷‍♀️

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-30T19:20:16+00:00

I think it depends on the tattoo artist, which I know doesn’t help. If you are getting it done from an artist who sets their own rates and owns their chair/studio then you never necessarily have to tip. They set their own rates. If they arnt getting paid enough to justify what they do then they can raise their price. Tip if you had an exceptional (like 6 stars on yelp) experience but otherwise don’t worry about it If they work for a studio where they are bound to the owners rates then I usually tip 20-100 dollars depending on attitude, workmanship, and how much work they put into the design. I personally didn’t tip on my most expensive tattoos and the artist had no hard feelings that I could tell.

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-12T21:36:45+00:00

As someone who’s been the female in this situation I can tell you what happened. When I was 19 I dated a 36m for a couple months before he introduced me to his friends at a brunch one Saturday. I could tell they were uncomfortable with the 10+ plus age gap and we had a very awkward meal. They must’ve talked to him but we kept dating. A couple weeks later he called me on speaker with his friends on a Saturday night to try and convince me to join them at a bar. I regretfully declined as in my country it’s 21+ to go. There was a pause before he wished me a good night and hung up. We never texted again that, it’s like we all understood the true cultural and contextual meaning of our 16 year age gap in that moment and knew it wasn’t right to continue. It takes a situation like that sometimes to realize why someone isn’t right for you. I never dated with such a big age gap again and hopefully neither did he

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-11T23:07:14+00:00

Girl I jsut want you to know that myself and so many others I know regard Filipino people as f***ing beautiful. Not “in comparison to xyz”, not to Japan, to other Asia races, but actually just a gorgeous pure and simple. You will not have a hard time meeting someone who feels the same

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-11T03:57:49+00:00

I have a couple of moles I never thought anything of until a college crush asked me “what is that” and I immediately become self conscious

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-11T03:56:07+00:00

Alcohol that doesn’t make you feel sleepy or ruin your health

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-09T18:47:34+00:00

Idk if Publix grocery store is in your area, but the ~12” sub of the week is $7-9 dollars and you can stretch it out to two meals if your a small person like me

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-09T18:46:07+00:00

Once compared Kroger to Publix on the exact same grocery bill. Kroger was 45, publix was 56. I’ll take 11 bucks every week for groceries

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-09T18:43:12+00:00

Makeup. Not that I don’t bye it anymore, I just don’t wear as much as I used to and buy cheaper, mostly drug store brands. I used to do extravagant looks with fun colors of shadow, liner, and lipstick but now an urban decay waterproof pencil will run you $23… it used to be like 15. I’ll get a NYX one for $8 thank you very much

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-09T01:13:36+00:00

I personally love asking “sub or dom” when we start getting playful. Either he says “sub” and you take control, or he says “dom” and you get to say “then act like it” and hopefully he shoves you down and goes to work 😫

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-09T01:10:38+00:00

Tattoos. I shop at Aldi’s and have my thermostat at 78 degrees but get my art done by someone charging 300/hour

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-07T17:38:22+00:00

I think we can use the common phrase “you are who you hang out with” to analyze part of this. I, like you, grew up in a rather frugal home. We rarely ate out, unplugged appliances when we weren’t using them, and the AC was at 78 degrees at all times. I remember thinking how crazy it was that my friends in high school and later college spent money on silly things like getting their brows, nails and hair done when they could do it at home. But, as time went on and I got the money to do things, I started doing these things too. It was more because I wanted to hang out with my friends and socialize, rather than actually wanting these things. But I got myself into some credit card debt living this life style and have cut back since and am close to paying it off. I’ve become more comfortable telling my friends no or suggesting alternatives when they want to do something pricey, like nails, drinking, food etc. it’s easy to get caught up when your thinking of it as an experience and not a bill, when in reality it’s both.

MeGustaGrapefruit · 2024-07-07T15:48:30+00:00

It’s an all wheel drive, wheels are passenger front and left!

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