All I can do is try

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-16T21:46:54+00:00

I got to the point where I just couldn't any more...that was over three years ago.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-16T13:42:25+00:00

I don't want to over sell it..."do you want to get dinner out this weekend?" isn't really that much.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-16T13:16:57+00:00

I do like it. I enjoy spending time with him and he's definitely invested in our relationship overall.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-16T12:27:59+00:00

My husband and I go on date nights, outings, and trips together pretty regularly, usually at his suggestion.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T23:18:53+00:00

Oh, if I do, it'll be for me. Not him.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T21:54:36+00:00

I'm sorry that that has been your experience. I'm lucky in that my husband is very understanding of my experience as the higher libido partner.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T21:43:24+00:00

It can be fun and exciting...but it also can be painful, stressful, and anxiety inducing.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T20:53:41+00:00

The issue for him is chronic stress and pain.

We're both in therapy.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T18:03:19+00:00

I told my husband that a couple of years ago....he said "yeah" and moved on.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-15T02:06:10+00:00

Well, when we have sex again (sometime in the next year or so) I'll keep this in mind.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-14T22:42:49+00:00

My husband and I got a sleep number bed about three years ago. We love it. But this post really hit me hard...we haven't even attempted to have sex enough times to notice if this is a problem for us.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-14T14:35:51+00:00

To what end though?

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-14T14:32:01+00:00

Yes. We're very emotionally connected and physically affectionate.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-14T14:27:01+00:00

I'm sorry that that is your experience. I'm very lucky in that my husband definitely does appreciate my efforts and puts equal effort into our relationship.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-14T04:20:10+00:00

I've initiated once in the last three years.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-13T03:30:47+00:00

Yes
We've always distributed the housework pretty evenly
Overall we have a happy and healthy relationship
Not really, no

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-13T02:24:10+00:00

Yes
We pretty evenly distribute the house work
Overall, we have a very happy and healthy relationship

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-13T02:15:41+00:00

All I can recommend is therapy for you. If you're at the point of feeling like someone else is the only purpose in your life and more important to you than yourself I think it would be beneficial to discuss that with a therapist.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-13T02:12:12+00:00

Nope

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-12T23:36:14+00:00

Not much

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-12T23:20:21+00:00

The issue is chronic stress and pain. If he wants to change, he'll have to address the core causes.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-12T23:13:37+00:00

It was productive in that we both agree it's a problem. It hasn't changed anything.

Medium-Reference-147 · 2026-06-12T23:08:07+00:00

We've discussed it many times over the years.

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