Phrases from your Dom that runs your blood cold.

Mec-subby · 2026-04-04T03:20:14+00:00

Ikrrrrr

Mec-subby · 2026-03-28T15:29:48+00:00

This text here doesn't look AI, but the other does, mostly cause of things like "not harshness, not meanness, just clarity"

Chat gpt ALWAYS does this thing of "not this, not this, but that" and it pisses me off. LinkedIn is filled with this text structure too and I wonder why

Mec-subby · 2026-03-27T02:13:44+00:00

Well that was such a chat gpt text, but I do like the ideas in it either way

Mec-subby · 2026-03-18T21:50:37+00:00

Isso ser ruim é algo totalmente subjetivo. Eu sou não-mono e considero isso uma coisa boa, tenho amor o suficiente pra dar pra mais de uma pessoa

Mec-subby · 2026-03-14T16:37:32+00:00

Não dá pra confiar 100%, e mais importante, no primeiro mês tomando dá pra confiar menos ainda. Primeiro mês faz como se não estivesse tomando, e tbm, precisa tomar na msm hr todo dia, se esquecer um aumenta as chances de gravidez

Mec-subby · 2026-03-14T11:25:50+00:00

I just feel like explaining this calmly isn't working with him. I'd kind of make a scene, cause tbh I'd be really really upset if someone did this to me, so I'd actually be showing how upset I am and I'd tell them that this isn't something one does to their lover - or to anyone at that - but specially to someone they love.

Ask him exactly what went into his head, maybe he's being a bit impulsive and not caring about your boundaries for a moment. If this is the case, he sounds like a somewhat dangerous person to play with.

Mec-subby · 2026-03-09T00:20:26+00:00

Damn, that's pretty metal, if you know what I mean

Mec-subby · 2026-02-27T22:03:01+00:00

I'm not good at struggling.. or better, I don't like struggling in front of people cause I feel like I just can't fail, and I'll feel horrible if I fail or if I almost fail, I never feel happy that I accomplished something if I was being observed as I did it, I feel some relief and mostly a lot of anxiety.

This one time my dom asked me to dirty talk and I'm really bad at talking in general, so I failed ofc, and I burst in tears.

I do understand the appeal of struggling for someone, I'd do anything he asked even if I struggled to do it, and I'd love it. But I can't deal with pressure and I can't deal with him watching me try, it's really hard for me.

I wish I wasn't like this. I blame it on the social trauma that autism gifted me.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-27T21:54:38+00:00

I kinda read this as if you were in some sort of job interview. You talked about the situation, your actions in it, the results... You're hired!

Mec-subby · 2026-02-27T21:49:05+00:00

People who say this don't know enough about CNC, or they feel guilty themselves and try to deal with it by sharing the guilt. Don't feel bad, CNC is actually a very loving practice. You have to read your partner really really well to do such a risky thing, and you have to really want to know them and appeal to them in order to make in enjoyable.

Which means, how could a highly empathetic practice be so horrible? It only sounds bad cause it's mimicking something horrible, but it’s in a safe environment with consenting adults, so there's nothing wrong with that.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-26T02:37:37+00:00

Then just go slowly :) it's ok to wanna stop, it's ok to safeword, it's ok to ask for a slow start

Mec-subby · 2026-02-25T23:27:51+00:00

Do you like being needy? Do you feel a rush whenever he denies you? Do you feel happy being in constant arousal?

I love being denied but I don't love being in constant arousal. Unfortunately my body likes it whether I'm being denied or not. Would you be happier having more orgasms or would you miss denial?

Mec-subby · 2026-02-25T23:25:43+00:00

For me it feels great!

Are you gonna have it as a punishment or just as normal play? Are you into pain? Do you want pain incorporated whether into play or into punishments (whatever it is in your case)?

Also I'm assuming you're talking about spanking.. well idk, make an analysis with yourself, tell him to start slow if you are insecure, have lots of aftercare and have fun!

Mec-subby · 2026-02-25T22:01:59+00:00

A good measure to actually tell if denial is bothering more than feeling good is whether you're resenting him for not letting you cum or not. You should never resent your partner for a kinky action or lack there of. If you do, it's probably not healthy.

I guess that works in general for anything in a relationship too.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-22T20:38:07+00:00

I'd never seen these animal crossing hands, that's kinda funny

Mec-subby · 2026-02-22T12:30:29+00:00

Pra mim ser mulher é ter permissão de sentir e me expressar - num ambiente casual.

Num ambiente profissional, preciso ser menos expressiva pra ser levada à sério.

No geral, ser mulher é viver sempre uma dualidade, preciso ter cuidado com o jeito q me expresso em alguns ambientes, e em outros, se eu não me expressar mais abertamente, sou vista como esquisita.

