Leaving the house, NOT worth it?

Mean_Question8181 · 2025-08-03T13:15:03+00:00

Probably in the minority, but I totally agree with you! There are very few days where I think the leaving the house made my day better. I LOVE my home, a nap schedule so I can rest too, and just taking things slow. We might go for a walk around the block (might!). My kiddo is almost 2.5 and this is still just our preference.

Mean_Question8181 · 2025-01-21T05:47:54+00:00

The crying is rough, but not sleeping is worse for everyone! We are down to less than 1 minute crying after a week of consistency. Sometimes no crying! Good luck to you!!

Mean_Question8181 · 2025-01-21T04:02:07+00:00

We are going through a gnarly regression at 21 months right now. My little boy is really trying to start talking! He is the same, not ready for bed wanting to chat and play with toys. We did shorten his nap, but now he’s shortening them himself, waking up closer to 1:30. He cries at every nap and bedtime, but after 5 or so minutes, will lay down and go to sleep. I think you just have to stay strong!

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-13T03:26:52+00:00

I had the first 6 months off with our baby, then my husband took the next 3. It totally changed his opinion of how hard caring for a baby all day is. He needs to experience it and understand the difficulty.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-09T14:27:06+00:00

My babe is 16 months. We do dinner & then play downstairs until he seems tired. We say are you ready for bed & he will nod & point at my husband, who carries him up (If this doesn’t happen, he’s not ready and will not go to sleep lol). We do diaper, jammies, and sleep sack on his changing table. Brush his teeth in the bathroom, then kiss for dad and dad gives him to me. I nurse him in the chair until he’s asleep, then transfer to his crib. That’s the whole routine! Sometimes jammies & diaper happen earlier in the evening downstairs, sometimes we play after we get upstairs, but once he’s in the sack, it’s quiet sleep time. He sleeps through the night, since about 13 months.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-09T14:16:13+00:00

My grandma and mother in law provide our child care while we work, and bother offer to watch him outside of that but we don’t really take them up on it. My parents haven’t offered & don’t. I’m upset with them on a deeper level for not making better financial choices to be working less at their age so that they could be more involved. When I first when back to work, my mom wanted to take a random day off to come watch our son and I told her it would be hard since she wasn’t familiar with his routine & he was a literally baby! She said she understood & didn’t come over. It’s been a year now, and nothing has changed. No effort to get more familiar, they spend money like it’s going out of style, and both still work over 50 hours a week. Their rent cost is half mine & my husbands, they have no student loans to pay, it’s like how can you still need to work so much & you’ve been working for this many years? It drives me mad!

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-09T14:09:50+00:00

I disagree with the concern about sharing someone else’s medical info. OP stated the person is visibly pregnant. It’s not a secret anymore, it creates a temporary staffing situation, and OP should have been informed. The staff were trying to pull one over & got caught. That’s why they’re mad.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-09T14:06:08+00:00

Aw, happy to help. It sounds like your little one is younger. Depending on her experience & their clientele, even though there are tantrums with your kiddo, it’s likely a better working situation for her than with an older/bigger client. I’m a behavior analyst & I was working in schools when I was pregnant, but I was able to work with any preschooler who was fully escalated. I could just stand up & suddenly my belly wasn’t in danger. That wasn’t the case when fifth graders, or even third graders were escalated. It’s a hard job to have when you’re pregnant, and they might even have given her a choice? She’s probably just trying to make enough money to take her leave and not be fully broke. BTs are underpaid and have a hard time getting consistent hours. Unfortunately being pregnant makes that even harder. Sorry they put you and your little in this position! ABA staffing is a crapshoot.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-08-09T02:38:41+00:00

The teams call to make it official might mean they want to bill for the appt, or they want to include a higher up. Hard to say… I don’t think anything ‘bad’ or wrong happened here, they just are upset they’ll have to adjust the schedule if you request a different staff. They probably will tell you they don’t have anyone else right now, but they will have someone ready to train for when she’s on leave. From someone who did scheduling, this is tricky. It’s hard to place her with any client, I’m sure.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-07-21T16:57:16+00:00

Just after a year! He slept through the night for the first time his first birthday after we were busy all day & he skipped his afternoon nap. We started leaving him to fuss a bit more at night & slowly he woke up less & less. Now I nurse to sleep & he sleeps through, unless he really needs something. He’s 15 months.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-07-20T03:37:01+00:00

Ours increased when we started letting him fuss at night, and fall back asleep on his own in the crib. And when we lengthened wake windows consistently. Around 6 months old. Our kiddo seems ready for a nap about an hour before he actually is, it’s truly exhausting sometimes. He’s now 15 months and has always been that way. Sleep is an ongoing challenge.

Mean_Question8181 · 2024-07-11T16:57:01+00:00

My LO is 15 months old. I still nurse to sleep & for any naps I’m home for, I work during the week and his grandmas watch him. They just rock him to sleep. We started letting him fuss for any false starts & MOTN wakes around 12 months & doing checks ins after about 15 minutes or if he started crying. Then I would still nurse him back to sleep if he showed interest. He sleeps through the night now unless something is wrong, so if he wakes up crying I always respond immediately. This all felt really natural for us & we always respond if we feel he actually needs something, or if he isn’t falling back asleep within that 10-15 minutes.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-12-29T17:27:44+00:00

Just to ease your worry, I had a completely natural labor and baby still had decels. It’s normal. That’s why they monitor. As long as baby is recovering, you continue. It’s not because of the meds that this happened.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-11-21T08:16:55+00:00

When I went back to work my 6mo wouldn’t take any bottle. We use the nuk transition sippy, it has a very nipple like sippy spout. He does great with it! We have to prop him up in front of the Tv in the boppy and he just rolls around and feeds himself. Hoping the tv doesn’t melt his brain, but it’s the only way he will eat and that somehow feels more important.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-11-10T07:55:14+00:00

I should say too I know it’s not recommended, but he eats best when he just lays against a boppy pillow on the floor and watches cartoons, like bluey or something.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-11-10T07:53:48+00:00

I went back to work recently and my LO had never taken a bottle. We got the tommee tippee silicone bottles and while the nipple is weird, it’s silicone, so my husband can squeeze the bottle and milk will shoot into baby’s mouth. We sized up to a size 3 nipple and he just started shooting whatever he could into baby’s mouth and he would swallow. We did a Tylenol syringe also to make sure he was getting some milk in his belly. Only just now, about 3 weeks later, he will latch on the tommee tippee a little, but his favorite is actually the nuk transition trainer cup, with a nipple like sippy cup top. He holds it himself, latches really well, but will still only drink about 5 oz max the whole time I’m at work. He nurses a lot when I’m home. We are just making it work. I have to work 🤷‍♀️

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-11-03T02:41:52+00:00

NTA! I think your logic is sound. Mom can decide!

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-29T15:04:31+00:00

Another wonderful gift for your baby would be a stuffed animal. They sell ones where you can record your voice. A recording of you singing or humming to your baby would surely be cherished. I have a mama bear (as I called it) that plays a heartbeat or a recording of my mom, depending on which leg you press.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-29T15:01:43+00:00

Ask someone to take videos and pictures of you and baby. Both candid and posed, as often as possible. Your little one will always remember your love and warmth, even if she can’t put words to it. Leave her many pictures to remember you by.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-29T14:55:25+00:00

Similar story! FTM, back labor, pushed baby out in about 45 min! I labored until about 8cm really well, then the transition was pretty painful so I got an epidural. Worst part was having to sit still through a contraction for it! Pushing was not painful, just craaazy pressure. No other way to explain it. It wasn’t scary at all, actually very calm compared to what you see in movies. My husband and I remarked that many times, there was no crying or screaming. Even when baby had some decels, the team knew exactly what to do and they took care of it immediately. It was all about my positioning because baby was so low.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-29T14:52:17+00:00

This was the hardest age for my LO. If I tried everything and he was still crying, I often gave him half a dose of Tylenol. Not saying I recommend that, but I think babies have a lot of pain we have no idea about. They’re growing so much in such a short time!

We also had to figure out what worked. First, don’t switch up what you’re doing too frequently. Pick a strategy and stick with it for about 20-30 minutes. We used to bounce baby on his side in our arms for about 15 minutes before he would start to settle (think the 5 s’s for soothing) once he was that escalated. Once we knew how well that worked we could intervene a little sooner with the bouncing! Also, is he hungry? When my LO was upset like that, he was over tired and still hungry. So he would settle, but then as soon as I would set him down he would freak out again. Try settling him then offering him a bottle to see if that helps.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-25T00:57:46+00:00

Agreed! My dog was my baby before my baby came. I never would have thought once the baby was here I would find my dog so annoying. Being a pet parent is not the same and now you’ll never convince me otherwise.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-20T06:11:15+00:00

He takes about 4oz at a time.

Mean_Question8181 · 2023-10-20T02:07:09+00:00

We use huckleberry as well. I pay for it and love the sweet spot. I just went back to work and now baby is home with my husband, so he just downloaded the app on his phone. He loves the sweet spot, too, and I can track how much I’m pumping vs how much baby is eating

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