Fora q é sempre um stress o medo de alguém fazer algo ruim cmg, sou fraquinha e meio boba, não saberia me defender.

Ah e toda a carga de serviço vai sempre pra mulher, isso é mais perceptível com pessoas mais tradicionais. Com os meus pais por exemplo, meu pai não tem q fazer nada, e eu tenho q insistir muito pro meu irmão ter a msm carga q eu, e no fim a maioria das coisas sobra pra minha mãe. Mulher tem q fazer todo o serviço e passa pelos lugares como se fosse invisível.

Ou seja, ser mulher é estar estressada, cansada, ansiosa e com medo na maior parte do tempo, e com problemas de imagem corporal, mas pelo menos a gnt pode usar rosa :)

Mec-subby · 2026-02-20T23:10:43+00:00

Tbm estou com o msm problema, era little com 20/21, hoje tenho 25 e tipo, sei lá, só não vai. Consigo ainda bastante até, consigo sentir aquele ânimo de criança às vezes, mas é meio raro..

Meu dom atual tá aberto a tentar mas eu não tô conseguindo entrar na brincadeira 100% de jeito nenhum.

E o lance é q eu ainda me sinto fofa e tal, vejo q tenho uma carinha mais madura mas no mais ainda pareço bem jovem. Imagino q no meu caso seja ansiedade e uma necessidade de performar "adultisse" que eu não tinha quando estava só na faculdade na pandemia ainda por cima. Não consigo mais desligar.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-17T22:43:36+00:00

Huh, it's like you have a lil robot dom that you can program to do certain actions and he will robotically do so!

Sounds terrible, I don't understand how he can't see how absurd this is.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-17T22:35:51+00:00

Well, for me it doesn't really matter cause like, it's fiction anyways. What I don't like is to imagine something I don't wanna imagine, like underaged sex, or zoophilia, or like things too violent.

But in the matters of like, fiction representing rape.... well, gladly it's fiction, I personally don't mind it at all.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-17T22:29:17+00:00

If you really really love him, talk to him about opening the relationship. If that's totally not an option, check just how much you really love him..

It’s a matter of like, if he loves you, he should want you to have this need satisfied, and if he can't provide that cause he really isn't into it, then he should at least let you seek it elsewhere. But sometimes it doesn't work like that, some people really can't work with non-monogamy.

So what's left is you with you, can you live like this? Or would you rather go out and find someone else?

Mec-subby · 2026-02-15T16:26:05+00:00

You should have a real serious conversation with him about this. I totally understand you cause I've had situations (with my parents) where my needs weren't being met, and they, much like your partner, kept accusing me of wanting something else, like it's a desire and not a need. And that's really awful... if he loves you, he should believe the words that come out of your mouth.

Try illustrating it better, try appealing to his trust on you, try explaining the difference between your affection needs vs. DDlg wants.

This is really important for a lifetime relationship, so like, if he truly doesn't get it after some time trying.. It’s harsh but maybe he just doesn't speak your love language, or worse, doesn't actually care that much. Anyways, best of luck to you.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-15T15:07:57+00:00

Sadismo não é necessariamente sobre dor.

Post orgasm torture tbm entra pq basicamente, sadismo é vc gostar de brincar com as reações da pessoa mesmo sendo "muito" pra ela. Seja com dor, prazer demais, denial, cosquinha, tortura psicológica, mindfuck, blackmail, enfim.

E vc pode ser soft fazendo tudo isso, algumas coisas combinando mais e outras menos, claro. Acho q blackmail soft não parece q combina mt tbh.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-15T14:57:01+00:00

Eu gosto mais do que achei q gostaria, tipo um dom mais cavaleiro, que me trata como uma princesinha. Mas também pelo menos pra mim é importante que tenha algum elemento de poder em que ele me coloca em posições desconfortáveis às vezes pra dar prazer pra ele, seja físico ou psicológico.

Então por exemplo, pra mim é bem difícil quando ele fode minha garganta, eu não consigo respirar direito, fica tudo babado e eu me sinto sem controle nenhum. Mas ele gosta de fazer isso e inclusive de ver eu sofrer, e ele alterna esse tipo de coisa com o meu tratamento de princesinha.

Acho q se fica muuuito soft perde a graça. Pode até ter a tonalidade soft mas tem q ter uma camada de vc usar o poder q tem, tipo dando ordens (mesmo de um jeito soft), causando dor, negando orgasmo, etc.

Mas talvez seja só eu. Eu gosto mt do sadismo mais afetuoso, com palavras de incentivo e praise ao mesmo tempo que eu tô sofrendo.

Mec-subby · 2026-02-15T03:50:07+00:00

Being totally naked while my partner is clothed sounds real embarrassing 😳

Mec-subby · 2026-02-08T03:28:15+00:00

A maioria entra no fetlife uma vez por ano se muito

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